Dp won't join in, bah humbug

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Does anyone have a miserable Dp who won't join in with the rest of the family and wear a Christmas jumper? The children and I always love to wear our Christmas jumpers and Pj's but boring dp won't join in. Be lovely to get a photo of us all in our Christmas jumpers. can anyone sympathise. I know they are tacky but it's just a bit of fun at Xmas.

His choice.

I never buy into these things because it’s just another run on a commercial ladder. Let him wear what he likes.

I’m with your H on this. Men in Xmas jumpers or pyjamas look daft. So do grown women, but men look particularly ridiculous. I expect you want to put it on social media where he can be laughed at by his family and mates. And it’s a waste of money. Bah humbug.

Oh no, sympathies with your DP - jumpers or elf on the shelf photos are just a naff No. (But also sneaky sympathies with you cos sometimes it’s nice to do things like that).

No, I don't do any social media other than mumsnet. but I do love family piccys just for us to look back on. I couldn't stand my photo being all over SM I can be quite private and like to keep my children's lives private to. that's what I love about mumsnet is that is anonymous and hope that never changes.

never done elf on the shelf, can't be bothered with that! or Christmas eve boxes.

Oh I feel for you op! Personally I love all the matching pj's, jumpers etc. My dh wasn't a fan at first but then felt like he was missing out when me and the kids were the same so now he joins in. Hopefully he'll come round

I might have had an absolute smidgen of sympathy until you said about taking a photo of the family. It reminds me too much of tacky American photos (apologies yo any Americans) I'm firmly on your DP's side now. Sorry.

I buy DS a Christmas jumper for Christmas jumper day at school and that's it. He's going to wear last year's this year and then that's it as they don't do it in secondary school. He'll probably sleep in it afterwards as he's so attached to it.

Well it's up to him.

I have disproportionately strong feelings about Xmas jumpers

When did they become a thing here? Last 10 years? Never used to be. Just not a concept even in circulation.

And I would turn a blind eye except for

Assume it's to do with getting badly knitted/ garish knitwear from relatives in past. Yes it happened a lot. I mean decades ago. When I was young still a thing that happened in 80s.

So this presumably is a joke about that? But things from your aunt/.granny took a lot of time and effort and were given with love. I think taking the piss out of all that effort and given with love is shitty. Unless it's not what it came from. What else though?

And now hand knitted gifts are much less common. They are bought. For hardly any wear? New one next year? What a waste.

And and and

They're not fucking funny. My work does it every year and all these middle aged rotund men with 'hilarious' jumpers and look! It's got flashing lights!

Yes I am joyless when it comes to this. And way more annoyed than is reasonable!

Having said that.

If you married a Christmas jumper type person then that's on you.

And vice versa OP that's your personality he should have known and therefore should join in.

Maybe ask him why.
If he says concerned about textiles industry fast fashion etc. Maybe say ok.
If it's because he doesn't want to look silly. Then that's no way getting him out of it.

How old are kids? Can you get them to apply pressure? Obvious ott acting. Pleeese! I thought you loved me! Do it for mum she says if she doesn't see you in the purple sparkly jumper with a pair of Xmas puds where breasts are, then you are not the man she married..

If they are old enough and your family has a sense of humour and do silly dramatics in general!

I'm with him. I'd never wear a Christmas jumper 😂

Personally I'm not keen on Christmas jumpers because I can never find a design I like. I think it's the sort of thing that is best being hand made as a gift, and i dread to think what sort of monstrosity I would create if I tried my hand at knitting one so I choose not to wear them.

However, I do think it's a bit mean of your DH not to throw one on for Christmas for a few minutes so you can take a nice photo, if it's clearly so important to you and the DC. That is edging over into Scrooge territory...

Get him a nice plain red or green jumper so he still looks good in photos but he doesn't have to wear a Christmas jumper.

I'm with your husband on this.
Don't "get" him anything to wear so he looks good in a photo.
He isn't 3 years old.

I mean, I find the whole C’mas jumpers, and even worse - matching pjs - bizarre.

I think all you can do is explain it means a lot to you - and ask one last time. He did marry you as a PP said.. but if he won’t, he won’t.

Lovely for children, daft for adults. #teamDH

Ah... reminds me of the irn bru xmas jumper advert from a while back...that was very funny.

Jumpers fine but matching pyjamas..just no. I am embarrassed when colleagues show me pictures with their dh in his Christmas Pj's. A sight l have no desire to see.
Agree with getting a plain green or red jumper that blends into picture.

Hate Christmas jumpers, they're usually nasty acrylic or polyester. Environmentally unfriendly tat.

Forget about matchy-matchy photos and focus on actually being with your family.
#teamDH

I’m with your other half
I do love a Christmas jumper (but worry about the environmental impact of them luckily my size doesn’t change so I’ve had the same ones for about 10 years now) but this matching pjs trend is just naff

Will he wear a simple Santa hat for the sake of a photo?

Blimey, he's not a prop.
He's a person with his own likes and dislikes!

He is completely right.

DP refuses to wear a Christmas jumper (as do I ) but he is up to a Christmas Hawaiian shirt. Maybe try one of those?

I don't think he's boring, I hate the whole matching jumper/pj thing.

It's so twee and cringey.