What do you buy the person that has everything and wants nothing?

[christmas2022]

This could be a husband, parent, grandparents or friend?

Most adults don't particularly want anything as they but whatever they need.

What's your go to gift for people like this?

Females is perhaps go for a candle, males are harder, slippers perhaps. But both are quite plain gifts so looking for some other ideas.

Not when it happens every year. It’s a waste of money and landfill. I’ve been bought stuff, when I’ve said I don’t want anything, and it’s gone straight into the charity bag.
Why should I feel bad because someone else wants to feel good.

but someone will benefit from the charity shop purchase, one would hope

My mother could stock a pub with the amount of such gifts she has received over the decades

It's a waste
It's not wanted
It's rude and puts your wishes as a giver over that of the recipient - it does not show love it shows you care about yourself a lot more than you care about the recipient

Getting upset over pointless gifts isn't an over reaction
It's a natural when someone you thought cared about you shows by their actions they don't

My DP is impossible to buy for, not least because he insists that if he wants something, he can buy it for himself. (Which is true). So I buy him books (but only if it’s something I know he will like/it relates to something we’ve talked about - most recent gift was Icons of Mens Style), or else I bake/cook for him, or buy nice food/ingredients.

As someone with very specific tastes and is also impossible to buy for, my friends know to not bother, and if they do, to include a gift receipt. (The words that a gift is ‘very me’ fill me with horror, because it never, ever is, well, unless I’ve explicitly stated what I want.) But, it’s not really about that, it’s more that the last thing I want is someone wasting money on something I do not like (or want for that matter).

Just give cash in a card.

Please no vouchers, its always for a shop I'd never go to, or one of those really complicated to cash in vouchers.

Specially nice edibles or drinkables. No ‘stuff’ they’re not going to want.

Or how about a food bank shop in their name, so to speak. Give them a list of what you’ve bought, written inside a nice card.

If they're into hot drinks, an Ember smart mug. It's outrageously expensive for a mug, but it can be set to hold drinks at your perfect drinking temperature so if you leave your coffee, it's still perfect when you get back to it.

We do 'wish lists' for adults on my side of the family and our closest friends (who are like family to us). It avoids waste, and means that we can put things on it that we actually would enjoy- I really don't like generic gifts. I'm not being ungrateful- I am allergic to so many scents/ foods/ etc, I don't like how various fabrics feel, I don't wear scarves or gloves, like a PP my dressing gown has lasted years and is still lovely etc. I also don't like stereotypically 'female' gift cards- My PIL have given me a giftcard for a clothes shop for the last 3 years 'because they know that they'll get used' whereas my DH gets an amazon voucher- honestly, I'd rather the amazon voucher but they don't listen when he tells them that, and I get the same clothing voucher again- I still have mine, unused, from last year as it's not a shop I go to. I am always thankful and polite when I open the giftcard, it would be rude not to be, and the same with generic gifts like candles, but it does frustrate me that it's essentially a waste of their time and money because the things will either get passed to a charity shop or not used.
TL:DR? Gift lists are the way to go, and if they really don't want anything, then ask them or someone close to them what their favourite wine/ chocolate/ snack is and get them that as a token gift.

Not a book, a book token. Not an Amazon voucher, a proper book token (you can order them online). In our family it's my default - all the nieces and nephews get a book and a book token. As do the grown ups quite often. And they all seem pleased as I get messages to show me what they chose.

Just agree not to buy anything. Its all so wasteful and however politely received probably not wanted. I have a few unwanted gifts hanging round waiting to go to the the school Christmas tombola where they'll probably hang around someone else's house until the next one. Just stop buying stuff, spend time instead or a nice thoughtful message/sentiment. I find the constant need for 'stuff' just draining, opt out!

If someone asks me what I want for birthday or Christmas and I've nothing in mind then I'd like either:

Vouchers for a favourite restaurant,
Vouchers for the hairdresser or a massage,
Beeswax candles,
Some of my favourite chocolates and marzipan,
Or a box of some of my favourite soaps, shampoo bars, toiletries etc.

Wow this is a fantastic idea - although I'm a bit confused as to why healthy food for a child for one month is £125 but for 3 months is £395

For my dad I normally trawl Etsy for but or garden related stuff.Last year I bought him an RHS book which was half price on Amazon and a biography of Magellan.

The year before a pebble picture of a long failed tit.

If they like wine then you can’t really go
wrong, most people who drink wine will crack a bottle every weekend and it’s nice to not have to buy your own

deliveroo vouchers are good as even if you’re loaded must be quite nice to get a couple of free takeaways

This year I used the simple prints programme and did a photo album for one close family member of their 0 birthday party weekend, another close family member is getting (apart from some money and the usual odds and ends christmas stocking) a really good B & W photo on metal (simple prints again) of her favourite pets that I took that I think is a really good photo. It should be quite large, so suitable for wall mounting when she gets her new home.

Theatre or cinema vouchers.

@christmas2022

buy them a Christmas for someone else via a charity

Was in London yesterday and came across the Choose Love Shop (online too) it's where you buy the gift and it goes to someone who needs it and you give the person you are giving a gift to a bit of paper with it detailed on what you've given. Lots of different options to pick something they would like.

This is a good point. Just agree no gifts and make it easy for both of you.

Handmade gifts from the grandchildren.

Photos from a family goto shoot you can now get photo tiles, or magnets for the fridge with photos on. Very easy to do and nice. My grannies both love this!

I got my granny's 87+92) a celebratory Queen Elizabeth coin from the royal mint. They do loads of themed coins so that's another option for different age groups.

Yeh but my granny does this and she bloody loves getting presents.

It depends who says it and what they really meam

A plant either for the garden or a houseplant.

Just stop buying. We just give a token gift now, bottle of wine, nice biscuits for cheese. Nothing that will be wasted or re-gifted.

A framed artwork? Not an original, just a print, and something small, say 12" x 8"