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Eating my Christmas lunch alone, on Mumsnet

69 replies

christma · 25/12/2021 14:12

New low.

OP posts:
Deathraystare · 25/12/2021 15:11

You are not alone. I also am on my own. We'll... me and my Covid!

Astrak · 25/12/2021 15:24

Fat Cat and I are having a lovely time, tucked up under two duvets. FC is washing his whiskers and manicuring his claws. We've both had a delicious luncheon and are settling down for a snooze . . .

IshareSheldonsBirthday · 25/12/2021 15:33

You are certainly not alone. Thanks for posting and everyone else too. I woke up to my husband drunk again (I know it is Christmas but it is happening all the time even mowing the lawn!) It went down hill from there. He fell down the stairs and says I pushed him. I didn’t and I am very upset he has accused me of this. If anything he has injured me by bruising my arm earlier in the week when I was upset about family stuff. He has also threatened me in the past by putting his hands around my neck. I wish he would finish the job as I am very ill so cannot leave at the moment. I have no friends or family that care. Was feeling very sorry for myself until I came on here. Thank you so much for showing me lots of other people have unusual Christmas’ too. I don’t feel so alone now. I have my cats and we will watch TV together upstairs in the bedroom.

AdaColeman · 25/12/2021 15:34

Don't think of it as having your lunch alone, think of it as starting a cheese marathon! Wine Wine

CurlyMango · 25/12/2021 15:37

Merry Christmas everyone.

PyjamaFan · 25/12/2021 15:59

@IshareSheldonsBirthday

Sending hugs. That sounds really difficult.

Garysmum · 25/12/2021 16:10

I've just eaten random crap out of the freezer alone and the house is cold. Time for alcohol and treating myself to early heating

Garysmum · 25/12/2021 16:11

@IshareSheldonsBirthday That sounds hard and complex. Sending you hugs

Roundles · 25/12/2021 16:25

Just me, veg curry and all the matrix movies here.

ilovesooty · 25/12/2021 16:35

I've just returned from my lunch out. I had poppadoms and pickle tray, seekh kebabs, lamb kahari, cheese, garlic and coriander naan, egg and spring onion pillau rice, gulab jamun with strawberries and ice cream and a virgin mojito. There was enough to take home for another meal too.

Astrak · 25/12/2021 16:37

Hi ISSB. I'm so sorry that you're having/having a nasty time today.
Are you constructing an escape/safety plan?
You and your cats deserve better than this.
Give us a list of the reasons why you and the cats have to put up with this.
The Mumsnet hive mind will find a way through and support you whilst you're getting away.

ChonkyDonkey · 25/12/2021 16:41

This is my 11th year on my own. Had a very welcome impromptu visit and bracing walk with a friend earlier. My YouView box decided to pack in today so have had to move the furniture about for the TV to reach the aerial cable. Now I'm thinking about making chilli for tomorrow and sticking my 'special' co-op pizza in the oven and cracking open the wine. Already eaten too much chocolate. 🍕🍷🍦🍫

Mummyneedsacoffee · 25/12/2021 16:42

I’m alone too. Cheese and biscuits. It’s depressing

thegreywoman · 25/12/2021 16:47

The rump steak I hoped to cook was too far down the chest freezer to unearth so I had some posh Port of Lancaster Smokehouse Haggis instead with fried onion and a mound of bizarre but nice steamed vegtables and red cabbage with apple... maybe I'll manage to excavate the steak in time for Burns Night* Then I went into a one hour digestive coma Xmas Grin

*Apologies to any Scots on here.

Just had a mug of tea and a dish of almonds and dried apricots so I think hope that's me done for the day.

@IshareSheldonsBirthday Flowers

LifeIsTricky · 25/12/2021 16:50

Same here.

Chunkymenrock · 25/12/2021 16:53

Why a low? I would love that!

HewasH2O · 25/12/2021 16:58

Does it count if DH tested positive for Covid yesterday? I drove DD back to her room at uni to minimise the risk of her catching it. DH is in his man cave upstairs and I'm looking at a 5lb chicken.

thestaffy · 25/12/2021 17:02

Just had first Christmas dinner on my own. It was a takeaway Christmas dinner cooked by a local hotel, served up by me in my house.

I can see a tradition starting........

IncompleteSenten · 25/12/2021 17:13

Flowers I'm sorry. If that's not the Christmas you want it must feel shitty.
Do you have any plans for boxing day or anything?

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 25/12/2021 17:16

You have some fabulous company on MN though OP! I’m not on my own today but it feels like I am.

I’m in pure Cinders mode.

But though nothing is perfect or right, they are fed and watered and I’m having a bit of peace before the pud is requested.

ishareSheldonsbirthday

I’ve been where you are - and I know. From one Shelly name to another? I hope one day you find the peace I did.

I care. 🌻 to brighter days my dear.

To brighter days x

andysgirl22 · 25/12/2021 17:26

Isharesheldonsbirthday I'm sorry i am in a similar situation. Just wanted to say i know its hard and relentless but you do deserve love and happiness and safety. Sorry i don't really know what to say to you other then i am genuinely heartfelt sorry that another woman is going through similar. I understand the threats and everything but please please keep going i promise you there's a happier tomorrow for you one day. We are all here for company and please if you want to chat to someone in a similar situation and want a friend feel free to pm me. I know i don't know you but going through similar i so understand and i so genuinely care. P.s. Sending you happy thoughts and snacks . Ip.p.s. Snuggle down with the kitties just try to get through this moment. I spent last night hiding under bed linen from mine as being threatened. I am only saying this so you will know that i truly do understand and i am not in any way trying to minimise what your going through. Sometimes a day of not too bad attacks and arguments is a win in our situation. BUT you deserve better, safety and happiness. Sorry but i couldn't not reply your post struck a chord of my heart xxx

ISpyCobraKai · 25/12/2021 17:32

I've not had mine yet, not even decided what I want, but I'm alone too, and I won't pretend it's fine because its fucking shitty.
(I'm on FB being fiiiine, fiiiine it's fiine)

IshareSheldonsBirthday · 25/12/2021 19:32

Thanks for hugs. I am new here and am just working out how to reply to the post! I am so glad I found you all here because I had some dark thoughts that don’t belong in my mind on Christmas Day!

RedToothBrush · 25/12/2021 19:55

@IshareSheldonsBirthday

Thanks for hugs. I am new here and am just working out how to reply to the post! I am so glad I found you all here because I had some dark thoughts that don’t belong in my mind on Christmas Day!
MN can be vicious and can have a bit of a reputation. But it also does try and look out for people who just need to know someone is out there and listening. There are good people here. You are allowed dark thoughts even on Christmas Day, especially given your circumstances. You are human. I just hope those moments are as fleeting as possible and today is extra special in its own precious way despite them.
SheldonesqueTheBstard · 25/12/2021 20:00

IshareSheldonsBirthday

Let your dark thoughts be fleeting. There is always light. Even in what seems to be the darkest hours. Sometimes you just have to look harder for it but it is always there.

For today, it’ll be the love in the eyes of your feline guardians and shining.

One day at a time doll. Until you can gather your strength enough to find a happier place.