Who are kids presents from? Santa or you?

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Couldn't summarise that well in a title. My ds is now 5 so he's going to be more aware this Christmas about how things work.

How do you explain to your kids who presents are from? When I was a child my mum said Santa delivers them but mummy's/daddy's send them off to him. I think she wanted us to know that they contribute to them.

I know others say certain presents are from Santa and others from them, like a particular gift or the stocking presents.

Feel like I need to get my script together before the questions start!

We did stockings from Father Christmas and presents from whoever was named on the gift tag.

1 present from Santa on the end of the bed, all the others under the tree from whoever they're from.
I'm always amazed by the people who have Santa bring everything (that's not what he does in the books and films).

This causes contention in my family as my in-laws have told my nieces for the last 4 years that Santa brings all 30-odd gifts that they get each (Just from the grandparents!). I was brought up with Santa giving you a stocking of small gifts, rest of presents from family and I certainly didn't get half the presents my nieces get.

Whilst I respect to an extent it's their right to do what they want (and they buy a million often inappropriate gifts even when both we and my SiL have asked them in the past to tone it down a tad)... but equally it's going to become harder to explain to DD why Father Christmas doesn't bring as many gifts when we're at my parents' for Christmas as they get older. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Any tips on that would would be greatly appreciated!! 😂

Literally had this conversation with my DS the other night, he was asking for new toys and I said 'you'll have to wait to see what Santa brings at Christmas' (he's only 3 so doesn't really get it - wouldn't go to bed that night because Santa hadn't been yet!) but I explained 'Santa delivers all the children's Christmas presents but mummy and daddy pay for them!' We laughed and he said 'thank you for buying presents for me' end of conversation and hasn't been brought up again.
I sign one present from Santa - something I know he wants/will love but modest in size or price compared to what's signed from mummy and daddy - I want my child to know we've worked hard to buy him these things, and I want the recognition for dragging my arse around the shops at Christmas time or spending three/four hour trolling the Internet for some specific toy I've never seen nor heard of!
Ideally I never wanted to introduce the whole Santa stuff to DS as I just don't agree with it (and watching DSS being completely inconsolable when he found out the truth last year was awful) but my DParents took him to a santas grotto last year so I'm letting it ride out but making sure Santa isn't the be all and end all of Christmas for him.

One present from me, the rest and the stocking presents from Santa.

Stocking and one gift from Santa the rest is off us. I tell the kids we buy their presents and send them off to Santa for him to wrap and deliver. I also tell them that everytime Santa or his elves see them being naughty they loose a present

@mummabubs you could point out that on the years when you spend Christmas with your parents or elsewhere you’ll have to come and collect the pile of presents and bring them with you to avoid confusion.

I do stockings. In them I have small gifts for both kids. Usually books and toys or crafts.

The ones in the stocking are from Santa
The others are from me
Anything else is just odd!

Stockings from Father Christmas and others labelled and under the tree for after lunch.

Stocking presents from Father Christmas at the bottom of the bed.

All other presents under the tree are from the people that give them.

Stockings and all presents bought by us come from Santa. But anything from a friend / relative comes from the correct person.

Thanks EVERYONE for your responses!

I think we'll go for small stocking presents from Santa and tree presents are from us (paid by us and posted to Santa in plenty of time).

It's important for me he understands that we have worked hard to pay for his main presents. Also he has started school this autumn and he needs to understand why some children will get more and others less.

Just a few "stocking fillers" in a stocking. Chocolate, magazine etc from Santa.

Rest from us!! The odd present from a relative.

I dont get why you'd post your presents to santa to bring back! Ive only heard of it since reading mumsnet.santa just brings his presents for the stocking here.

Stockings from Santa and nothing else; that is why you leave a stocking out. I am 58 and don't know why in some houses it has lately become that he brings anything else, a ridiculous thing to get into. No thanks or appreciation for presents received from hard working family, expectations of expensive presents as its 'magic' and so their can ask for anything, poor parents trying to buy what a child wants and getting in to debt to do so. Really gets my goat.

No I don't understand why you'd post your presents only for Santa to bring them back either

Good idea @Alanamackree 😁🤦🏻‍♀️ Thank you!

Stockings are from Santa. Then presents build up under the tree. Friends and family bring the children presents to put under the tree the week before Christmas. On Christmas day we hand them out after lunch and they are from whoever is on the tag.

Mummy and daddy buy some gifts that go under tree a week ish before. Just a few... Really in case he.. Can't make it!

Then on Xmas morning the tree reveals its bounty. All from fc.

Other relatives give from themselves.

I don't treat Xmas as a teaching day, every other day of the year can be for teaching gratitude... Etc.
I don't need personal thanks from tiny dc either o get my thanks from the sheer magic and joy from the surprises under the tree. One day when they are old they will know anyway.

It's over so fast... It's fleeting chance for pure joy and magic.

Fc has lots of dc round the the world to cater for so of course he can't get everything on lists the lists are a wish list and sometimes you may get most things on it at other times zilch and so times one thing!! But you will always get a few surprises.... No one really knows how it works we mortals just try and guess a bit.

That's exactly how I feel @Momasita. Seeing their wee faces light up on Christmas morning is more than enough

Roystonv not a new thing to receive all presents from Santa I had it that way when I was growing up and I’m 32 now and my cousins had it that way too and they are 49 this year .

Stocking, chocolate and a present they want that's not too expensive from father xmas. Rest from us.

Stocking from Santa (stocking filler type presents plus chocolate coins and satsuma).
Presents under the tree labelled from the giver or brought by the giver.
From an early age dc's should be part of the giving process not just receiving. So it only makes sense to me to have just the stocking from FC.