Homemade vouchers for female DP. Need ideas!

[Inthetropics]

DP and I have decided to exchange homemade coupon booklets this Christmas. Each booklet is to have 20 vouchers. I want to be creative and am in need of some good ideas. DP really needs some cheering up as Dfil has terminal pancreatic cancer and DP is undergoing major surgery due to an ovarian tumor in the next few months so i want to make an extra effort for our Christmas.

If it helps, DP is a 33yo woman, we don´t have children and live in a country where we celebrate Christmas in summer. She loves to cook and is a massive foodie. She also likes cross stitching and has a passion for crafting.

Well, what have you thought of so far?

This comes across a bit like market research tbh, I'm not sure I'd be impressed if my DP went fishing for ideas based on my stats like that. It's very cold and impersonal, I'd hope he would know me well enough to think of specific things that I would enjoy.

No idea why this sounds like market reaserach tbh...

I´ve already thought of an italian night with crostinis or caprese salad as a starter, homemade lasagna for main course and a diet cake for dessert (DP is diabetic). There´s also voucher for a coffe at a place she really loves and one for diet milkshake which she loves and i can make at home All things i can think about are food/meal related (something she loves) but i´d like some other stuff too but have no idea what it could be.

DP and I have been together for a very short time (not even a year living together) and are already dealing with some really dificult stuff. I do know her but 20 vouchers is a lot so i´m having a hard time. Feeling very sad now and wondering if i should have posted.

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What about a romance night if that's her thing, candles and massage etc

Do favours for a day- cooking, housework and just let her put her feet up

Date night in the house- board games, munchies and or film etc etc

Think about what you like to do as a couple or what she likes to do on her own.

Do favours for a day- cooking, housework and just let her put her feet up

I think has the potential to go down like a lead balloon.

I had a lump removed from my breast a few years ago and it wasn't a major operation, it took me longer than a day with my feet up to recover and had my husband given me vouchers implying doing some housework for a day so I could put my feet up was his gift to me id genuinely tell him to fuck off.

His dp is having a major operation to remove a tumour and if he's living with her then pulling his weight around the house, esp when she's just had major surgery isn't a gift and I'd be insulted if my husband suggested a day with my feet up was a gift.

Might depend on their dynamic though.

A visit to a salon for nails / facial
A day out to a local landmark she likes
A picnic lunch
A trip to the cinema
A home massage
A huge bubble bath and a glass of wine

Is one of the reasons you've chosen couple's vouchers because of money?

I don't want to suggest things that cost money if so!

Make a face mask
Bubble bath with essential oils and candles
Watch a movie together that she adores but you hate
Visit some sort of craft fair?
Massage
Take a flask of tea and cake to a destination of her choice
Obviously throw in some risque vouchers!

20 is quite a lot!

I think it's a lovely idea op so please don't doubt yourself or for asking on here. I've been with dp for over 15 years and I'm struggling to think of 20 nice things I could do!

A trip to the cinema & or theatre
A day out bowling/ theme park / beach
Perhaps look for a craft course she could do while recovering
A family photo or photo book

It’s a really sweet gift and it gets hard to think of 20 thoughtful and relevant ideas!

I always think the best treats are things we never end up getting for ourselves. Depending on what she enjoys:
A massage/spa day even if it’s a home version
A class either craft/cooking (maybe something you could do together)
Pamper night where you can run a bubble bath with candles, music then after let her pick a film and have snacks ready.
Book voucher and set her up a reading area in the sunshine.
If she’s still recovering from surgery then maybe a non alcoholic cocktail night/class.
Does she like colouring? There’s some great grown up colouring books and you could get some lovely pens.
If you’re feeling brave or she’s particularly kind maybe a ‘slave for a day’ one?!

I know what I’d like - a coupon for 24 hour control of the tv remote!

This is what I'd like:

Clean the oven

Clean my car inside and out

Do all the filing

Sort and get rid of all the obsolete electical/charging cables and recycle old phones, laptops, etc.

Shop for and wrap all the gifts for family for the year ahead (I don't mind paying for them)

Repair the shed roof (or arrange for someone else to do it)

Clear out the garage

Likewise the linen cupboard

Take the tumble dryer to be repaired

Take the cat to the vet

Paint dd's bedroom walls

These are just some of the things that need doing but I don't really want to do so would love vouchers for dh to do them instead.

EAIOU - DP is very romantic and would love a romantic night with candles and massage. Thanks for the sugestion! If i throw some slow dancing in than i might have a winner!

BiologyIsntBigoted - DP and i are a same sex couple, so both women. I'll be doing ALL housework when she has her surgery and she'll have a long recovery time because it will be an open surgery. She used to work full time but we've decided it would be better for her to stop working now in order to be able to take better care of herself. If i gave her a favours voucher after surgery she'd be pissed but if i gave her one now she'd probably enjoy not having to clean the cat's litter!

zebra - A visit to a landmark is a great idea! Will probably do this. A trip to the cinema is something we do frequently so if i include some nice popcorn and fancy snacks she might like it. It has to be fancier than usual IYSWIM.

Veryouting123 - We'll exchange gifts and have stockings as well as the vouchers. The vouchers are something extra i want to do because i want to cheer her up ans pamper her, so it's not about money wven though we only have ine income at the moment . We have a craft fair here so i can make a voucher for that and also some supplies we can get there. Lovely idea.

22Giraffes - Thank you... I felt a bit lame after the first response. I told her about the vouchers idea and she loved it so much but 20 is indeed a lot of coupons!

The thing I'd like would be trips to places I don't often get to, like galleries, sculpture parks or a walk by the sea. Places to wander around without worrying about getting back for x o'clock.

My DH would prefer a massage voucher or similar pampering.

If she's recovering from surgery could you get someone to come and do a manicure at home?

A PP suggested a book voucher which I think is a great idea.

StillLooksLikeRainDear - OMG, you gave me such a good idea! There's a theme park that's a 3 hour drive from here that she's been wanting to go to since she moved in with me (she is from a diferent town). I don't even know how i forgot about this! Oh, and there's already a voucher for a trip to the beach as it's only a 40 minute drive from here.

From the looks of it we'll have tons of fun in 2020!

Flamingo84 - Will definitely do the book voucher! We both are avid readers and i know for a fact she'll be trilled with this. The Colouring books might also be a good idea but i'lk have to discretely investigate if this is a possibility (she's so smart she'll probably pick up on my intentions!).

No way i'll be making a slave for a day voucher! Not brave enough, i fear! And she already has control of the remote tv because she's way more into tv shows than i am.

Got any rowing boat hire places nearby? Boat and picnic? Brunch voucher, maybe with a couple of guests to make it more of an occasion. Voucher for a photo book, you both collate you favourite pics over last year but you get the photo book sorted? Recreate first date?

Sounds like a lovely idea OP. You could have a "First time voucher" where you go back to your first date/where you met. A relaxing massage, takeaway of her choice. Film and duvet day.

Little things like this are lovely OP dont feel stupid

I´ve already thought of an italian night with crostinis or caprese salad as a starter

Why in the name of holy fuck are you choosing what starter she has??

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A massage/spa day even if it’s a home version
A class either craft/cooking (maybe something you could do together)
Pamper night where you can run a bubble bath with candles, music then after let her pick a film and have snacks ready.
Book voucher and set her up a reading area in the sunshine.
If she’s still recovering from surgery then maybe a non alcoholic cocktail night/class.
Does she like colouring? There’s some great grown up colouring books and you could get some lovely pens.
If you’re feeling brave or she’s particularly kind maybe a ‘slave for a day’ one?!

I would absolutely hate every single one of these. This thread is a perfect demonstration of why you shouldn't be asking strangers what to get for your own girlfriend.

A promise to decorate a room of her choosing. She could choose theme/colours etc. You do it / organise it.

A music evening where you relive your favourite tracks with themed food and drink.

A promise to cook a brand new recipe of her choosing.

Fairenuff - She'd love for me to clean her side of the wardrobe and organize her clothes so i guess a voucher for this could work. Oh, and i'd also love if someone gave a voucher for some car cleaning.

They are suggestions rubicon, she’s looking for ideas.

Fingermoose - There's already a voucher for a ttip to the beach and i really like the manicure idea.

Why in the name of holy fuck are you choosing what starter she has??
Because she’s cooking it at home. Do you normally present a DP with a menu for the evening and allow them to make a selection?

@Rubicon80 the ideas aren’t supposed to be things you’d like. OP gave info about her DP in her original post and people have used that as a basis. She enjoys crafts, is a bit of a foodie and it’ll be their summer at Christmas. Not a stretch to think she’d enjoy craft classes or food/drink related things. OP seems pretty happy with some of the suggestions she’s getting.

@Inthetropics if you both enjoy reading it might be nice for both of you to read the same book and have a mini book club.