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Do you receive a christmas stocking?

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HelebethH · 27/11/2020 19:26

Just that really. As a family we do a secret santa for the five adults but I still do a christmas stocking for my DH, 2xDD and SIL. Last time I had one I was about 9 years old , Thats 51 years ago! This year I have been musing over the fact that it would be lovely just once to have a stocking as a nice surprise. I know it won't happen and I do get a lot of pleasure choosing thoughtful little stocking fillers for everyone, . Just wondering if I am being silly.

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LisaLemon · 27/11/2020 20:09

Can you ask your DH to do one for you? What would he say if he knew it was something you'd really like?

What would be in your stocking?

SausageRoll2020 · 27/11/2020 20:15

My husband and I do them for each other every year, they are great fun.

We even take them into the bedroom on Christmas Eve so that we can unwrap them in bed Christmas morning.

I don't think you are being silly at all, mention to your husband that you'd really like one, it doesn't seem fair that you do them for others but don't get to join in the fun.

ginsparkles · 27/11/2020 20:17

We all have one here, DD, DH, DM and me. We all shop for each other, DD included, she is 8 and is now Santa's helper, she helps choose, wrap and stuff the grown ups stocking so that Santa can focus on the children's ones.

ShedFace · 27/11/2020 20:19

No but I’d love one too! Hope you get yours this year op!

YesILikeItToo · 27/11/2020 20:22

I usually do, but I’m on my own with dd for the first time this year, and I’m a bit uncertain whether I should make one for myself, due not wanting to feel sacked by Father Christmas?

LadyCatStark · 27/11/2020 20:24

We don’t have them as adults but I can’t believe your DH is happy to accept one from you every year and not bother to do the same for you!

LadyCatStark · 27/11/2020 20:25

Also what you your DDs think about everyone getting a stocking but you??

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HelebethH · 27/11/2020 20:27

Unfortunatly although very good in many ways my dh has no imagination when choosing gifts. He needs to be given a list of things to make a choice from!!!! I think i will ask for one from him and see what he comes up with, I suppose I feel that I shouldn not have to ask and it would just be thoughtful . However, as we are in a childcare bubble with my daughter I am getting xmas dinner cooked for me this year, something, I am really looking forward to

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HelebethH · 27/11/2020 20:33

Have already bought the stocking fillers for this year, Think next year I may not do them and wait and see if anyone comments .

Pl6

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Disorganisedfish · 27/11/2020 21:34

I always had one then split from ex and had no one to make one for me. When Ds was 4 he was gutted - inconsolable - because I didn’t have a stocking and he thought I had been naughty. My mum had to hash one up and say it had been delivered to the wrong house! Now she does one for me every year (I always did her one anyway!)

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HelebethH · 27/11/2020 21:35

How lovely of your mum

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KittenCalledBob · 27/11/2020 21:35

Only kids get them in our house.

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HelebethH · 27/11/2020 21:46

Grrrrr he really doesn't get it.
I have just said to him that it would be lovely to get a christmas stocking this year to which he replied that he noticed I never have one, ( i can only assume he forgot to ask the christmas fairy) and he is happy to do one for me if I want one. What would I like him to put in it?
I have replied that I would like him to put a bit of thought and effort into it , and failing that to ask our daughters !!!!!!!!!

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PersonaNonGarter · 27/11/2020 21:49

I’ve always had one. My DH does mine but previously my family would do it. I now do all the stockings but my own.

You should explain to your DH why it is important and give him a link a thread about the types of things that go in.

AlwaysLatte · 27/11/2020 21:50

We do one for everyone in the house on Christmas Eve, my DH and I fill all the others together then we do secret ones for each other.

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HelebethH · 27/11/2020 21:55

In all honesty I didn't think it was that important to me until tonight when I was sorting through the christmas gifts. I suppose I am just feeling a bit under appreciated as like a lot of women I do 99% of christmas. However, I have decided that this year things will be different.

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HelebethH · 27/11/2020 21:58

Thanks for everyone who has commented on this thread. Some very sensible mumsnetters out there with good advice.

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christinarossetti19 · 27/11/2020 22:01

I used to do 99% of Christmas and have gradually withdrawn my labour.

I get the children's presents and anything for my family, but leave everything for his family to him.

This has meant that no-one his side of the family has received a card some years and that his mum's present has been an Amazon voucher sent on Xmas day, but I'm past feeling guilty about it.

It's been very liberating actually.

But no I don't get a stocking, and don't want one in all honesty. But I don't do one for my husband either and never have due to there generally being too much stuff in the world that I don't want in my house.

CrownAddict · 27/11/2020 22:06

It is a bit sad when something like that stops OP. My ex and I made small ones for each other and I'm now.a single.parent so make them for kids and Elderly parent but noone makes for me. Those flashes of feeling forgotten/uncared for are normal and reasonable whatever age we are, given what damned hard work this all is, making things lovely for everyone else.

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HelebethH · 27/11/2020 22:08

Bring on libeeration!!!!! I am certainly taking a leaf out of your book Christinarossetti19. We have both recently retired and I intend to enjoy retirement as much as him. Fair division of labour is the way forward.

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HelebethH · 27/11/2020 22:12

As a single mum it must be hard enough CrownAddict. I hope you buy yourself a treat.

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CherryPavlova · 27/11/2020 22:13

I’ve always done stockings for everyone that’s staying. My husband has always done the ‘big’ presents and my stocking.
This year only one daughter is staying because the others have work commitments but apparently they still want their stockings.
Now I’m thinking I cannot hand over their stockings and not give one to their partners.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 27/11/2020 22:13

Dh and I always do one for each other, just little things. I had to train him into it though - his folks had never done it.
My folks always did.

Everyone staying in this house on Christmas Eve gets a stocking, even if it’s just half a nice new pair of socks, with the other and a few other bits stuffed inside.

FestiveChristmasLights · 27/11/2020 22:13

I hope you enjoy your stocking gifts when you unwrap them.

DH and I always do stockings for each other but they are usually fairly heavy on chocolate.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 27/11/2020 22:16

No, I don't, but my 32 year old sister does (still lives chez parents) - apparently my marriage ended that particular obligation. DS20 has two - one at home and one at my parents' - and says he will never be too old for a stocking. I think I've been mugged off. I left home at 18 but DS has never lived with them and still gets one...

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