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Is anyone else NOT getting anything for christmas??

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corrina28 · 19/12/2006 21:04

We are really skint at the moment, DH has just got a promotion at work and his new salary hasnt gone thru personnel yet and he is till on the old amount and i have had no work so we are not buying any presents til after christmas when we will have more money. Anyone else doing the same?????

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bctmum · 19/12/2006 21:05

Me!!

Kbear · 19/12/2006 21:41

We spend our money on the children and don't have presents ourselves. No need really, it's all about the children IMO. We buy a ten pound present from the kids to us though, they wrap it and hide it etc etc so it's not ALL about them getting but not giving!

TEEstheCEEsontobejolly · 19/12/2006 21:44

Me and D did this last year. We were going to and then we realised that a) what he wanted was 50quid and what I wanted was 50quid, what was the point and b) we were skint and c) we'd just had a baby and it was all about making sure DD1 was Ok and enjoying DD2.

kid · 19/12/2006 21:46

I have got DH's present but he has no idea what to get me, plus he doesn't get paid till Thursday. So I might not be getting anything (I'm sure he will think of something at the last minute, I'm hoping anyway)

flutturkey · 19/12/2006 21:47

DH and I aren't getting anything for each other this year, I lost my job a few weeks ago so the decision made itself really.

DimpledThighs · 19/12/2006 21:51

I know a few people who do this - if it suits then fine.

I did suggest this to my dh last year but he pointed out that I am the only one who buys him a present so he would get nothing so we still do!

2nervesnapartridgeinapeartree · 19/12/2006 21:52

We did this one year. Was fine, DD had a tonne of stuff and like Kbear says it is all about the children. DH and I mostly open our gifts at the end of the day as a bit of an afterthought.

Pruni · 19/12/2006 21:54

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lou33 · 19/12/2006 22:17

i wasn't expecting anything, but then my relatively new bloke presented me with 5 gifts this weekend, ready for the main day

GooseyLoosey · 19/12/2006 22:21

Don't get each other stuff and try to persuade other adults in family that they don't want anything. Most daft thing out is us sending MIL £20 and it crossing in the post with the £20 she is sending us.

Am having a real scrooge moment this year and am now trying to opt out of Christmas cards too except for people I seldom see. Bah humbug.

Nemoinapeartree · 19/12/2006 22:23

we are not getting anything as we cant afford it.

PartridgeinaRustyBearTree · 19/12/2006 22:37

Way things are looking at the moment I may be getting a new boiler....

lou33 · 19/12/2006 22:40

oh i never send xmas cards lol

Glitterygookwithchocsonthetree · 19/12/2006 22:46

Me. Well, JT has probably bought me a little something but dh and I aren't buying for each other.

It's all about the kids and I am honestly not bothered about stuff for myself. Have a dinner dance in Jan so will probably treat myself to a new dress for that after Christmas.

Glitterygookwithchocsonthetree · 19/12/2006 22:48

We tend to buy whatever we want for ourselves anyway, plus our money is all in one big pot. It's not as if there is something we've wanted for ages and then other person kindly buys it for us.

I know other people would think this really odd but it suits us.

astonishedandamazed · 19/12/2006 22:51

My ds loves it when i get something from santa so i wrap something up, last year i got monopoly and this year its a hangman game things ds wanted LOL

No dp this year so no lavish gifts but im glad i have no hassle trying to find something for him as he was so fussy..wanted a trip to Dubai for his bday..says it all!

GooseyLoosey · 19/12/2006 22:54

People do think its odd though don't they Glittery. Know when I get asked in Jan what DH bought and say nothing people will give me very strange looks and then infer that we don't get along all that well. Have had this reaction for many years and am now thinking of inventing an exotic present list from him just to avoid it. Hmm let me see, diamond necklace, porche...

bctmum · 19/12/2006 23:23

partridge - the boiler is one reason we're not getting pressies this year!

MerryChristmasPANDAGHappyNewYe · 19/12/2006 23:28

wasn't going to get anything from DH - we have boiler problems too, and it made sense to buy for DC and not us. HOwever, I mentioned this in passing to a friend, and she and her lovely DH gave us some money to spend on each other, with the emphasis on want not need 'as boilers are for life not for Christmas'. I was (and still am) completely choked by this - such a lovely gesture, completely unneccessary but a real blessing.

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corrina28 · 20/12/2006 08:26

maybe its just the spoilt child in me, but it just sounds odd when people say "what did dh get you for xmas" and you say nothing, i do find it quite upsetting and i know i shouldnt (have just read that back and it makes me sound awful), i really dont enjoy christmas anymore since this big black cloud has been following me around and i think the sooner it is over and done with the better.

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noddyholder · 20/12/2006 08:29

We never buy each other anything!Too much else to do and we have everything we need/want!Usually try and grab a night in a hotel in January and a nice meal

LemonTart · 20/12/2006 08:31

nothing other than a tenner each on stocking fillers. money on the rels and our girls. More than happy with this as wil have a nasty tax bill end of Jan to pay and would not enjoy receiving anything when that is looming so close
Anyway, it is all about the kiddies isn?t it?

LemonTart · 20/12/2006 08:36

corrina - why don?t you get creative and give each other promises or make something like homemade biscuits etc? You can still give "something"
If you really don?t want to tell people nothing, just say you got some vouchers and are going to spend them in the New Year when you have a chance - in a way it is true as you have vouched for each other buying present when the money arrives xx
I know how hard it can be when you are skint. We have been close to the line too many times. It is exactly like a cloud and hard to think or concentrate on anything else. Try to focus on the fact that he has got a promotion, there is light at the end of the tunnel and you just have to be patient. There are lot of people out there who are skint with no promotion, no job and no sign of it changing - as bad as it feels, it really is the case that it could be a lot worse honey xxxxx

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corrina28 · 20/12/2006 09:02

we have been really lucky as we have recieved some really lovely things from some very generous mn's so i know that ds' are gonna have a really great christmas and also this will be my first christmas without my parents being just around the corner and i think a mixture of everything has just made my depression go thru the roof. I think i now just have to think positive and look past christmas and know by the end of january things will be better. Thanks for all your kind words lemontart they have been most appreciated.

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oranges · 20/12/2006 09:04

Dh and I somehow got into the habit of not giving Christmas presents. Our anniversary is in November and we always give each other nice stuff then, and Christmas seems so forced somehow. I do buy for others though.

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