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DD just found her "santa" presents

180 replies

MrsMerryMent · 18/12/2021 11:01

I only have myself to blame but help me salvage this Sad

Dd is 5 and very very excited for christmas

We dont have alot of money this year I managed to get 2 playsets of a type of toy she likes on marketplace brand new in boxes and my plan was build them up and they would be sitting out 'from santa'

Picked them up this week been very busy and hid them in a cupboard in a room she never goes in...well somehow curiousity overcame her and shes found them!!!

Santa should have been making them ib his workhouse!!!

How do i resolve.... buy new gifts from santa and those ones she found are from me!?

My own fault and I probably feel disproportionatly sad about this Sad at least she is getting nice gifts but have i spoilt the magic...(yes...)

Dont know what i am looking for help me feel better!!!!

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shivbo2014 · 18/12/2021 12:35

Can't they just be presents from you and give her something else from santa?

HollyandIvyandAllThingsYule · 18/12/2021 12:38

True there’s no reason why you can’t just swap them round and maybe Santa can bring another lovely surprise instead.

mogschristmascalamity · 18/12/2021 12:38

Presents from you, small bits from Santa. The santa list is just a wish list and family often choose things from it as santa cant always provide everything.

DockOTheBay · 18/12/2021 12:39

Don't make it in to a covid thing. Kids don't need to be worrying or thinking about that sort of thing.

My daughter is 5 and would definitely question any sort of fob off like they were sent early to be checked - the whole point is they're delivered on xmas eve.

I would wrap those from you and get £5-10 worth of bits and bobs in her stocking from santa instead. Things like chocolate coins, cute bubble bath, a book, a sheet of stickers, colouring pens and print out some sheets to colour. Charity shops or bm bargains are good for that sort of thing. Don't worry it will still be magical to her.

Lalliella · 18/12/2021 12:47

You’re just waiting for the elves to take them to Santa to deliver. Sounds implausible? I used to believe this nonsense when I was a kid! It was what our parents told us.

FinallyHere · 18/12/2021 13:09

Or you could go the route that when parents realise their children are getting old enough to understand that Santa is about the joy of giving, they the parents continue to buy presents for their DC.

And focus on who DD is going to give to, cue for a clear out of old toys to local less advantaged children

Beamur · 18/12/2021 13:09

Santa delivered them early so you could make them up. They'd break in a sack...
We've always done stockings as smaller inexpensive gifts. When DD was small I bought Father Christmas themed items - water bottles, socks, plus some sweets. Everything else was from family or friends.

megletthesecond · 18/12/2021 13:11

Say that because she's been so good this year Santa sent them early.

Merryoldgoat · 18/12/2021 13:18

@AnotherMansCause

Same here - I like the Santa fun but it’s not healthy for them to think Santa magically supplies bucket loads of gifts.

CactusLemonSpice · 18/12/2021 13:32

I would do this

CactusLemonSpice · 18/12/2021 13:34

Sorry, quote failed! I'd give her chocolate and a little toy from Santa (or a stocking) and the main gifts from you. Makes it easier in future years too if you don't want the pressure of santa being able to magic all the most expensive gifts!

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MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 18/12/2021 13:38

We only do small stocking gifts from Santa and everything else is from the person who bought it-helps with thank yous.

KarmaViolet · 18/12/2021 13:44

@Arghlife

I would give them from you. Santa doesn't bring big gifts, and buy some other little things to give from santa
This is what we do. Santa brings chocolate coins, little lip balms, sugar mice, and a couple of little toys like a yoyo or fun stationery. "Proper" presents are from us.
Ohhhthepain · 18/12/2021 13:49

Mine always had stocking and 1 tree gift from Santa so agree with others that this works. It also means that on years you don’t have many funds you can explain to children that presents will be less that year with out the Santa issue.

needmoreshinys · 18/12/2021 13:50

"Santa built two and couldn't decide which one to give to you, so sent me them so I could choose"

On Christmas Day (if she questions anything)
"You must have been so good this year, that he decided to give you both"

Or you could do what I did

Those are for your cousins

Mrsmch123 · 18/12/2021 14:37

I would say Santa sent it to you to check that it was the right one??then it was sent back and he can deliver it on Xmas. She will problem forget that she saw it tbh with the excitement of Xmas day. I defo wouldn't do the Santa only brings the stocking, he brings everything in our house.

ragdoll700 · 18/12/2021 15:42

My daughter at that age saw the doll house Santa was bringing we told her it was her cousins and we just wanted to check it would fit in the playroom before Santa brought it

Poorenough · 18/12/2021 15:49

I've no experience with five year olds so forgive me if she's too old for this "trick" but dd saw her present this year, we told her that was just the empty box that Santa was coming to get to put her present in, he'd Ran out for boxes. Worked perfectly but she's only 3.

Lacedwithgrace · 18/12/2021 16:07

Santa ran out of wrapping paper so he sent it to you early and he'll collect it tomorrow. Put it under the tree with her, then make it disappear when she's asleep. It worked when DD was 6 and found her doll's house in my dressing room.

Newnameobviously · 18/12/2021 16:10

Just bluff it out. Santa wanted you to sure they were the right things or wanted you to store them to make room on the sleigh.

Children are smart -smart enough to know when to believe ridiculous things to keep the magic alive!

And don't worry about it. Handle this right and it will be a funny story when she is older.

SocialConnection · 18/12/2021 16:19

The big things from you.

The little things are from Santa.

I read this as advice from a mum asking people to stop telling children the big thing's from Santa because the lower income family childen couldn't understand and thought they'd been bad compared to the children with more lavish gifts. It's harder to understand why one child gets more from the magical source than another child.

JimCarreysMask · 18/12/2021 16:42

The best thing to keep the magic would be to get those from you and something else from Santa

thedefinitionofmadness · 18/12/2021 16:45

honestly - future proof santa - choccy coins, satsuma little treats and surprises
main gifts from real people

ChristmasRobins · 18/12/2021 16:50

Get a few other little bits from Santa and give her those presents from you. Honestly, you’ll make life far simpler if you can avoid elaborate stories about Santa delivering things and taking them back then delivering them again or whatever. I think any child would smell a rat at that.