Just that really. I don't have loads of cash to throw around and they're somewhat the most ungrateful children i've met Slight eggageration but often feels like it.
Last Christmas I got them both scooters with characters who they were obsessed with. One DN got it out of the box and asked if it was cheap, didn't want to bring it in from the front garden 'as it was cheap and nobody would steal it'. The other DN didn't bother and it's still in the box.
For DN (8) I decided on a day trip as she seemed to have everything and thought she'd prefer quality time. She's been going on for about a year that she had never been to a musical and her best friend has apparently been to all of them. She used my laptop to google all that were showing, she watched Youtube trailers/videos of the songs and decided which one she'd like to see. I told her the costs of the tickets if she was really sure that's what she want as it was a lot of money etc etc. We get to the theatre and she wasn't happy with the seats we weren't in the Gods either. I explained that the seats near the stage cost 100+ each, and as a student I wasn't able to afford them- she asked me again why I was cheap. She kicked up such a fuss that she started to pretend her eyes were hurting/giving her a headache (expecting me to get her closer seats to the stage) and we ended up leaving not that long into the show as she was disturbing others (still thinking that I would get her closer seats). Miraculously her headache had cleared when we walked past a shop and suggested I got her a toy instead for her birthday as she was too ill for her present...
They both have everything you can imagine. I've spent weeks trying to find the perfect gift but they do literally have everything especially as they both have autumn birthdays. They don't really look after anything, and anything they do after they novelty soon wears off. I have got them gift cards in the past but look very hard done by when they realise that they can't get everything in the shop.
There's a local church doing a Xmas present drive for local families in need. I'd rather go buy £50 worth of gifts, wrap them and know that they're going to be appreciated. I was thinking of getting my nieces a large selection box with a note that i've donated toys to those in need for their gift as Santa wasn't able to visit all children as some don't have a house for him to deliver at.
The only thing is, is that i'm extremely close with my sister and she's fairly sensitive especially as quite a lot of people are taking a step back from the girls. I could just buy them a couple of toys that will probably end up donated anyway? I just feel like i'm throwing money into a fire.
Sorry I didn't mean for this to end up as an AIBU?