Eating my Christmas lunch alone, on Mumsnet

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New low.

@PyjamaFan I cannot seem to reply on here by clicking reply or clicking on your name, if that is the correct way to do it? I am being really thick I am sure or my phone is too old maybe. So typed it out instead. I am now on the app at least! Anyways thank you for hugs, I wasn't thinking my comment would get a reply.

@Garysmum thank you x

@Astrak Thanks for kind comment. I got sick (way before Covid). I could no longer work and am now housebound. A lot of reasons to cause a husband to drink I know. I am with a new doctor now who has been through same illness herself and recovered. If I can get better and support myself again, the cats and I will move on. It feels impossible at the moment but one step at a time I guess.

@SheldonesqueTheBstard thank you for sharing and really glad you eventually found peace. Yes I like your name! x

@andysgirl22 so sorry you are going through something similar. Thank you for sharing a bit of your story especially with a stranger like me. I don't even know if what I am experiencing is as bad as what you are going through. I keep looking up things on internet to see what is acceptable in relationships. All his behaviour can be explained by our bad circumstances. Would love to PM if I knew how! Thank you so much, you are so kind x

@RedToothBrush thank you I was thinking what lovely people there are on this site. Reading what you have all been up to today has taken my mind off things for a bit. My New Years resolution will be to try and get back that peaceful home life that I once had as a single gal. x

This year a lot of people are not where they’d like to be

helpful

A lot of reasons to cause a husband to drink I know

Isharesheldon your husband’s drinking is not caused by those reasons. Your husband’s drinking is not your fault in any way whatsoever. Can you go to a al Anon meeting on zoom?
You will find help and support there.

@Andante57 The reason I think it must be because of me, is since I became unwell it seems like everyone (family & friends) got very cross with me and I was removed from their lives. It was eye opening for me. When it seems like everyone is against you, you start to think well it must be my fault then. Thank you for that suggestion. Zoom is something I can do from the house. I did check their website awhile back and I had a lot of ticks on the checklist to confirm that there is an issue. I guess that is pretty obvious but these things are always complicated. Perhaps they will have some advice for me. Thanks again.

@IshareSheldonsBirthday do you have an “invisible illness such as FM or ME? Could that be the reason your family etc has been unsympathetic? With so many people suffering from a similar illness Long COVID-19, I’m hoping that more resources will be put into research.
Meanwhile hang in there for brighter days

@Cindie943811A yes I have these as well as Lyme disease and co-infections and a couple of other health conditions even less understood than the 2 you mentioned! It would be great if they do. Do you have these illnesses too? I will do, thanks.

@IshareSheldonsBirthday I have FM that took years to diagnose and after over 40+ years I have no expectation of getting a cure. I just feel so blessed that my partner and my family and friends are understanding— others and even HCP less so. For me a simple blood pressure test can be excruciatingly painful and even though I explain the position to GPs etc I still get withering responses when I writhe in agony. I think the worse thing though is the periods of overwhelming fatigue and the feeling that the world must think one lazy.
So sorry about the Lyme disease, something I dread. As if you haven’t enough to put up with.
Nee Years’ blessings to you

New Years’ that is!

@Cindie943811A So sorry to hear you have it too. Wow 40+ is a long time. It took me 30 years to get to the bottom of things and I thought that was a long time. It is devastating. I am glad you have a good support network. Some of the FB groups I am a member of say their treatment by family, friends and doctors is worse than the actual illness. I can sympathise because it has opened my eyes to the world I actually live in versus the world I thought I lived in! Yes I totally understand- the fatigue ended my working life. I struggle to get home after a short walk now so rarely go out alone. However I am lucky I can move around my house. Some people are bed bound. I have had only a few days here and there like this. Thank you, wishing you the same also.

Sorry to butt in on your conversations ladies but as someone who also has several medical conditions that are not always well should i say understood by people of you know what i mean i just felt i had to.comment. I just wanted to say that your illness and suffering and the fact it is impacting upon you and your partner/fanily/life is not your fault. It is not appropriate that people blame you or be unsympathetic or make you feel that it is in any way your fault whatsoever at all. I feel so so sorry that you are suffering and going through health struggles and i also feel sorry for your partners/families because they love you and it is hard when someone you love is hurting. It is

@andysgirl22 so sorry to hear you are also having a hard time with your health. I think the problem with me is if anyone was ill or needed help in the past I was the person who did all that. Now I am unable to be that person it seems to have upset everyone. I would really like to believe in your last comment with my family and friends. I still haven't worked out how to PM but would love to hear from you if you ever feel like a chat. I feel like I have over shared already on here (sorry folks), I seem to have lost my internal filter lately! A few months ago I was too shy to say more than a few words on FB...

@IshareSheldonsBirthday

Hi. I thought to PM someone you just need to go to one of their posts and in the line with their nicname there's a section 'message poster' and you can click on that and you're taken to a very easy page to send a message.

I've just proved it by doing that on your last post so I know it works! Didn't send you a message though, but wishing you all the best

@thegreywoman Just found it! Thanks so much. x

[quote IshareSheldonsBirthday]@thegreywoman Just found it! Thanks so much. x[/quote]
My pleasure