How much of an active role does your dp take, in organising Christmas presents...

[DoveOfPeace]

Particularly those for your dc?

[RictusGrimace]

I do it all. My family, his family and the dc and I wait and wait for him to buy the 2 male members of his family. Which he invariably leaves to the last minute.

I have just come to accept this now. He just hates this sort of thing and I find it bearable if I do it in advance. He contributes it other ways (he loves cooking the dinner)

[RJnomore1]

Dh indulges me by letting me knock myself out at Christmas buying presents. I LOVE it. He helps wrap if I ask (sometimes I don't so he doesn't realise quite how much I've bought ). He will happily buy for his family if I ask but again I love doing it and I have no family of my own to buy for.

He buys me really lovely and very thoughtful presents and occasionally if he spots something the dds will live he purchases it (4 foot pink unicorn anyone?!)

I know he would do it if I asked to swap but I have so much fun buying people things.

[NewLife4Me]

He just buys cards for his side, we don't do adult presents, except for each other. I have mine off him already as I had to try it out.

I get the dc and will include him if it's something he knows more about than I do, but this is rare.
When they were little we'd go and buy the big items together and he'd bring them home in car.

[FinallyHere]

Left to myself i would scrap presents altogether, all grown ups and send money (overseas) for DGC. dH loves presents, and surprises, so does any that get done.

I do come into my own when wrapping, though. 9 Lessons & Carols from Kings on the radio, a sherry and mince pie and i wrap brilliantly. I've learned to include tags with the recipient's name as my recall of what is what is not what it was. Sigh.

[DoveOfPeace]

Thanks

[Everydayaschoolday]

Why do you ask, OP?

[georgemaud]

DH loves organising Christmas and does the lot - menu, cards, decorations, presents. He starts buying from September! We used to do it together when the dc were younger but I get bored by it all pretty quickly and don't have much time, so it's mostly his role nowadays. He buys for my family as well as his.

[INeedACheeseSlicer]

I tend to choose most things for the DC online, then ask DH's opinion before clicking "buy now". I think he always says yes! Occasionally he will get an extra gift for the DC to add to what I have bought.

He buys a present for me and takes the DC off "secretly" to choose something for me from them.

I tend to buy stuff for my family, and we usually get stuff for his family together.

[Bragadocia]

DH makes arrangements and buys for his family, I do for mine, and presents for DS are pretty much half and half, possibly slightly weighted towards more input from DH. I'll deal with the contents of the stocking though (he didn't have stockings growing up, so he's not as familiar with them).

DH chooses and buys all gifts for DS' friends' birthdays - I don't think I've bought or wrapped a single one.

[chanie44]

I do all of our Xmas shopping. I enjoy doing it whereas OH hates it. Plus I bargain hunt to get the best deals.

In terms of shopping for the children, he sometimes suggest a toy he thinks the children may like and I'll show him a couple of options and we de use together.

[StrumpersPlunkett]

I do cards, gifts for family and friends.
Dh gets involved in buying things for our kids and buys me beautiful gifts each year (well mostly)
Each year though we host a great big Christmas party and he organises the booze for that.

[Bimblywibbler]

DH is in charge of buying for me (obviously), his godchildren and his side of the family (which is tiny). He asks me for female input for his mum sometimes, and I'm happy to help, but the impetus, responsibility and actual ordering are his IYSWIM.

I tend to do 90% for the DC. I run things past him and get his input. Largely this is a wifework thing TBH but I work PT and he's FT, and I like to start early whereas he hates starting before mid December, so I don't resent it. If I delegate particular presents to him, he will get them done.

He also does the big supermarket shop and cooks christmas dinner.

How about your DH OP?

[Itsallaboutme3]

None, but i like it that way (-:

[Millie2013]

I do all the planning, buying and wrapping. But I don't mind as I'm a SAHM and he works away, so has limited time. The odd time I have asked for help (when I was working), he's spent £££ and gone for the easiest options. I'm more savvy and patient!

[Star2015]

My DH is a wonderful man but like others have said if I didn't buy, write send cards, buy and wrap presents for both our families (we don't have children), no one would get anything.

Having said that DH does buy me several gifts and wraps them up, so I feel very lucky for that

[Imnotweirdimlimitededition1]

Majority seems to be like this family- I too purchase most things unless it's sports related or something my dh knows more about. He contributes financially of course & I insist we write cards & wrap gifts together. Dh doesn't like mention of Christmas til 01st Dec when I like to have it all done by then!

[UnlikelyPilgramage]

Might be worth letting husbands have a look in.

Can you imagine if something happened to you and your children's first Christmas was an orange and a toys r us voucher ...

[ElasticPants]

Apart from funding it , fuck all.

One memorable year, having left his families gift shopping until Christmas Eve, he went to Costco and bought a trolley full of George Foreman grills.

I have an 11 year old step daughter, I get all her presents, wrap them and dh just delivers them. Otherwise she'll have a toaster to go with her grill.

[DoveOfPeace]

I'm only asking because I'm nosey, and I like hearing how our people do things.

I reckon l buy about 80% of my ds's gifts. My dp does all wrapping though as I hate it. The only things he doesn't wrap are the stocking fillers. I like them to be a complete surprise on Christmas morning, as if they really were from FC

My sister always wraps those for me, as she loves wrapping, and seeing all the lovely stocking bits I've picked out.

[DoveOfPeace]

• I like hearing how other people do things.

[kilmuir]

None. But thats ok with me

[CakeNinja]

He buys my presents and takes the Dc out to choose things for me aswell.
That's it.
I shop and wrap for both sides of the family, sort the dc and stockings.
To be fair, I quite like it and do most of it from the comfort of my own home on the iPad other than 2 shopping days out (this Friday and Saturday).
The shopping days out I do one with my sister and the other with my best friend and they are more an excuse for a long leisurely boozy lunch, and the times when I pick up most of the stocking presents.

We have discussed main presents and Father Christmas presents for the dc so he knows the important bits.

Works for us.

[Chelazla]

None he's as surprised as everyone else on the day!!! He's been known to ask people who bought them a present that we bought!

[NoPieInPumpkin]

I organise and buy all stocking fillers and smaller presents as well as presents from the children to teachers and a small group of friends. DH and I book a babysitter one night in early December and go shopping for the children's big presents (one big present each so takes an hour/hour and a half max) then we go for a lovely festive meal and a glass of wine. It feels like an event this way. DH takes the children out one Saturday morning to get presents for me and this is highly anticipated by the children.

I am on a mission to get everything bought/ordered by 30th November. I have already wrapped a few things and will continue to do a few whenever I have a moment so I can actually enjoy December rather than rushing around. DH doesn't wrap anything and will have anything he buys gift wrapped in the shop at the time of purchase.