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Post-Christmas low

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coraka · 28/12/2021 03:18

The joy and anticipation has been carrying me through the past few months. Now it's all over I feel flat and low and tearful.

Anyone else feeling the same and any ideas for getting over this feeling?

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ChristmasTreeBee · 28/12/2021 22:42

Feeling a tad low today.

Doesn’t help I’ve had a text from test and trace apparently I’ve been in contact with covid and need to self isolate for 10 days….bit baffled as I haven’t left the house since Christmas Eve am awaiting the calls to start tomorrow!

House looks like a bomb has hit it but I can’t find any energy to clean it, the kids are a bit low as well was planning a long walk tomorrow to blow away the cobwebs.

I’m also annoyed I’m probably going to have to cancel my NYE plans due to covid issue about - some friends were coming to see us and I’m gutted as it’s been such a long time.

Hugoslavia · 28/12/2021 22:48

I tried to get away after Xmas for the same reason. I am enjoying a stay over looking the ocean and listening to the wind howling and the waves crashing. There is an indoor swimming pool which helps. You should use this time to plan your holidays for the year/any gardening or decorating projects and plan and book your escape for next year. So far it is utter bliss being away from home and doing something entirely different. I really feel like I am on holiday instead of the usual post Xmas malaise!

Hugoslavia · 28/12/2021 22:52

I also focus on small things, which helps. So the next event is Valentine's Day. I don't particularly celebrate it, but by that time there will be daffodils and tulips for sale in the shops. Then it's not long until we get a nice few days to look FWD to again. Tulips always lift me up. I then look FWD to Easter. By then I'm on the home straight and out of Winter.

Dontgetyerknicksinatwist · 28/12/2021 22:53

Me too. I’m worried about next year and what it could bring.

Starkrealityofjanuary · 28/12/2021 23:20

I hate Jan to March, I plan to keep my fairy lights up still when the tree etc comes down, lots of candles and comfy throws. I’m going to embrace early, frosty mornings and walk the dog in nature with dd, 3 more. Load up on books, when I get the chance to read! Lots of films & Netflix. Focus on winter cooking/baking-hearty stews, pies, slow cooker meals. Walks with a flask full of hot chocolate. Sitting with my dd at the table by candlelight having an afternoon story, hot chocolate and biscuit break. Before soon spring will be here, make small plans for the rest of the year/things to look forward to.
I totally get it op and I think with the way things have been last year and the year before in Jan-March, it’s been really hard.

Starkrealityofjanuary · 28/12/2021 23:20

@Dontgetyerknicksinatwist In what way? Covid?

Etinoxaurus · 28/12/2021 23:32

@Borisjohnsonshairbrush

Same.

We came to Thailand for Xmas. And I've spent the entire two weeks worrying but I'm sad about it coming to an end on Saturday too.

I need to be kind to ourselves. At least the days are going to be getting longer xx

So jealous! We’ve been post Christmas and once cor christmas and it was wonderful. How were the tests? Envy
JessesMum777888 · 28/12/2021 23:37

I’m looking forward to going back to work tomorrow ! Xxx

VestaTilley · 28/12/2021 23:56

It’s very much still Christmas. Use this time to catch up on all the TV and films, call relatives you didn’t see, eat all the treats and enjoy the twinkling fairy lights. Play carols, light candles and enjoy Christmas tide.

lovescats3 · 29/12/2021 00:37

Worstxmasever sorry for your loss

lovescats3 · 29/12/2021 00:38

Xmastreebee are you sure that text isn't a scam as you haven't been out ? other posters on other threads mentioned this

wildthingsinthenight · 29/12/2021 00:46

Forgot to add that it is very much still Christmas here. I cling on as long as possible! Still got lots of food and Bailey's

Hastag0417 · 29/12/2021 04:16

Omg, I thought it was just me that this happened to . I get so excited in the build up to Christmas, buying pressies, decorating the tree, lights, food shop to feed an entire country (which we eat, not sure if that’s a that’s actually a good thing) and then by Christmas Day night I really dip in mood, energy and motivation. I’m not sure what I’m actually expecting or why it happens but for the next few weeks I’ll feel totally shit. I feel like ‘Well, that’s it, all done’. We have a great Christmas so I have no idea why I get so so sad and even tearful. I sometimes think it’s because I’ve run round like an headless chicken for the previous 2 months my body/ brain packs in for a few weeks. Usually the the thing to pull me out is booking a holiday so I have something to plan or look forward too again but given the current situation it’s not something I’m rushing into. So this year I’ve been having a nosey at cars and the possibility of a new to me up grade. It’s keeping me occupied for now when I’m feeling overwhelmed. Thanks for the post though I feel better knowing I’m not alone in this.

Essemce · 29/12/2021 04:23

I love Christmas and sad its over but not feeling low about it. Suppose starting a new job this week has helped that feeling. Now to focus on other things.

Juletide · 29/12/2021 08:28

I've always thought how I lucky I am that I just love normal everyday life.

January is great, the days are lengthening and life isn't taken up with other people's expectations. Plus I love a good declutter.

TheVampiresWife · 29/12/2021 08:38

@ChristmasTreeBee

Feeling a tad low today.

Doesn’t help I’ve had a text from test and trace apparently I’ve been in contact with covid and need to self isolate for 10 days….bit baffled as I haven’t left the house since Christmas Eve am awaiting the calls to start tomorrow!

House looks like a bomb has hit it but I can’t find any energy to clean it, the kids are a bit low as well was planning a long walk tomorrow to blow away the cobwebs.

I’m also annoyed I’m probably going to have to cancel my NYE plans due to covid issue about - some friends were coming to see us and I’m gutted as it’s been such a long time.

If you're double jabbed you don't need to isolate. There have been calls like this which turned out to be scams as a PP said.

If you are fully vaccinated I wouldn't cancel plans unless you actually test positive.

Feelingoood · 29/12/2021 08:46

So glad I’m not alone!
I think half the problem is so much focus goes onto the 25 it’s REALLY hard to drag my thinking into the future. Or even plan a day, so we just drift . Dh mate coming today so that’s the push I need to clean up a bit ( again).
I like the tips on here about booking stuff for the future. Dh never likes to and have just realised it stresses me out!

diamondpony80 · 29/12/2021 09:09

I love the build up to Christmas and think I would feel like that if I didn't have anything to look forward to in the new year.

I love the new year too though - this time post Christmas I always spend planning my goals and what I want to do next year. It's a nice quiet, relaxing time that gives me time to think and plan. I'm looking forward to getting started on January 1st!

VillageFete · 29/12/2021 20:06

Love the build up so much and am very sad it’s come to an end. I do believe Christmas is a season though and isn’t over with just yet, but I have felt flat the last couple of days. I always do from the 28th when things wind down.

My 2 close friends who I was seeing tomorrow for a Christmas drink both have Covid, the house is like a bomb site, toys everywhere and i’m so fat and bloated off too much indulgence Xmas Blush

What has helped the last 3 evenings is going for a walk to look at the Christmas lights. I love them and will be gutted when they’re all taken down.

Cam2020 · 30/12/2021 09:25

I can feel the blues just starting to hit. It has been consistently rainy/drizzly/foggy here since Christmas eve. We usually have some nice walks this time of year but this time I just cannot be arsed.

What has helped the last 3 evenings is going for a walk to look at the Christmas lights. I love them and will be gutted when they’re all taken down.

That's a good idea, I've always stopped after Christmas Eve.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 30/12/2021 09:53

I don’t feel it until early January - always a dreary time anyway - but I do find that looking for signs of spring help. The first snowdrops, the first daffodils pushing their way through. I have one showing buds already - I do live in the warmer SE, though.

Lovemusic33 · 30/12/2021 10:38

I bought some wall paper yesterday to give me something to focus on (decorating the living room), I struggle to find things to look forward too after Christmas, I’m not a fan of winter and the fact it hasn’t stopped raining since Christmas isn’t helping. I also applied for a new job 😬.

Piccalino3 · 30/12/2021 11:29

Two things really helping me this year is thinking about how I can carry Christmas with me through the year. Every year I do a lovely album of our December, it's quite involved and time consuming as I like to scrapbook so takes me ages and now I have 2020 and 2021 to do. I also just received a beautiful Bacilla felt wreath to make. Both of these will take me all year to get done and with the wreath if I don't get it done then it just carries on, no pressure. Once the new year gets going I don't feel so sad about christmas ending. It's just bridging that gap for me.

WrappedInRed · 30/12/2021 14:53

I always have this horrible low feeling about 8pm ish on Christmas night. Its really bizzare. I sort of dip then wake on boxing day feeling happy again then dip again until hogmanay 🤔 then from 2nd January always its so hard to pick myself back up. I've always hated January but now my DD's birthday is the end of January which gives me something to focus on.

strugglingwithlife · 30/12/2021 16:14

I'm relieved it's not just me, my mood always drops drastically around Christmas night. Throughout December I'm usually fine, really cheerful, then after Christmas my depression gets worse. I detest NY and January