How much do you spend on your DC

[whattodo2019]

How much do you spend on their stocking?
How much on presents?

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Just been on another post where the discussion is around handbags and posters are quite happy to pay 1k for one and lots seem to own more than one. There is no way I would buy a bag for this price. Don't think I have ever had one over 50e. But I will quite happily and easily spend this on a child for Xmas. People spend their money how they wish and there is nothing inherently wrong with spending money on a child. Just because people spend a lot it doesn't mean the child is lacking in some other department. If it doesn't matter that you spend 50e on a child and the child can still enjoy Christmas and feel loved and special then it shouldn't matter if you spend 1k and the child also feels loved and special. Either the amount you spend on them matters or doesn't but if it doesn't matter then that works both ways.

@MysweetAudrina I do find a lot of time if you spend a lot there seems to be assumptions that we don’t have family time at Xmas which of course isn’t true, we still have a nice dinner, play games , sing and dance.

@whattodo2019 completely. I have hosted Christmas for the last 20 years. My parents, the 5 kids and my eldest ds's Dad. He has spent Christmas Day with us for the last 27 years. My eldest loves this about Christmas and he and my dh get on really well ( once I make sure that dh's plate is bigger than his lol) We then host dh's mother and sister for a few days and always travel to see an Aunt of mine and have dinner with her. I take 2 weeks off work and so does dh so lots of walks and nice food and neither of us drink over the period so everything we do is very child focused. I just love picking up stuff for them and stashing it away and wrapping it all Xmas eve for them to open in the morning. They have always been allowed to ask for one specific thing and the rest are surprises. This year it's the escooters which dh has saved for and bought for them and then I get them all the other stuff. I save 40e a week throughout the year as does dh and then we spend the lot.

@iamtheoneandonlyyy

Someone will be along with that bloody rhyme soon.

I don't know, it's more based on size and amounts to open as mine are young so you can get some big things for not very much. Got one main present second hand and saved 80 quid I was well happy

11 pages in and it still hasn't been said. I've been waiting for it.

I never really count what I spend. It honestly varies every year.

This year I have spent alot more because we have been better off financially.

Ds has easily had around 700£ spent on him (new xbox being a big chunk of it)

Stockings really aren't much, although everyones interpretation of what's in a stocking is different. Ours is just small gifts like new bobbles or a pot of slime for dd and some sweets. Prob costing no more than 10-15£

£50, but only as he is only 2 and doesn't really 'need' anything. As long as someone isn't plunging themselves into debt to provide a mountain of presents then I always find it odd why others are so judgemental.

I feel deprived as I don’t know the rhyme

I save 40e a week throughout the year as does dh and then we spend the lot.

So just over 4000e, we don't earn enough to put that into savings for each dc plus spend that on them & still have holidays, days out etc.

@laxxy but we do. We save similar a week for holidays and also save for their college fund and keep back enough disposal income for days out etc.. We are both in stable, well paying, established full time employment and have no debt other than our mortgage and this is how we spend our money. There is no pressure on us to spend this amount but we get a kick out of it too so it's as much for us as it is for the kids. I think in general Irish people spend more on Christmas so it's pretty normal in terms of what their friends get also.

Oh I assumed that, it was more directed at others on this thread who say they feel bad. Most people aren't able to put away 20k plus into a savings fund & shouldn't feel bad about it.

I do agree that in Ireland it's a bigger thing (republican parents).

Around £100 plus £30 for stocking I think. They are only 4 and 7 I imagine it will be more as they get older?

The stuff in his stocking and a few bits under the tree have come to about £100.

His main present is going to be an iPad so that'll be another £300 or so.

I also put money back each week but only £20 (so £2000per year) I also use this money for days/weekends away. I probably spend around £1000 on Christmas not including food, we don’t really go all out on food, probably just a extra £20 on what we normally spend.

I have spent under £50 (baby and 1 year old), and as much as £500 (£380 on bike and £120 on other bits and bobs). No fixed budget. I don't like buying excessive amounts though. It's only one day.

We don't set a budget, just buy the things that they want or that we think they'd like. DD is getting a £300 bike this year, DS's main present was only £50.
Usually one big thing, a few medium things and lots of small things. I don't buy tat for the sake of it. They're great kids, we can afford it and I love giving them things.

@Oysterbabe exactly the same for us. Ds1 is getting a bike, youngest is getting some much cheaper, but it’s what he asked for.

Overall we don’t get that many gifts for them, usually one from us, one from Santa and a stocking.

Someone will be along with that bloody rhyme soon

Hope not, hate that rhyme. A gift should be something the person wants and will enjoy. Not a need or essential.

There is definitely a huge spending difference between young children and teenagers. My eldest teen has asked for books and artist stuff so they come in at 300 the other actually needs a device for school so that alone is 380 then what they really want is a new phone which in fairness is my old knackered phone.
So they will come in at around 800 but I can afford it as I save all year round. Stockings here come in about 15 each and are bulked out with a magazine and tubes of Pringles on top of the usual socks. This years star stocking present is a pair of scissors each as they disappear with mine
When they were little I could easily do it for 100 each as I woulda buy toys in the winter/ summer sales. In fact about half of their gifts now are bought around July obviously things that I know they will still need/want.

Kids have had £600 Each this year because we needed a new iPad Works out about £200 each stocking wise, £200 each under the tree and £400 for shared presents of an iPad and a toy kitchen.

Definitely spent more this year because we had a bit of spare cash mid October and got things then. Other years its been about £400 per child

The thread is really rather as pointless S how much did you spend on a house. You'll get a range from under 100k to 5million or more in London. All of those people will be on Mumsnet.

@Feministicon

I feel deprived as I don’t know the rhyme

Something you want, Something to wear Something to read Something you need.

Or something like that, but define wear and need?
Wear, could be expensive, dress up clothes, designer clothes or sports clothing.

Need, iPad for school, or expensive instruments to keep progressing are they a need or a want? I believe children should have access to a bike.

So the rhyme is a lot of nonsense and completely open to interpretation.

Around £150 each, plus £20 stocking. Ages 18, 13, 11, we haven't spent more as they've got older because they're also old enough to understand why we have a budget.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

Someone will be along with that bloody rhyme soon

Hope not, hate that rhyme. A gift should be something the person wants and will enjoy. Not a need or essential.

I agree

a 'need' (and clothing is also a 'need') is a parental responsability, theres nothing cheaper or crapper than wrapping up your basic responsabilities as a 'gift' your children should be 'grateful' for.

No child needs to be grateful for the gift of NOT being neglected.

Also as a person who suffers Dyslexia a book especially as a child when I was at my lowest and feeling terrible about falling behind my peers was not really a gift but rather would have been a cruel reminder of my daily struggle.

I'm surprised how so many seem to spend a lot more on one child than another. I could never do that and they always have the equal amount spent on them for Christmas, birthdays and any extras throughout the year