Df wants 2 roasts?

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So I'm hosting xmas this year for 8/9 people to celebrate ds first xmas. Having asked for advice earlier I'm going to order via m&s (have you seen the present cake!!!)
I was telling my df that I was going to order a plain turkey crown and stuffing as a side incase some people don't like stuffing. He says, what about the beef roast. I was like ? The turkey crown serves 8-10 why the hell would I order another roast? Is this a thing? Also, I told him I only have a single oven how would I cook it, apparently they will cook it and bring it over 🤔 So much for me hosting, seeing as my menu is not suitable. Grrr!

If they want beef and are happy to buy it and bring it then let them get on with it!

Yep!

It's normal for guests to bring a meal contribution (dessert, wine, mince pies, whatever) so if they want to bring along cooked beef, surely that's fine?

Two roasts is a bit unnecessary IMO, but whatever, if you can't be excessive at Christmas then when can you?!

Call him and ask him if he'd like you to caputure, butcher and cook a swan from the local river whilst you are at it.
Tell him to do one OP. Can you tell I am not keen on christmas frippery?

Always thought it was a ham the night before and turkey on Christmas Day.... Not the two at the same meal...

There's only me and DP on Christmas Day as my family have got on my last wick this year. So we are having a turkey crown but one for 5-6 people.... Because leftovers!!

Also It's not cool having to ration your turkey portions at dinner bitterly remembers 2009 and mum's offering of a baby turkey for 12

mm - do two roasts normally here too . Usually because 1 is a goose, and they don't stretch far. But this year I am at DD's so she can do the panic of "have I enough"

we have a minimum of pork and turkey on Christmas Day

the ham is always cooked on Christmas Eve, and often if dh is lucky on one of his Hunter-Gatherer missions to the reduced counter there maybe beef or goose as well!

BUT, i do refuse to cook for at least two days so we have to have plenty of cold cuts to see us through. :o

We always have two roasts and I agree with the others that you will struggle to serve 8/9 with a crown for 8/10.

He's offered to cook it and bring it over - bring it on! The more people helping the better!!

I've never had two meats. Ham on Xmas eve, turkey on Christmas Day. Good call on the m&s crown, I'm going to do the same!

We often do two roasts on xmas day too.

I have only heard of this om mn and grumpy old women.

Actually mil did a turkey and 2 ducks. The turkey was basically for me. I had a mountain of leftovers.

My DM does three meats! Turkey crown, honey roasted gammon, and either beef or a leg of lamb. The best part of Christmas dinner is the leftovers afterwards isn't it?!

We always have two meats allowing people to have a large portion of one or a smaller portion of both meats

That crown will not serve 9/10 normal sizedpeople. You'll want to cook a ham/beef the day before.

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I am alreadysad about Christmas dinner as my MiL thinks like you and I will have one tiny scrap of turkey and two potatoes. :( [crying]

We always have two meats.

We normally have two meats as does PIL's and my parents. We have however had to request gravy in advance as PIl's always have their roasts dry! I find this odd but they say gravy is too salty. Ha!

I do two meats, turkey (which I don't like) and beef for me

I agree that a crown isn't much for that many people. Also...do make too many roast potatoes. Not enough roast potatoes is a Terrible Thing.

My first Christmas with MIL, I was served THREE roast potatoes.

Fucking THREE!

I'm of Irish stock! I can eat about 14!

We have the ham on Christmas Eve. Don't tend to do turkey Christmas Day, not a fan so usually slow cooked beef of some sort but there are always pigs in blankets and Dh likes to cook stuffing balls too so there is plenty of meat even with a small joint.

God I do love a Christmas Eve ham! I make a buffet style meal...it's only DH and our two DDs and I but we love it! Ham, pickles, nice cheeses and breads, salads and all that palaver!

Go with what you feel comfortable cooking, OP. I say this from bitter experience. Hosted friends who are, shall we say, fussy, and they gave me a complete menu without which Christmas would not be Christmas (not just two roasts, oh no, none of the vegetables could be just vegetables, they all had to be pretty much a meal in themselves, sauteed brussel sprouts with bacon lardons, cauliflower cheese, that sort of thing - all fiddly and involving enormous prep time). I have a tiny galley kitchen not up to cooking enormous quantities of very elaborate food. It was one of the most miserable experiences of my life. Needless to say, it will not be being repeated.

This Christmas will be me, DC, DF (who is mercifully low maintenance), roast beef because we all like that, the sort of veg we actually like eating, a pudding of our choice and a nice wine. We will all enjoy it. I will not be stressed out of my mind. The kitchen will not look like a bomb site.

I'm coming round to the view that "you want something really complicated cooking? Good, you cook the bloody thing then. I shall sit around with a glass of wine and watch."

Always had 2 here.

I also agree that if you have a crown that serves 8/10 and you have 8/9 coming it won't be enough.

Yes normal to have at least 2 meats. Don't see why you're annoyed at him bringing the beef, it's a nice gesture and you'll be glad of it when that turkey crown isn't enough to feed everyone

If he has history for being patronising with food (my mother is, she once borrowed a mobile from a stranger to call me from 30 miles away to remind me to salt the dish the I was making) then you have reason to be miffed. But as he is offering to buy and cook it, just look upon it as contribution to the meal and as an bonus on case the turkey doesn't stretch far enough.

If he is planning on buying and cooking it, just let him get on with it.
Save your worrying and fretting for the really important things like have you got enough champagne, what brand of brandy you are going to use in the sauce and have you got a serious cheese board selected.

I was looking at the marvellous cheese tower thing in m&s as well 😍

We always have two - Turkey and pork usually, with pigs in blankets, two sorts of stuffing, plus a Gannon joint as well which is either for Christmas eve or boxing day tea. There are always piles of leftovers, Christmas bubble and squeak is one of my favourite things.

Don't be upset, he's not criticising you, but being helpfully. My DM always used to volunteer to bring the gammon.