Remind me it's ok not to get everything on their lists

[Bubblemilk]

DD had a big list of toys this year as ideas for family (around 20 items) and about 3 things for Father Christmas. She'll get about half the family Christmas list and 2 out of three from Father Christmas. I think she'll be happy with the stuff from happy, I've chosen things carefully and with thought. I'm laying here worried that the one toy I haven't bought from Father Christmas will ruin Christmas, as she recently said she was thinking about that you a lot. I can't just go to a shop and buy it and it's a lot of money online. Kicking myself but we're attempting to have a simpler Christmas this year and trying to be mindful about what we bring into our lives. I just hate to disappoint her.

It's best not to imo.

It's not a list of demands - more suggestions

Will she get any Christmas money from relatives? Will the toy be cheaper in the sales?

Simpler Christmas is good. We're cutting down this year (although my DC are too old to believe in Father Christmas, so I don't share your worry) and lots of other people will be too. Your DD will be fine.

It's fine. Don't stress it. Your kid is getting 12 new toys.

I think it's important they don't, otherwise you end up with Verruca Salt "daddy I said I wanted a squirrel!!!!"

Of course you don't get everything on the list, dd gets 1-2 main things from a list that we buy from FC. Sometimes family buy some of the other bits but never all. FC has a lot of people to buy for so he chooses the things that he knows deep down you want and will enjoy the most. It sounds like she has lots of lovely presents.

Gives them something to save up for. My middle one always has huge lists and if there's anything she wants and doesn't get I say she can get it herself. Honestly, I think she prefers to buy it herself!

She'll survive. Probably best to teach kids that they don't always get what they want.

It’s absolutely fine.
But I need to tell myself this too. Because I twitched and bought the two things I was adamant I wasn’t going to buy my kids and then spent yesterday morning looking for a stocking filler toy that dd told me she was going to get in her stocking that she hadn't mentioned to me before (couldn’t find it)

Of course it's fine. My DC are adults so I'm a bit out of touch arguably but I really cannot understand this fretting and pandering to buy children everything they ask for. What are we teaching them if they get everything they want?

It's absolutely fine don't worry x
My youngest only produces her Christmas list on Christmas Eve because she can't decide what she would like 🤣 but like me you know what your child will enjoy x

Imagine the disappointments you are setting them up for in the future if they've always had everything they wanted.

It's impossible to get everything they want. But it's probably best to only give a small present (stocking or something) from Father Christmas and tell them that he brings the presents from you and family members.

I didn’t get everything on my 3 year olds Santa list. One item just doesn’t exist 😆

When I was younger I didn’t get everything on my list and I think it made it even better because I never knew what I was going to get on Christmas morning. Often I only got one present I asked for and the rest were surprises. I can’t remember what gifts I received anymore but I remember the feeling of surprise when I opened them . If I always got what I asked for then there would be no surprise .

It's ok for her to be a little disappointed, if she is just tell her FC can't bring everything on every list and she can always save up for it - or maybe tell her it's a good thing because now you have something to get her for her birthday! If you're upbeat and reassuring that she can cope with this very minor disappointment then she will and it will help build resilience.

I hope my niece isn't actually expecting everything on her list. She's asked for her "own AuntieDickhead" that she doesn't have to share with her siblings. Luckily for the rest of the world I'm a one off!

Every time she mentions it, remind her it's a wish list and Santa has lots of children to buy for, basically lower her expectations.

If she is upset on the day then she can save for it, or maybe get it for birthday.

Not sure how I’d explain all the deliveries/wardrobe stacked with presents if I did this 😃 Although I do like the movie magic of everything appearing under the tree after he comes!

For us he brings the stocking and one or two presents. Everything else is from who it’s from. Less to keep hidden that way.

This was meant to be a reply to @Cantbebotheredwithchores

Since mine has ticked almost the whole smyths catalogue (age 4). They will only get a stocking from father Christmas and a couple of bigger presents from me. Please don't stress they will love what you have bought.

I am dreading the long lists. So far my 3 yearcold makes simple requests- this year she would like a unicorn.

Yup we had the real live unicorn request too. Which was downgraded to a rainbow puppy. Luckily Santa doesn’t bring animals 😂

Work on lowering expectations, it’s a list of ideas for Father Christmas, you don’t get everything!

No my children don’t get everything on their list, and I’m sure she will love what you have got her.

You seem worried about this one gift that she particularly wants - is it something that may be available second hand? If so and you could afford to get it her maybe do that and put one of the other gifts away for her birthday?

My dh is too narcissistic to let Santa take the credit so Santa brings very little in our house.