age stop buying for nieces/nephews

[jjinny]

Do people stop buying for nieces and nephews at 21, after full-time education or when, please?

I'm 38 and my Aunts stil buy token presents at Christmas.

DP has a very large family and they have never bought presents for nieces/nephews.

18 here as i have sooo many of them

why not just get them a bottle of wine each, token pressie?

Don't know but I still buy for mine at age 13 and 16 - Although the presents are getting smaller

16 here! have large family and would cost me thousands for all neices and nephews!

16

My aunts stopped when I was 21 and I remember feeling a little hurt. My niece is 21 soon and I don't like the thought of her going without when I'm still buying for the rest of the family. My husb stopped buying his at 21 and I wholeheartedly agreed with that! My niece is at college for a couple of years. The bottle of wine's a good idea.

My aunts/uncles stopped when I had my first child, but then I was 21

21 here. That was a unilateral decision but relations have gone along with it, although I agree it is a bit hard for the older ones to only get a card when the rest get money - extra hard in our house because 3 of them have birthdays within 2 weeks and the cards tend to arrive in a bunch.

I only have one uncle (age 86)- and he only has 3 neice/nephews (me and dbs) - he still buys for us. He is well off, very practical, and extremely generous, doesn't do frills though - same thing every year - £50 John Lewis token in a card that literally says "Jack" and nothing else. it's very much appreciated and I always write to tell him what it got spent on. he also buys for dds and my dbs' kids - again nothing fancy - he asks (usually sometime in October) what they would like and often asks me to get it. but again, I think it's great that he does it.

I think it all depends on resources and how many neices/nephews and how close they are. for a student 21 year old I'd be tempted to go for something nice from lush or Body Shop etc. It's the kind of thing that's a bit of a personal treat that you don;t spend money on when you're a skint student. wine, on the other hand, you tend to find money for the cheap stuff and you tend not to care enough about quality to bother with the good stuff. or was that just me...

In an average family on average income, the age is generally 16.

DH's family has quite a few, and they've always been told, clearly, that when they get to 16 that's the last of it.

For people on pensions, even a fiver is a lot of money when you've got twenty-odd nieces/nephews and great nieces/nephews.

i feel quite bad as i forgot my neice's birthday this week she was 19. i haven't seen her for ages because my sister is too lazy to visit my dad as she lives quite a way away.

I'll be one of those mad old bints still sending interesting books and probably sugared almonds when my nieces and nephews are in their 40s.

Or sticky pineapple chunks...you're giving me some cheap ideas!

I only have two aunties. They both stopped giving my money/presents when I was about 12.

But oh my! When I was eight, my father's sister sent me a book entitled 'Victorian Parlour Poetry.'

Weird, you might think, but totally inspired. I loved it then and I love it now.

I would like to be like JV if I ever become an Aunt (ever decreasing possibility). I would rather send gifts than money, and the whackier the better.

18th was the last birthday for us.

Bone of contention though because then the BILs stopped buying for ours who were considerably younger, even though we bought for theirs before we had children

Perhaps I should agree something with my DB and SIL.

I think my aunties stopped buying for me when I had the DCs, now they buy for them instead!

My nephew and nieces are aged between 26 & 34 - only 2 of them have children, and I think all 4 of them earn more than we do now so I don't feel too bad about stopping pressies at 21.

I am loving buying gifts for the next generation - little children are so much easier and more fun to buy for, and don't really appreciate money! (I'm not yet very successful at getting them there on time though...)

We still get presents albeit token presents from both sets of aunties, uncles & first cousins and we're 36 & 38! (Hasten to add that we do see them on Xmas Day or Boxing Day)

Am 36 and my aunts still buy dh and I a joint Christmas present, am ashamed that I don't get them anything but do try to buy something generous if ever we go for lunch etc. They have just agreed with my mum that they will stop buying my sister and I birthday presents and just buy our dc.

My aunty and uncles stop buying xmas and birthday presents for us all when we were 16 apart from then special birthdays 1.e 18 , 21st's

I am buying on DH's behalf for his 6 nieces.The youngest is 18, the older ones are about 26 now. I have only met 2 of them at DD's christening nine years ago and that was very fleetingly.

Every year I think how ridiculous the situation is but keep on sticking the presents in the post.