Presents left discarded for days

[RacoonRocket]

The pile of presents that SIL opened on Xmas day are still laying strewn where they were opened on Xmas day, untouched. I just can't get my head around the lack of care or organisation.
All my presents are sorted into a neat pile as they are opened, and then put into a bag or stored out of the way.
After 24h of her books, biscuits etc being stood on by excited children, I broke... and pushed them all together out of the way under the tree. They are still there, and clearly won't be moved until SIL leaves. AIBU to think people should take a bit more responsibility and care for their gifts?

@ImmutableSexQueen

OP, I mean this kindly but... you sound like a pain in the arse!

yes

My gifts are still strewn across my living room floor, however were I to be staying at somebody else's home, I'd have packed them up and moved them to the room I was staying in.

Mine went away last night, we’re put in a pile at the side of the room though. DC’s are still under tree if not in use. I like to leave them out to appreciate for a while.
Would definitely tidy them up in someone else’s house though if everyone else had.

Stick them in a carrier bag or two and tidy them out of the way, if it is pissing you off that much.

I find it strangely sad to read about people having already taken down the tree and the decorations though. It's only Tuesday, it's a bank holiday, why not relax and enjoy the festive season?

This would drive me nuts. We put presents away straight away. I can’t stand the mess of having piles of stuff lying around. We don’t have small children or guests to it’s easy to do that. We’ve also taken the tree down today, cleaned and are back to normal. I love Christmas but I love when it’s over too.

This thread is giving me the jitters!

What do you mean you have still have presents everywhere, it is now the 28th of December - 3 days later and there is still junk, tat and clutter everywhere??
I don't think you are a pain in the a* op, I could not cope with this level of mayhem and disorder in my house past 1pm on Christmas Day much less days and days later...

They are not strewn where they were opened if you pushed them under the tree on Boxing Day. She probably thinks you’re happy with them where they are, given that you put them there.

Wow people are harsh, everyone is different. This would have been me for a long time. I hate that people have the attitude that the presents are not appreciated or cared about if not beautifully tidied away immediately, some people like myself are just not naturally super tidy. It drives me as mad as anyone else and I’m trying hard to understand it and to change. I actually have a thing where I almost forget things exist if I put them away too quickly so actually they are much more likely to be used and appreciated if left out. If you look at Clutterbug I’m what she calls a butterfly and I need to have things where I can see them - there are ways to be organised as a butterfly but traditional organising systems don’t usually work and it’s very difficult if you’re not in your own house.

If it was annoying people I’d happily move them (if someone asked me nicely to do so rather than screaming at me for being a messy pig etc) but things being left out doesn’t mean they’re not appreciated or cared about, in fact it’s the exact opposite as I’ve explained. Everyone is not exactly like you.

@Fairylights25

The fact this is annoying you so much probably means it is time for her to pack and leave before you get the bin bags out

You are deserve a medal for putting it up with it for this long! My tree and presents and every last scrap of Christmas is already in the attic, thank you notes now being written!

Time for her to go home

I find that a bit sad to be honest.

We are still enjoying Christmas. Today is a bank holiday, we are curled up in front of the fire, chilling, reading, playing with presents.

It is the first day we have had without anyone else, and we are enjoying it.

Tree stays up until after new year at least.

We each have one of those IKEA collapsible fabric cubes. Presents get put in them before lunch on Christmas Day so they don't get trodden on and everyone knows where their stuff is. I'll help the kids find places in their rooms for new things tomorrow.

@Fairylights25 God that's sad. Sorry. But my kids still have their toys out and we are loving Christmas. 1pm Christmas day? Nonsense.

We all have decorated cardboard boxes for out presents for this very reason.
^I like to keep my presents in one place for a while for easier gloating and admiring ❤️😍fgrin*

this is a thing?

@reallyworriedjobhunter

We each have one of those IKEA collapsible fabric cubes. Presents get put in them before lunch on Christmas Day so they don't get trodden on and everyone knows where their stuff is. I'll help the kids find places in their rooms for new things tomorrow.

Also genius.

We do "move your stack to your bedroom before the big brunch" except for things that get played with downstairs (video games, board games etc) because we did once have vouchers get caught up in the wrapping paper rubbish. Not so much tidy (HA!) as recognising our failings.

I'd nudge them out of the way but not get het up about it. She can't put them properly "away" because she's not at her own house.

That is really very rude

My DC's gifts are still in living room. Eldest's in a box as smaller in size, youngest's in a pile and mine and DH shoved under tree.

I will move them when tree and decs come down.

I leave them out because it's a lot to take in on xmas morning so the week after is to take the time to properly look at everything, take toys out of boxes and just enjoy playing. Nothing is getting trampled on.

I am like this - but I also have attention deficit disorder and one of the symptoms is being very messy.

Chuck em in a box and tell her to put it in their car.

Honestly chill, it’s only 3 days. DH’s hamper still in the living room, doesn’t bother me

Put them I her room

Robot hoovers come in handy for this.
I set off my Eufy & people run to save their stuff before he gets there with his brushes of doom.

Wow, the number of very minor things that MNers fret/retch/seethe/jitter/clench about or find sad or disrespectful never ceases to astonish me.

Maybe some people's New Year's Resolution does need to be 'Try and be a bit tidier'. But some other people's definitely needs to be 'Unclench. A bit of mess for a couple of days won't actually kill you'.

Our resents are still in the living room. They’re to be appreciated and absorbed. If we put them away soon as they’re opened we’d never remember what we had. This way I can pick up a book, look at a candle, consider opening a jigsaw or box of chocolate in a slow relaxed way as they take my fancy and catch my eye. Part of the joy of this between time is being surrounded by lovely things.

We don’t put stuff away away so early. But DH and I do take our presents upstairs and pile them neatly/put them in a cardboard box in our room. DS has some of his all tidily piled up in the sitting room, and some scattered on his bedroom or on the dining room table half-assembled (in the case of the big Lego sets). I just don’t want a litter or bits all over the floor where they’ll get lost or broken, and I find it stressful when the sitting room is a mess. We still have the tree and the decs up.

You're being ridiculous. If it is bothering you then gather them up and give them to her. Otherwise don't invite people over if you're going to be so anal

I also think it’s rude to call OP ‘anal’ because she doesn’t want presents all over the floor. Ok, so some posters find it’s not relaxing to have to tidy up after themselves and some posters find a mess stressful. Neither is wrong, per se, but I do think if you’re a guest in someone else’s house at Xmas, you should try to avoid creating extra work or stress for your host.