Have you ever had to 'bar' someone from your home on Christmas?

[bandthenjust]

As it says! Have any of you had to ask someo ne to leave or make it c lear they 're not invited? How did you go about doing it?

Jesus Christ, she sounds horrendous, does she have kids?
Makes you wonder how such people find partners to begin with.

bandthenjust no they don’t have kids, but she knows all about parenting and how to parent My kids can’t fucking stand her!

I think they got together when his self esteem was low but frankly after 7 years of pandering to her and his inability to tell her to fuck off I’m tempted to tell him to fuck off too!

Makes me so glad me and dh are nc with dps and have no siblings!

DP and I have already talked about Christmas and expectations. I am lucky that he will work what I have to work. What I have said as we will only have Christmas Day, Boxing Day and New Year's Day off this year - let's go easy on ourselves and not have family up. We could go and see them over that weekend

Nightmare! I would bring it up first though. If she doesn’t have the perspective to see how inappropriate it is to bring this stuff in front of kids she’s not going to change.

If you wait for her to bring it up you’re on stress tender hooks waiting. Take control:

Dh - mum we need to talk about Christmas. You need to make arrangements with ‘d’b this year as the havoc he’s brought to our door for the last x number Christmas’s stops now.

If you wait it’ll get too close to Christmas and you’ll be ‘abandoning’ her. Tell her now she’s got plenty of time to make plans.

It's the perfect time to go on holiday.... Just saying

Book it, don't tell them, so by the time they start to think about logistics, you can Hmmmm and har for a while and then announce your going away.

Make sure to keep the location a secret from the kids. Feed fake info to in laws if they insist on trying to join you.

Jet off on your adventure around about the 20th and relax MUAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Manage her expectations now, "mil we will be just the 4 of us this Christmas but we'd love to see you on Boxing Day" however if she has nowhere else to be I'd crack and let her come is it possible to have a chat with her about how it affects her and your Christmas, that she should be able to relax and enjoy as should you buy each year that's made very difficult by the timing of her sons dramas? Find her phone and turn it off!