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" old fashioned Christmas "

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Allhallowseve · 11/10/2020 07:21

So it looks like Christmas this year may be a simpler affair . I am in a high risk area and not allowed to visit others houses currently and anticipate it going on for a while.
I usually put quite a lot of pressure on myself to make Christmas perfect , trips to Santa , shows etc while the kids are young enough to enjoy it . However this year with things being slightly different I really want to embrace a simpler "old fashioned Christmas" which I am certain were just as wonderful.
I was 4 in the 80s but my memories of Christmas were , the excitement of visiting a department store in town and seeing all the toys . The multicoloured fairy lights on the tree. My nans sherry trifle . My favourite gift and to be honest the only one I can really remember was a hand me down talking doll I loved it!
I was hoping you might share some of your memories from Christmas past to inspire me. It feels quite nice in a way to take a year off and just enjoy the little things this year.

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IdblowJonSnow · 12/10/2020 09:31

Putting up the tree and lying under it looking at the coloured lights and feeling it was magical.
My mum was all about the presents, it was a bit overwhelming for a small child.
I remember looking out the window one xmas eve and I saw santas sleigh and his reindeer. Not sure what I'd been on!!

IdblowJonSnow · 12/10/2020 09:32

We decorate the house and have a real tree and stockings and stuff.
Might make more effort around food this year. I'll miss Carols in the park and going to theatre etc.

IdblowJonSnow · 12/10/2020 09:33

Will be blooming zooming this year I guess!

Aponcetasticchristmastoall · 12/10/2020 11:15

I have recommended this on another post but Gillian Monks A Merry Midwinter is full of love and inspiration for celebrating Christmas in a traditional way, lots of seasonal recipes, memoirs and ideas to bring Christmas back to what it’s about...

I absolutely love it and dip in and out from now to Christmas.

My memories are similar to a lot of pp’s, Christmas’s filled with family, love and anticipation and I agree that it’s now harder to drum up the same excitement for the coming treats, surprises and luxuries as there isn’t the stark contrast we had as a generation between the rest of the year and the festive season. However i do try to hold onto the essence of the magic I had growing up.

Christmas is quite long now, part of the excitement for us as kids was it was contained into such a short couple of weeks (which in my personal opinion made it even more special and sacred) I remember as a child the wait till the tree went up, the school Christmas fair, the first spotted Santa and of course the most magical day Christmas Eve as almost unbearable but so worth the wait for the wondrous time it was. I try my hardest with my own DC to slow down the build up, though it’s not easy in today’s society.

We do however make a fuss of seasonal celebrations, spiced orange cake after school on St Clements Day, Christmas cake/pudding made on “Stir it up” Sunday. I also start to add in more crafts and we go for walks to collect acorns and old sticks to dry out and hang advent treats on or decorate with holly.

One of the big changes I think between now and Christmas’s gone by is we have lost the process that went into every aspect of Christmas and therefore there isn’t the same deep rooted traditions or memories made. There wasn’t winter wonderlands or German Markets or Santa’s breakfasts when I was young and even if there had of been we never would have gone as my parents couldn’t have afforded it. Our magic came from the bits that most people buy now, rush to get done, or skip past, the card making, the 1st batch of mince meat pies, going out to pick up the tree, our grandparents box of wrapped presents arriving on the mail train and standing at the platform waiting to pick it up. My parents took every one of those ordinary activities and turned them into something so special and memorable that I still feel the nostalgic prickle on the back of my neck when I think about them.

Putting up the Christmas tree for example and the box of mis matched treasures that came down from the loft, the smell of the tinsel that has lasted the ages and left its sparkly strands everywhere and the wet tree that had been left to stand outside to encourage to open up. The homemade mincemeat pies and brandy butter and the thimble full of Sherry we were all allowed in our Granny’s old treasured glasses with the constant crackle of the LP player throughout Kings choir.

There was no perfection, It wasn’t about making it look better than it was, there wasn’t colour schemes or expensive decorations that children weren’t allowed to touch. There was nowhere to post pictures or a means to compare what you did or didn’t have it was just pure love from coming together and doing something wonderful at the same time every year and second to Christmas Eve the most magical day in the run up to Santa coming.

We have more disposable cash than my folks did but I really try hard not to forget what made all these memories so special and emotive and it really wasn’t to do with how much that was spent.

JuliaJohnston · 12/10/2020 11:23

What a fabulous post, Aponcetasticchristmas...
A Merry Midwinter is now in my Amazon basket Smile

Aponcetasticchristmastoall · 12/10/2020 14:30

@JuliaJohnston you won’t regret it!!!

TheSeedsOfADream · 12/10/2020 14:56

I've just bought it too! And must get back to the Poncetastic thread!
I think what's interesting is that our Christmasses past were full on and extravagant but in a different way. Another thing I remember is my Mum getting up at the crack of dawn on Christmas Eve to go to M&S in the next town for Canary Island tomatoes. Because you could only get awful white woody inside ones otherwise. Such efforts.

XiCi · 12/10/2020 15:23

We still get the rotary club Father Christmas coming down our road I wonder if they will still do it this year
I still get so excited when the rotary float comes round. I swear it's the same music and float from when I was a little girl Grin. I really hope they have it this year, it makes my Christmas!

Crispsginchoc · 12/10/2020 17:08

Loved your post Aponcetasticchristmastoall Thanks for the Merry Midwinter recommendation, it’s now in my Amazon basket too. It sounds similar to Nigel Slater’s Christmas Chronicles Smile

inappropriateraspberry · 12/10/2020 18:39

An 80s child again. I think part of the magic is being at primary school, and the build up there. Christmas cards delivered round the classes, making decorations and putting on the nativity. Being able to change into your party clothes at school and Father Christmas visiting. Carol concerts and general excitement between children. I don't think anything matches all that. And going through the Argos catalogue and wishing for Tiny Tears and Barbies!
We never put up the tree or decorated until we'd finished school, and I remember my mum telling me that when she was small, they'd come down Xmas morning to a tree, decorations and presents. So magical! Although a much simpler, poorer time as well (post war), she has great memories. It's the magic of people that make it, not the big trips and flashy stuff.

inappropriateraspberry · 12/10/2020 18:41

We don't get a rotary club Santa in our village, but I'm trying to convince my dad to dress up and walk around, especially as many of us may not get to see F. C!

missyB1 · 12/10/2020 20:17

I was reminded today of the net stockings containing chocolate and sweets that were popular when I was a kid - before selection boxes. I saw a jigsaw puzzle in Waitrose today that is of sweets and chocolate bars from back then. I think I'm going to have to buy it!

OverTheRainbowLiesOz · 12/10/2020 21:36

Our presents tended to be home made or second hand but it didn't matter as a lot of thought went into them. My Dad made a wonderful doll's house out of old shop counters!

I spent hours helping Dad put up Christmas cards around the room on string. They made really colourful cheap Christmas decorations.

inappropriateraspberry · 12/10/2020 21:40

We had cards hanging on strips of crepe paper down the walls!

MasksGlovesSoapScrubs · 12/10/2020 22:10

I'm a sucker for OTT houses that are decorated like the Blackpool illuminations.
We go on little drives to find different areas and houses not too far out and when we find them park up and go and look at them all. My parents did this when we were small and I loved it. Still do!
We've also started to do the wonderland walk in our local garden centre. It's well known for it and it's honestly like stepping into Narnia!

wasgoingmadinthecountry · 12/10/2020 22:38

My Christmases as an only child/vicar's daughter weren't the most fun ever. I remember years when dad and mum (psychiatric social worker) went off to do the rounds of the large hospital where they worked leaving me alone, or with the random relatives who were stuck with us. Once we had lunch in the canteen to save them cooking!!

The real start of Christmas for me was when our county youth orchestra played our Christmas concert at Preston Guild Hall the first Sunday in December.

I try to make sure my children have more fun at Christmas than I ever did even though not 1,2 and 3 are grown up and live away from home.

ZaraCarmichaelshighheels · 12/10/2020 23:00

This sums up my childhood Christmas, the Blue Peter advent crown! More commonly known as the tinsel fire hazard coat hanger, but I remember feeling so excited when they lit the candles, the anticipation of the big day, happy times.

" old fashioned Christmas "
Wishihadanalgorithm · 12/10/2020 23:29

FrancisCross was it the sleigh ride in the Co Op in Coventry you used to Go on? My DD went on that the other year as it had moved to the motor museum. It really hasn’t changed!

UndertheCedartree · 13/10/2020 09:37

They used to have one of those sleigh rides at the big department store in my town. It closed many years ago now. And I agree it was not the background moving it was definitely the sleigh taking you to FC's grotto! So magical!

BiddyPop · 13/10/2020 10:56

From just after the 80s (as I started this when I hit 16), I have a personal tradition of having some time one quiet evening - with only the tree lights on (maybe there is a fire lighting or a couple of candles as well, but no harsh lights), lying on the floor under the tree with a nice drink (it started with a cheeky Jack Daniels when I was 16 - but isn't always alcohol) and thinking about the year that is coming to an end and planning ahead for the new year - just some quiet and peaceful contemplative time. And lying on the floor gives a different perspective.

As DCs in the 80s, there were always those gold lame chains on the ceiling. Since I had my own DD, I have a tradition of giving her a shoebox in early December filled with different coloured strips of paper and a DC-friendly scissors and roll of tape. So she can start and stop at her own pace when she needs distraction for a few minutes at a time to make paper chains - the 10 minutes while I was cooking dinner, when she was bored on Saturday afternoon for an hour, etc - and by the time we decorated close to Christmas, she tended to have long chains for the hall ceiling and sometimes her room as well.

Sharing an annual between the 6 of us DCs, being allowed a biscuit from the single tin that would arrive into the house, and the real treat of fresh fruit all of our own!! (Santa always brought each person about 5 or 6 pieces of fruit - a red apple, green apple (nice granny smiths), orange, satsuma, banana and something like a kiwi or peach or plum etc - 1 DC got a pineapple one year!! But as normally there was a box of golden delicious apples and no other fruit, this was HUGE for us all - some ate theirs on Christmas Day, others rationed theirs over the whole holidays and sometimes there was war if 1 greedy guts raided another person's carefully hoarded stash....).

Santa also brought each person a different 1lb box of sweets - which was also a huge treat in our house.

We normally had milk or water to drink (squash just disappeared far too fast between 6). But at Christmas, DF would go to cash and carry and come home with about 4/5 slabs of cans of fizzy drinks. When the slabs were only available in cash and carry's - not like now when they are in normal supermarkets. But there would be a choice of fizzy drinks over the holidays - and everyone would be allowed a can for dinner a few different nights, and we'd also get a can for the Christmas present opening (and DF had mixers for visiting adults). We tend to buy cans ourselves, as we drink so little fizzy stuff that it was going flat in bottles, but it can be nice for everyone to have their own choice.

Making orange pomanders with cloves to hang.

Helping DM to stir the pudding and everyone making a wish.

The difficulty in finding quiet hidey-holes to work on making presents for DSiblings and DParents, and wrapping them in secret without others seeing them. So lots of secrets and shushing and "can't come in here" shouts etc...getting especially frantic once school holidays came (and there were 6 different people trying to do it - or 4 trying to do it and 2 smallest people looking for playmates....).

The Christmas Party for DCs of DF's work - in the local social club, with a DJ and the old fashioned disco lights that were just coloured bulbs and real vinyl, everyone got a drink and bag of crisps, Santa (in a cotton wool beard and red dressing gown) came and everyone got to meet him behind a black bin bag curtain hiding the space around the snooker table, then more dancing - and then another 3 hours once it was all over while we'd help clean up torn paper/empty crisps packets etc and get another drink (a 2l bottle and load of "shorts" glasses to share with whatever other DCs were abandoned by their DPs still in the bar chatting - it was the same DCs we'd see twice a year, at Santa party and summer sports day), then run around in the dark on the soccer pitch!!

Actually sitting down at the kitchen table to write letters to Santa. On paper, with neatest writing, and not being greedy. All 6 together (so older having to help younger ones until they were good enough at writing). And then all letters going up the chimney together (no fire that night in mid-December, and again on Christmas Eve).

JuliaJohnston · 13/10/2020 13:24

Oh, Biddy, I love your post too. So evocative...

Ignacious · 13/10/2020 14:12

I was born in 1959, so my Christmas memories will probably be different than most on MN.
I remember our DM wouldn’t let me and my brother downstairs to open our presents until she’d made the fire - we stood shivering on the stairs from excitement and cold.
One year DM won a huge turkey in a raffle. She wasn’t a great cook and by dinner time the turkey still wasn’t fully cooked, so she just sliced pieces off the breast which looked cooked, plated that up and shoved the remainder back in the oven. We survived 🤮
NYE we each put a slipper behind the front door and in the morning it would be filled with a satsuma and a box of Lindt animal chocolates.
Every year the Salvation Army brass band would visit all the local streets playing then holding a collection - that was incredibly popular.
Christmas shopping and eating roasted chestnuts bought from a street vendor.
Crackers had decent gifts in them - Wade Whimsies.
Always received a jigsaw, then spent the rest of the holiday completing it.

Kirstos1 · 13/10/2020 16:49

My memerges of Christmas as a child (born in 1980):

  • Every year dad saying Margaret Thatcher had cancelled Christmas 😈 but every year it happening anyway!
  • the smell of the turkey cooking in the morning while we were playing with presents
  • phoning relatives at about 9am to tell them what santa had brought
  • the radio times
  • being allowed one chocolate off the tree per day
  • those foil decorations (like you see in pubs) criss crossing across the ceiling and falling down multiple times every year
  • a totally mismatched tree including one tiny decoration of a present that every year me and my sister used to guess what was inside it
  • a lumpy stocking at the bottom of the bed containing matey bubble bath, hair clips, colouring books etc. No memory of other presents really
  • all taking turns to open our presents with everyone getting the chance to hand them out
  • sandwiches and homemade chips on boxing day

My fave though - that smokey smell in the air that you only get at that time of year and you knew Christmas was coming 😊

Kirstos1 · 13/10/2020 16:51

Memories not memerges!

CeramicGuineaPig · 13/10/2020 17:03

I was five in 1980. My memories are of bringing the cardboard boxes with the decorations in down from the loft probably around 20 December. The crepe paper that you had to unroll and twist, and then hang from one corner of the ceiling to the other, and later the more gaudy foil decorations that concertina-ed out.
Going out in the car with my Dad and sisters and a sheaf of cards to deliver to individual houses, listening to a tape of Christmas music.
My mum making sausage rolls and mince pies in case people dropped by, which they did often.
The Milk Tray box, where we all deliberated for ages over which chocolate to have.
Working around the family, so Christmas lasted at least a week - at one set of cousins Xmas day, another set to us Boxing Day, visiting grandparents the day after, great aunt the day after that...
The special party dresses, usually velvet pinafores over elaborate blouses, while the mums wore shiny jade or pink blouses with a belt round the middle and blue eye make up.

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