Ideas for 20 year old daughter

[thelittlesquidge]

I am at a complete loss this year on the present front! My daughter has made no suggestions and it’s driving me insane, I’d love to get started buying presents but have no clue. My daughter is 20, obsessed with History (studying at uni), and is quite girly. She likes her makeup, but has loads and it isn’t something I feel I can buy without her being there. She also loves Drag Race, not sure if that helps! She really loves handbags but already has quite a collection from her savings - two Louis Vuittons, a Chloe and a Mulberry - I can’t really afford to compete with the likes of these, but buying one around the 300/400 mark would be okay. Jewellery wise she likes Alex Monroe and Tiffany, but again those twozseem a little uninspiring at the moment. Anyone got any suggestions from nerdy things to glam girly things?

TIA

Voucher for harvey nicks and pjs, little treats, Emma Bridgewater personalised mug

What about a mulberry wallet?

No ideas but am reading replies as have same exact problem (minus the love of handbags or jewellery). Also a history student!

I love Alex Monroe jewellery and also really like Diana Porter.

I was also going to suggest a mulberry purse, something like this www.johnlewis.com/mulberry-small-classic-grain-leather-8-card-zip-around-wallet/deep-sea/p3831033

I have a 20 years old drag race fan (law student/working full time and living in apartment with boyfriend rather than halls but still)

Firebox have some drag race gifts- i've got her the book and the sashay away door mat

www.firebox.com/search/Drag%20race?page=1

I've also bought them the 'what do you meme' game between them and got a 3D pen for her boyfriend so got free delivery from firebox and used Quidco to get cash back.

I'm stuck on main present type things tbh so I'm going to watch this thread!

No one is listening to you @Bearbehind This clearly isn't the thread for you.

I do think BearBehind has a point, frankly. I found that comment about bags being 'less' a bit off.

@RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie Sorry if you found my comment a bit off, all I meant was that those ideas wouldn’t be as much of a treat for her. I’m just trying to ask for some suggestions for what DD might like that are in line with my budget that will be a treat/something luxurious for her that she wouldn’t/couldn’t get herself with her job money etc.

@Anantara Love that purse, tysm!

I have many designer bags, Chanel, Louis Vuitton, Gucci. I wouldn't see any other bag as 'lesser'. I'd love a Longchamp. I may well put it on my list, it's practical. Maybe she doesn't do practical though

If she likes makeup then I recently got the Anastasia Beverley Hills Sultry palette which is beautiful.

I’m just trying to ask for some suggestions for what DD might like that are in line with my budget that will be a treat/something luxurious for her that she wouldn’t/couldn’t get herself with her job money etc.

The point I was trying to make is that it doesn’t make much sense to try and keep up with her expensive tastes if you can’t afford to.

A 20 year old who wouldn’t appreciate a £200 handbag isn’t something most people are familiar with.

Joining the dots I’m assuming she bought the Chloe bag etc with money from her Dad so there’s actually nothing she wouldn’t or couldn’t get herself with the cash.

Whatever the source of the posh bags, if she could get more high end stuff that way there’s no point in competing with that so I’d go for thoughtful / personal over expensive.

Actually does she have this bag?uk.louisvuitton.com/eng-gb/products/toiletry-pouch-26-monogram-000767 I got it recently and use it as a clutch. Fits the budget.

@StealingYourWifi Thanks for the suggestion, she’s already planning on buying one of those herself to go in her Keepall for her travels and double up as a clutch bag!

@Bearbehind I’m sorry, perhaps “lesser” was the wrong word. I just know that my DD doesn’t really like the Longchamp bags or Michael Kors (mainly because he steals designs from other designers) there are things she couldn’t/wouldn’t buy for herself or think to, so I was just putting the feelers out for some suggestions! I can “keep up” with her tastes, but I know that the next bag she wants to buy is one she’s planning on buying herself anyway, plus if I bought it for her she’d get nothing else for Christmas. There’s been some fantastic suggestions on this thread, so thank you all. DD and I have had a hard year, so I’m just trying to give her a lovely Christmas to end the year on a higher note she actually bought her other bags with money she’d saved from different jobs, not that that’s particularly relevant lol

I understand OP's point about the other bags. Longchamp are a bit old-y and Michael Kors is a bit 'naff' and so many have them.

@christmaschristmaschristmas Thank you for conveying what I meant better than I did aha!

My 23 year old would love and appreciate being treated to a Longchamp. Maybe she's 'old' - or maybe she knows a little bit about gratitude. Not saying that the OP's dd is ungrateful btw.

OP - I think maybe don't bother with a bag at all, and buy her other lovely stuff.

@RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie I mean to be fair what you’re saying sounds a lot like you’re implying my DD is ungrateful. However my take on it is that I’m not going to buy my DD something she doesn’t want - that isn’t her being ungrateful imo - we can’t help what our tastes are, not really got anything to do with money! If someone had suggested a bag I knew she’d go for herself that was cheaper then I would go for it, she wouldn’t be any less grateful had it cost less than a Mulberry for example, if she liked it. I think designer handbags seem to be a sore topic for mumsnet, I’ll keep off the topic from now on I think!

I have specifically said that I wasn't saying your dd sounds ungrateful. You've said she's funded most of her bags herself - you've also said you can't really afford to compete with the ones she already has.

I've suggested several non-bag ideas, and have suggested that maybe some of those ideas might be less fraught with danger than buying her an expensive bag and getting it 'wrong'.

If you're choosing to read that as 'Your daughter is ungrateful' then that isn't what I said at all, and wasn't implying either.

The issue I see here is that a 20 year old is chosing to spend £800 to £1000 on a handbag above anything else she could buy.

The fact it’s out of her own savings makes it even harder to think of something she’d like because she clearly chose to forsake such things in order to buy such bags.

I think that makes it pretty difficult for others to suggest options because it’s not a choice most of us would have made at that age, not least because very few are in a position to do so.

And I have no issue with designer bags; they are my ‘thing’ but are only ever relative to my income.

I know this thread is a bit older now but I thought the other day about a Louis Vuitton passport cover? You can get them name printed

@StealingYourWifi Lovely idea but she already has a nice passport cover, lovely unusual idea though thank you!

For £400 yuo could send her and a friend to a weekend break in somewhere that is linked to the history she is studying.

I've bought theatre tickets before now for someone at uni, she had Wednesday pm free so I booked the matinee but made sure the tickets could be exchanged.

For make up, book her a make over with a voucher to buy some of the products.