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Does anyone just feel like not doing christmas this year?

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Doublebubblebubble · 22/11/2020 17:09

Thats a bit hyperbolic but im hating online shopping. I dont feel christmassy. I feel meh. I want to go out to the shops but I'm also terrified to go to the shops. My mum has cancer. Im her carer so it isnt as easy for me to go out. Im hoping all of my amazon purchases come in time.

Do we need to do this this year lol? Can we please have this year off? Anyone else feel this way?

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TheUnquestionedAnswer · 22/11/2020 17:14

It's coming around far too quickly for me. It's the not knowing that is making me a bit of a grinch. Will I be able to see dear old mother in her care home 300 miles away, where the rates are sky high. Our rates are going up here now so would it be sensible to travel to see her even if I can. Pants x 1000

timeforanewstart · 22/11/2020 17:16

Not really in frame of mind no

Bluewavescrashing · 22/11/2020 17:19

It's going to be a bit meh. No santa visits, shopping trips, festive afternoon tea etc. I've finished my shopping online so DCs won't be without. It's going to be a long winter.

MsTSwift · 22/11/2020 17:19

Agree

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Doublebubblebubble · 22/11/2020 18:27

@TheUnquestionedAnswer

It's coming around far too quickly for me. It's the not knowing that is making me a bit of a grinch. Will I be able to see dear old mother in her care home 300 miles away, where the rates are sky high. Our rates are going up here now so would it be sensible to travel to see her even if I can. Pants x 1000
This year has just been a blur. Normally i start xmas shopping in the january sales but its just been awful from start to finish so I havent bothered.

My stupid side kind of wished that the government had said that Santa had to social distance too so that we could have this year off, or at least postponed.

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Doublebubblebubble · 22/11/2020 18:28

I have gone to take my children to see santa every year for nearly 11 years! I get a snowglobe each time. I guess it is up to dh to dress up lol

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catlovingdoctor · 22/11/2020 18:32

Cannot be arsed at all. Covid is actually secondary to it. I feel very lonely and isolated this year. I cannot bear to see the ideas of festivities, romantic couples and happy families broadcast everywhere.

igotdemons · 22/11/2020 18:37

I feel like it every year to be honest, I’m finding the older I get the more boring I find it! 🥱 I only join in to humour my DMum because she loves being surrounded by everyone at Christmas. When she is no longer here I’ve said to my DH I’d like to make it a new tradition and go away somewhere every year instead.

This year is something else entirely though so 💐 for everyone struggling with the idea of celebrating Christmas.

crimsonlake · 22/11/2020 18:41

Feel the same, I have 2 son's who live away, one working abroad and I wonder if either will make it home. Meaning I will be on my own, but worse so will they. How do you even begin to prepare for something that might not happen?
All these people putting up their trees in November drive me crazy.

FrangipaniBlue · 22/11/2020 18:45

Me.

I'm normally like the Christmas fairy and my tree would be up if not today then next weekend, but honestly I cannot muster the enthusiasm!!

For me Christmas isn't just one day, it's all the run up - going to our local town lights switch on, wander round the Christmas markets with a mulled wine, work Christmas party, night out with my girlfriends, Christmas night out with DH, school carol service..... NONE of this is happening this year.

Add to that I lost my dad in April so don't even have any of my own family to visit and DH is too old to believe in Santa and do any of the magical make believe stuff so it is literally going round to the in-laws (maybe?!) on Christmas Day. That's it.

TBH I'd rather just skip to January without any fuss Confused

Thirtyrock39 · 22/11/2020 18:50

I was very selfishly really looking forward to a quiet christmas- just us, less of the faff (no work do, no village market, no kids club parties etc) I'm a bit miffed that we are now going to have to possibly offend one set of relatives , host etc

linerforlife · 22/11/2020 19:02

It's my DDs first Christmas so it should be really special... but I just feel flat about it all and quite down. I know she won't remember it, but it's a pretty miserable time to have been born isn't it.

Littlemissnutcracker · 22/11/2020 19:06

I havebt left the house all weekend except for grocery shopping as we can't go anywhere (still in lockdown) am going through the motions and have my shopping done but its all so crap. Sad

PerditaNitt · 22/11/2020 19:08

Wouldn’t it be great if Boris Johnson announced tomorrow that Christmas is postponed until 31 Jan, and that we get another 2 days of bank holidays. The most vulnerable could get the vaccine first and we would be able to see our loved ones without fear of passing on covid. Plus we would all get to keep our decorations up for another month. Smile

Totally understand everyone who doesn’t feel Christmassy this year, it is definitely an odd year all around. Our Diwali celebrations last week were very subdued

ArabellaPilkington · 22/11/2020 19:14

I'm not a big fan of the shops but doing all the shopping online is just fucking weird and joyless

No party, no pub on Christmas Eve, no NYE with friends - but allowed to see some family and piss off the ones you don't choose

Joyless nightmare

I shall just get shitfaced I think

GloGirl · 22/11/2020 19:16

Christmas is my season, but not this year.

If we return to normal next year it will be Christmas x 1000.

This year can get in the bin.

LindaEllen · 22/11/2020 19:23

It's weird, but since the first lockdown in March, time has gone in a bit of a blur to me, and I find it astonishing that we're almost at the end of November. I just can't believe we're here already!

Me and DP are spending Christmas alone this year, so no family, no build up, no proper gift shopping.

The whole thing is depressing me. I don't want to be upbeat and pretend things are all great - I just don't want to do it.

Every time I hear a Christmas song on the radio, it reminds me of childhood Christmases and it makes me want to cry, because I just keep thinking of me and DP sitting in the house on our own on Christmas Day, with no family, and it breaks my heart.

TokyoSushi · 22/11/2020 19:30

Nope not keen this year, all my favourite bits, we can't do... Christmas light switch on, school disco, Christmas fairs, Christmas markets, girls night out, couples night out, school mums night out, families & kids massive gathering at somebody's house, new years eve with friends, etc etc etc

Yes I can sit round at my Mum & Dad's and we can see MIL (I'm an only, no siblings) but that's really not the bit I look forward to 😒

Furball · 22/11/2020 19:33

I feel the same - we had planned to go away this year, but thats a distant dream.

I think I will do a christmas turkey lunch (for 3 Confused very sadly my dad died (not covid) in june ) and that is only because I do like eating it. Grin So much so I will probably do it for boxing day too, cold turkey with just cooked fresh veg and roasties,

but thats me lot, hardly any gifts and no stockings for DH and I this year, it was bad enough buying 'all that crap' anyway so we decided to knock it on the head, sad really, my parents did stockings for each other for 60 years, - but they are a chore and it's only full of stuff that you use anyway so no loss really.

Its shite - I'm hoping to have a few family games, but can only hope the TV is upto more than it was last year.

Holothane · 22/11/2020 19:45

We’re not bothering with the tv this year, dr who and call the midwife that’s it the rest is crap, we’re lucky we cosy up but I do feel for all of you especially the no Christmas carols, markets and church.

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Doublebubblebubble · 22/11/2020 19:50

@GloGirl

Christmas is my season, but not this year.

If we return to normal next year it will be Christmas x 1000.

This year can get in the bin.

This!!!! Omg. I literally cant wait for them to give me the vaccine. Im not keen on needles but im keen for that one. Christmas 2021 is going to be a rager!
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Doublebubblebubble · 22/11/2020 19:52

I heard the "coca cola holidays are coming" advert just now and felt nothing. "Is it?"

I still havent heard mariah but I'm sure I'll feel nothing about that too.

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Bedsheets4knickers · 22/11/2020 19:52

Agreed just really can not be arsed this year .

Rupertpenrysmistress · 22/11/2020 21:50

Totally agree, I absolutely love Xmas but just feel so deflated. Like others have said it's the build up I am missing,the light switch on, the bustling shops,sitting in a cafe as it gets dark looking at the lights. I just cannot see how it will be vaguely festive. I don't know how to make it feel better. I normally work Christmas but am off this year. Really not bothered.

Maybe we should come up with some suggestions to make the most of Xmas in lockdown?

Saz12 · 22/11/2020 22:06

Like everyone else, I’m heartily sick of being stuck at home.

My in-laws have decided they don’t want to see us over Christmas as worried about corona - they’re about 4 hour drive away, and we’ve always made an effort to see them over Christmas until now. They’re early 70’s, no particular health issues.

Annoyingly they phoned me to tell me, not their son (my DH).

So it’ll be just us 3, very quiet, in the same 4 bloody walls I’m already sick of, with no real festive treats / fun.