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Thinking of changing DD's main present...WWYD?

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CoffeeChocolateWine · 05/12/2022 10:53

I've finished my Christmas shopping. It's done and wrapped and we're good to go.

I have 3 DC. My youngest DD is 4. Up until this weekend, there wasn't anything she really wanted for Christmas aside from a unicorn toy which I bought but it wasn't expensive and not a significant part of her budget. The rest of her presents were me taking educated guesses at what she'd love and I'm happy with what I bought for her.

Her biggest present in terms of budget is a Magic Mixie. She has a few of the mini ones and loves them and I've seen her get excited at seeing the big ones on adverts so I thought (and still do think) this will be a winner.

However, we were in a toy shop at the weekend picking out a present for their new baby cousin's first Christmas, and she saw and fell in love, and I mean REALLY fell in love, with an Our Generation doll with a pony set. It was quite hard work pulling her away from it!! So I've immediately earmarked it for a birthday present (not till June). She has an Our Generation doll and my older DD has two which they play with together, and she has a new doll outfit as one of her presents.

But I'm wrestling with whether I should get her this doll she saw. Or do I stand firm with what I've bought? In honesty she hasn't mentioned the OG doll since, but I saw the love in her eyes! It wouldn't be twitching as such as I would probably hold back the magic mixie for birthday so it wouldn't throw out the budgets for my older two DC. The doll is roughly the same price as the mixie.

What would you do?

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Floralnomad · 05/12/2022 10:55

The only issue is if she comes up with something that she really loves for her birthday . How much is it ? a could you afford to up everyone’s budget that amount if that kind of matching matters to you .

MillyMollyManky · 05/12/2022 10:55

I'd get the doll.

MillyMollyManky · 05/12/2022 10:56

Sorry, posted too soon. Can you return the MM? I would do if you can- she may like something else by the time it's her birthday. You can always repurchase the MM.

Backy · 05/12/2022 10:57

I’d get the doll from the toy shop

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CoffeeChocolateWine · 05/12/2022 11:05

Floralnomad · 05/12/2022 10:55

The only issue is if she comes up with something that she really loves for her birthday . How much is it ? a could you afford to up everyone’s budget that amount if that kind of matching matters to you .

Yes, see this is what I'm a bit worried about...by her birthday there might be something else she wants and I'll be stuck with this magic mixie 😆

It's too late to return the MM as I bought it a while ago when it was heavily discounted. The doll is about £70 in the shop although I've seen it online for less. I can't afford to spend another £70 on all my DC though.

Hmmm...

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CoffeeChocolateWine · 05/12/2022 11:08

It's not that the budget matching really matters to me because my older two are 14 and 10 and in honesty I have spent more on them already. But my 4yo already has more gifts than the others, and bigger things because of the age and I'm more worried than another big gift will make it look massively unbalanced.

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Floralnomad · 05/12/2022 11:12

Do you have relatives who buy for them that need ideas ?

cantba · 05/12/2022 11:12

I have an 11 and 14 year old and they would both totally understand that 4 year old presents come in massive boxes and look like more. Get the doll and save the mixie for birthday? Or make the mixie from the siblings?

Floralnomad · 05/12/2022 11:14

Smaller children always have bigger piles , we never price matched with our 2 and the pile sizes did alter for a few years as we have a 6 yr age gap . If the older 2 have the stuff they’d like I would just give it her and not worry about it then .

PuttingDownRoots · 05/12/2022 11:23

Can you just get her an OG horse?

ErrolTheDragon · 05/12/2022 11:27

You're overthinking. Either way she will get one present she enjoys now and another on her birthday.

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CoffeeChocolateWine · 05/12/2022 11:27

Thanks (I think!)

I am swinging to getting it for her (and then working out what to do with the MM!) But... my only hesitation is that, as I said previously, despite being drawn to it (understatement) in the shop, she hasn't actually mentioned the doll since. Do I hold off for a week and see if she mentions it? Could it be that she was just being a kid in a toy shop and getting massively overexcited by all the lovely toys but has now forgotten about it??? 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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CoffeeChocolateWine · 05/12/2022 11:30

ErrolTheDragon · 05/12/2022 11:27

You're overthinking. Either way she will get one present she enjoys now and another on her birthday.

I know!!! I am overthinking. You're right. And I think she'll love the MM (and the other lovely presents she's got)...but her excitement at the doll pulled on my heart and I can't forget it. Even though she may have done!

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Teadrinkingmumofone · 05/12/2022 11:32

Could you sell the original gift for what you paid?

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CoffeeChocolateWine · 05/12/2022 11:32

Floralnomad · 05/12/2022 11:12

Do you have relatives who buy for them that need ideas ?

Not an option unfortunately. Grandparents have bought her something already (it's out of their budget anyway).

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CoffeeChocolateWine · 05/12/2022 11:33

Teadrinkingmumofone · 05/12/2022 11:32

Could you sell the original gift for what you paid?

Might be an option as I did get it for a good price. My heart and my head are having a massive battle right now!

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mac1974 · 05/12/2022 11:37

If you can afford it get the doll. They are brilliant plus you can add to the sets for her birthday/Xmas for the next few years.
Sell on the MM if you decide both are too much. Life's too short. There might be times you can't indulge her so enjoy it whilst you can. X

NoNamesLeft234678 · 05/12/2022 12:10

I'd get both if you can afford it but then my little one is getting 2 big presents and he'll be just under 16 months 🤷‍♀️

ThePurpleFairy · 05/12/2022 12:47

If you can afford both then go for it. The older children will understand (or will need to start learning) that as they get older and want technology/video games etc that these cost a lot of money for quite a small sized item in comparison to what a younger child would get. For example a video game costs upwards of £40 these days and comes in a teeny tiny box. There’s 10 years between my sibling and I and once I reached my teens I was very conscious my mum didn’t have a lot of money and I’d always tell her to buy me less and buy more for my younger sibling who didn’t understand money was tight

Teadrinkingmumofone · 05/12/2022 12:53

CoffeeChocolateWine · 05/12/2022 11:33

Might be an option as I did get it for a good price. My heart and my head are having a massive battle right now!

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Has she done a lis for father Christmas? Could you ask her too? She might have the doll on her list?

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CoffeeChocolateWine · 05/12/2022 14:17

F**k it, done it. Got it for £55 so pretty happy with that. Will decide what to do with MM at another time 😆 The things we do for our DC!

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XelaM · 05/12/2022 14:34

Yay 😀 I hope woulf habe got the doll as well OP but then I'm mental and massively overspend for my daughter 😂

XelaM · 05/12/2022 14:34

I would have got the doll as well*

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CoffeeChocolateWine · 05/12/2022 14:40

If my DH had any idea what was going on with our DC's presents, he would think I've completely lost the plot! But he doesn't, so what he doesn't know... It'll all just look like it was planned to perfection on Christmas Day morning 😂

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mac1974 · 05/12/2022 14:43

Yay. Well done op. I would have done the same and my DH would also give me the eye roll. Have a fabulous Xmas.