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refuge123 · 2022-12-25T20:51:37+00:00

I recently came to a womans shelter then got moved into temp. The workers asked me if I want to go to a christmas dinner tonight I agreed and they said that theyd collect me. Theyre uncontactable, no ones phoned/texted and its now Its now 10 to 9. Ive got no other plans. Is it fair to assume ive been forgotten about? ☹

pocketvenuss · 26/12/2022 16:41

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And people think MN is all middle class. Good to see you burst that bubble huh?

ednclouda · 28/12/2022 16:54

Hope there is a decent ending to this @refuge123 god bless and keep strong xxx

BrownEyedGhoul · 02/01/2023 15:23

refuge123 · 25/12/2022 21:05

They all have my number. Anyone could have contacted me. Im struggling to think of an acceptable reason. They know im alone with nothing to do.

Yes but iots a domestic violence refuge on Xmas. It's not really all about you.

It will have been either a simple administrative error like you were meant to be put on a list and weren't. OR, anything could have been going on there that meant all the staff were busy dealing with the kind of crap they have to deal with every day.

Frazzledmummy123 · 02/01/2023 17:12

BrownEyedGhoul · 02/01/2023 15:23

Yes but iots a domestic violence refuge on Xmas. It's not really all about you.

It will have been either a simple administrative error like you were meant to be put on a list and weren't. OR, anything could have been going on there that meant all the staff were busy dealing with the kind of crap they have to deal with every day.

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Easy to be so casual and unempathetic when you weren't in the situation eh!

ilovesushi · 02/01/2023 20:07

That is rubbish! How awful! Wishing you a better 2023 xxx

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 03/01/2023 04:41

@refuge123 what happened in the end OP? Did you get an explanation. Sorry they forgot you

Herejustforthisone · 03/01/2023 08:40

BrownEyedGhoul · 02/01/2023 15:23

Yes but iots a domestic violence refuge on Xmas. It's not really all about you.

It will have been either a simple administrative error like you were meant to be put on a list and weren't. OR, anything could have been going on there that meant all the staff were busy dealing with the kind of crap they have to deal with every day.

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Did you really write this to someone who has been living in a refuge over Christmas?

Tamarindtree · 03/01/2023 12:23

BrownEyedGhoul · 02/01/2023 15:23

Yes but iots a domestic violence refuge on Xmas. It's not really all about you.

It will have been either a simple administrative error like you were meant to be put on a list and weren't. OR, anything could have been going on there that meant all the staff were busy dealing with the kind of crap they have to deal with every day.

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I’ve never been in a refuge but I would imagine if I had, I would be feeling small and insignificant and the offer of a dinner with others at Christmas would go a long way to helping me normal and worthy of other people’s company.

Of course the op would feel anxious, sad and upset at no one contacting her when she had been told someone would contact her about it.

How can you dismiss her feelings when she must already be feeling at rock bottom else she wouldn’t be in a bloody refuge.

Op, I’m really sorry you were let down. It may not have been one persons fault and would not have been a personal slight against you but an oversight caused by miscommunication is most likely.

I know that doesn’t help you but please don’t let it get you down and hold on to the fact that you have been strong and brave in going to the refuge and I wish you every happiness going forward in this new year.

Nchangeagain · 04/01/2023 19:31

@refuge123 I hope you're doing OK.

BrownEyedGhoul · 04/01/2023 23:25

Herejustforthisone · 03/01/2023 08:40

Did you really write this to someone who has been living in a refuge over Christmas?

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No, Didn;t you actually read the OP?

I;ve worked in one over Xmas though.