No main gift

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My 6 year old DD has given me ideas of what to buy for her Christmas and birthday ( Jan) it comes to 615 in total before clothes and sweets. She's had a very awful year and I want to spoil her. But she doesn't have a main gift for either birthday or Christmas. Would you cut a few of the things that she really wants to get her a main gift or get what you know she wants.

But even if you’d won it in a raffle, it’d still be a big gift.

I don't think you're sending any 'message' by buying her what's on her list, or spending that much money.

Op she's your daughter. If you feel it would give her some happiness then do it. My son has always had a lot of toys at Christmas and birthday's and he's not spoilt, and as he's gotten older he's started asking for less.

Spend what u Want i spend about £350 on each child ,im so lucky my kids just ask for 3-5 items x

As others have said, that’s a lot of stuff for a small child to truly appreciate and play with. Could Be a bit overwhelming for a six yr old.

If budget is seemingly large what about some truly magical days out around Xmas Making happy memories, Santa train? Lapland U.K.? Somewhere like longleat(or similar in your area) there are some lovely albeit fairly expensive festive days out but you’d need to look and book now a small they tend to sell out very quickly, our local steam train Santa visit has almost completely sold out.

My son tends to forget what he puts on his list but loves he gets in equal measure, don't think there is such thing as a main gift at their age just gifts lol. I'd say stick with the list of what she likes as much as you can (if some things are similar maybe pick the best option rather than all or pick a handful to tell family and friends to get) and throw in one or two surprises you think she would like. I'm sure she will love whatever she receives and I hope you all have a lovely xmas xxx

I've took a few bits off to ask others for to get her for bday and Xmas.

I'm absolutely gobsmacked at the suggestion to give a child that's had a terrible year fuck all for their birthday and Xmas and present them with a charity gift to teach them a lesson. WTAF!!! Would bet my house that that poster's DC do not wake up on Xmas morning and their birthdays to a charity donation card!

OP I'm in a similar situation for this Xmas with my dd this year. However from experience I know that at that age they just love having lots of presents to open. If it's all stuff she wants she is going to be over the moon. I wouldnt give the main pressie worry a second thought. Oh and don't listen to anyone saying that the amount you are spending is obscene. As long as you can afford it its nobodys business and fwiw £300 for Xmas and birthdays is pretty average amongst me and my friends.