Gift for 62 year old lady…

[ChakaKhanfan]

Not my mom but someone I care for deeply.
She is a widow and had breast cancer herself a couple of years ago although (hopefully) fully recovered.

She is wonderful to me and my children and I want to buy her a gift. It’s usually just socks and chocolate but this year I want to treat her a bit more.

She doesn’t really drink, I know she likes to read crime thrillers, she has mentioned a few times about sensitive skin (chemo side affects) not really sure what she watches on TV or whether she has a DVD or not.

Any ideas?
I am rubbish at gift buying!

They always seem to have nice ones at national trust shops☺️
regarding the spa,facial. My friend also had this fear and there are places that have specific treatment for those whose had cancer treatments. She had one herself but I no it was at a hugely expensive place.but they are out there and must be mor than one

www.beautydespitecancer.com/pages/spa-therapist-finder#find-a-therapist-salon-or-spa

Last year I gave 5 lovely women in my life recycled cashmere fingerless gloves from Turtle Doves. They all seemed to really like them! Aged between 35 and 75.

I think the blanket and snood ideas are lovely too.

Well at 62 is not that old !! I’m the same age , so why don’t you book tickets for your both to go to the theatre together to see a nice musical if you live in a city with a good theatre. Or how about taking her for a nice posh afternoon tea. Or how about a spa day out. As others have said cashmere jumper M&S do nice ones, or some silk pjs . I also like candles and diffusers from the white company.

I'm only 52, but can I be your friend? 😉
That's pretty much exactly what I've just asked for my birthday (also neoprene boots)!

@ChakaKhanfan you may find this thread instructive and entertaining.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4644837-terrible-gifts-for-a-middle-aged-or-older-woman?reply=120382148

(But please, for the love of all that’s holy, don’t run the words ‘62 / year / old / lady’ together in a sentence ever again. It’s not cool and it’s not funny.)

I’m 62. Some suggestions:
Room diffuser and some nice oils
www.amazon.co.uk/Essential-Diffusers-Ultrasonic-Humidifier-Aromatherapy/dp/B08SJHH6HP/ref=sr_1_2_sspa?crid=1I6GK1DRUSEZW&keywords=room+diffuser+electric&qid=1667547339&qu=eyJxc2MiOiI2LjM0IiwicXNhIjoiNi4yMCIsInFzcCI6IjUuOTAifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=Room+diff%2Caps%2C80&sr=8-2-spons&psc=1

Nice hand cream www.lizearle.com/christmas/shop-all/X2206.html

A big candle www.amazon.co.uk/96NORTH-Vanilla-Aesthetic-Birthday-Aromatherapy/dp/B08R5Z9LXX/ref=sxin_14_pa_sp_search_thematic_sspa?content-id=amzn1.sym.4f536d4b-790f-478b-a0b0-8bf9a5ad6d45%3Aamzn1.sym.4f536d4b-790f-478b-a0b0-8bf9a5ad6d45&crid=333SG4CKFZLY4&cv_ct_cx=candles+gifts+for+women&keywords=candles+gifts+for+women&pd_rd_i=B08R5Z9LXX&pd_rd_r=0b9284bd-6a59-4744-921d-227925b9380f&pd_rd_w=h5jlD&pd_rd_wg=bQ5Si&pf_rd_p=4f536d4b-790f-478b-a0b0-8bf9a5ad6d45&pf_rd_r=N0VWAVYWEVSYEQPATQ1X&qid=1667547494&qu=eyJxc2MiOiI4LjAxIiwicXNhIjoiNy42OSIsInFzcCI6IjcuNDcifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=Candle%2Caps%2C99&sr=1-2-ad3222ed-9545-4dc8-8dd8-6b2cb5278509-spons&psc=1

Some cosy socks www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1087340644/cosy-sock-gift-box?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=cosy+socks&ref=sr_gallery-1-8

A nice bronzer www.charlottetilbury.com/uk/product/mini-airbrush-flawless-finish-4-deep?istCompanyId=3dfffc45-1529-45a3-a883-dba601d7c955&istFeedId=531587ba-0c6c-4397-a202-a1570efe3443&istItemId=iqlalawqt&istBid=t&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI4-Tsv4OU-wIVFZftCh1bSg9vEAQYASABEgIjPPD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Sorry, I need to say it - why the bloody hell does everything suggested need to be ‘nice’? Why??

Are women in their 60s considered to old for fierce / thrilling / challenging / amazing / hilarious / extravagant ??? Whether in beanies, rum, climbing gear, perfume, flying lessons, whatever.

Missed out an ‘o’ in my fury.

‘too old’ obvs. Though not.

Not trying to be cool or funny. The lady I want to buy a gift for is 62 years of age.

I have realised, despite being really fond of her, I don’t know an awful lot about her likes & hobbies. She doesn’t work, lives alone, has some family in her home country, but no partner or children, has some ill health, so sadly won’t be hiking or wing walking but is lovely and key part of our local community, I wanted to get her something a little more personal than socks or chocolates so came on here to ask for inspiration.
There is only 12 years difference between the two of us, so I certainly don’t see her as old.
The idea of ‘nice’ gifts I guess is about buying something neutral, she could be into BDSM and on only fans, I have no idea.

I wouldn’t honestly bother with ‘something neutral’. Sounds like bog standard blended whisky to a person who likes Islay malt. Or a Pandora bracelet to someone holding out for William Welstead. By 60 one has surely earned the right not to have to wade through a pile of random stuff.

Look, it’s still a while until Christmas. Instead of asking strangers, why not try to get to know her a little. If you’re lucky enough to be invited into her home you may get done clue about what she actually cares about and would appreciate as a gift.

@ChakaKhanfan if you haven't been inside her house, how will you know what colour throw/blanket to buy?
I'm 5 years younger, and whilst I would appreciate the kind thought, I would feel miserable if a throw was completely not a colour I liked in my home. It would feel like a waste...

My dps are early 60s, both got into lego lately, by way of helping their grandchildren, so we got them some sets for themselves, the lego flowers are nice, there's lego wall art. It's something they never thought they would get into but enjoy!

I would be delighted if someone paid for a year’s Tate Gallery membership for me. Or if they said “Look, I’d like to take you to the theatre. Tell me something you’d like to see, and when, and I’ll try to get tickets.”

Oh! Idea! If she doesn’t get out much, how about a National Theatre At Home subscription? You can buy whatever number of months suits your budget - and you could offer to join her at home to watch some of the plays.⭐️

I can highly recommend Weleda. I’ve used their rose facial products and they smell gorgeous and don’t irritate my skin. They have many products made from natural products, a lot grown by themselves.

I’ve also tried their famous skin food that has been endorsed my many celebrities, unfortunately I have sensitive skin and this was just too much for it.

Have a look on their website, there’s some beautiful products to choose from.

Jo Malone has a beautiful Lime, Basil and mandarin scented candle, the smell is amazing, expensive I know, but you can’t beat a good candle.

I got my mum and aunt one of these sort of things one year (there are loads similar so pick and choose and read the reviews) . Went down a storm,

www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1222046623/mystery-choose-your-genre-book-lovers?click_key=14c455e82cd5aba7f30faf8270d41bde7b33992b%3A1222046623&click_sum=951de0c8&ref=shop_home_feat_1&frs=1

If you know she likes crime thrillers she might like a book subscription to crime thrillers for a few months, or tickets to a play like The Mousetrap.

As a late 50s woman with sensitive skin, I'd not appreciate anything wool, cashmere, angora or alpaca as it really irritates my skin.

To be honest, apart from a Waterstones token or chocolate, I can't think what someone who barely knows me could buy me! I realise that's not helpful ...

Book subscription? Online search it, and there will be indie bookshops which will send out a book a month to her - a really nice surprise. You can specify a genre too.

Having had chemo, I'm warm/hot all the time and would hate a blanket 😂 and diffusers are just as nasty as air fresheners... does she have any hobbies? I'd love a voucher for naice yarn/wool or just some posh chocs (when I say posh, the Aldi special collection ones are fine!)

I know. Same sort of age. The punk generation never thought they would become delicate Victorian maiden aunts so soon.

OP, if you're going to get a candle (which might be safe) have a look at Diptyque. I'd take your hand off.

I would like a years subscription to audible! Love listening to audiobooks in bed at night with chamomile tea.

wearing cashmere socks!

room smelling of lavender oil!

How about a kindle?

I thought that too! Madonna is older than that. Deary me. 62 is not old.