DS changed his list after we've finished!

[theatrenerd31]

Writing ds's list tonight with him to send to Royal Mail and he's added a new Lego set to the top of his list. A £50 Lego set to be exact, so not a cheap toy.

We're already wrapped and ready, all gifts are done so that we can spend December on experiences (and the money on food!)

We could stretch to get it, but it would be stretching, and ds's been told that he isn't guaranteed everything on his list and it's late to add toys on as the elves will now be wrapping things!

We had it last year too with something he announced on Christmas Eve. He didn't get it and has talked about it all year (so it's on this year's list). I'm wary about ending up with something else to be talked at about all year!

I'm tempted to get him a voucher for the Lego store for £10-20 and leave a note saying he didn't have time but has sent a contribution towards it.

Is this a bit naff? What would others do? I'd be less wobbly about it were it not too if his list and the thing he's announced that he wants more than any other 🤦🏼‍♀️

In short, I'm an idiot and won't be doing this again next year!
You’re not an idiot at all. Like a PP said, he could have changed his mind at 7pm on Christmas Eve. Or you might have waited for the list and found the things are all sold out.
It’s just a juggly thing that we try to do our best at and blame the elves when it doesn’t quite work out

You might need to get his list written earlier next year OP. We always do lists in early to mid-November and once they are written that is what has been asked for! My children are 4 & 6, but if they mention anything now, we say that unfortunately they shave already posted their letters. If it’s something small or we haven’t finished, we might get it, or ask a relative to, but it is less likely than if it is on the list.

Honestly, I would just get it. Sell some of his old stuff to make some of the money back.

Could you pick up an inexpensive piggy bank and stick a nice label on it saying 'DS's saving fund to buy lego set'. Might be a long shot, but if the suggestion of putting some of his own savings comes from FC it may make sense to him? You could even put off giving the piggy bank to see if he asks about the lego. That way FC acknowledges DS asked for it but you can use the excuse he ran out of space on the sleigh, budget etc.

Honestly I would get him the Lego set - if you can use some birthday money/find it cheaper...

My DS is very literal but no diagnosis and I know how much it means to him writing those letters (he hated writing) he would not think of things earlier

I actively managed it ...but thats for next year.. Santa only bought one big thing here! from the list....

but as this is your over organised error
He loved getting his RM letter back! and PNP - 7yr old great at xmas

I just wanted to say, you are not the only one, OP! I had all my shopping done in November, safe in the knowledge that I knew exactly what DS would put on his list.

Number 1 item is something I wouldn't have guessed in a million years. (Have to confess, I bought it)

Is that AT-ST Raider set from the new movie. I told ds he is not getting any new sets before he has seen the movie.

It is the raider set! I didn't know it was from a new film? I'm useless with Star Wars unfortunately, it just doesn't go in!

Liking the money box idea! I've told him that I heard from other mums that it's too late for new ideas so we'll keep hammering that in and hope it helps but the money box might be a nice touch to add a bit of "magic" to it!

Surely a Christmas Santa list is a wish list not a shopping list?

I can't understand how many people would just buy it or swap something or sell something to buy it.

I wouldn’t get it. It’s a wish list, not everything is guaranteed

My kids get 1 small present + stocking from Santa and then the rest is from us.
It's not fair if children with fewer presents feel neglected by Santa.

Tell him that the letter may not make it in time . I’m sure he’ll love what you did get him .