Right Christmas is F$%^ing cancelled in the Flutterbee household!!!!

[flutturkey]

So far this week I have lost my job meaning that we will not be having any nice food and DH and I won't be getting any presents.

I have flipped my lid at college as the group of useless twats that I have been working with to put on a charity event next week have done bugger all and left it all down to me. Even to the writing of the 150 invites.

DS has had his 3rd ear infection this winter and has been keeping us up alllllllll night.

and now....

I open the Christmas decorations (all last years because we can't afford any extras) and after pulling the Christmas tree out I realise that the bloody base is missing so we can't put the damn thing up.

It is just the straw that has broken the camels back, I am so bloody pissed off and upset I can't explain it. It never rains but it bloody pours

right well i shall guess. just tell me red or white???

Well I feel a bit better already, my friend just phoned to tell me that she has fallen head over heels down a huge flight of stairs and has twisted her knee badly and is in serious pain.

I told her about all my troubles and we just sat laughing together

Chocolate is chocolate as far as I am concerned Oh and neither DH or I drink but I am seriously considering starting.

Honestly just speaking to my friend and you lot on here has sorted me out ten fold, this Christmas is going to be amazing for us, last year ds was really really ill (6 weeks old) and in hospital being resusitated a few times a day, we were lodging with my brother and had no idea what was round the corner. Now we have our own home, DS is as strong as an Ox and I am studying to be a nurse (doing access at the moment) so we know where life is going.

Sorry for my explosion of self pity, I am sure the Christmas spirit will be restored soon

awwflutterbee if it helps we have had a shitty week here too and feel like cancelling xmas. Only thing that has kept me going is the super mners who sent us stuff otherwise there would be no xmas. Just try to think of little G and his christmas..he is young enough not to know what he is missing but old enough to still enjoy.

do you drink tea or coffee? will get that instead of wine

Dh and I are both bog standard tea drinkers.

Nemo- I know if George had been any older I think I would have had a breakdown, I am so glad he is young enough for us to get away with just one little pressie for him.

Speaking of Tea, I am off to have a cuppa and cuddle up to DH for a good old moan.

Xmasmummy - thank-you so much for caring, I am rather pig headed when it comes to excepting help from people so please do not think that I am being ungratefull. Just slighlty embarressed.

* accepting not excpecting *

Flutterturkey it does sound like you've had a rough time but you know theres always someone on here to vent to, amazingly it does help a lot. And the way the offers of help for you flooded in was so lovely it proves people do care even if we are all strangers

If it helps ive seriously thought about cancelling Christmas too, mines my hormones im 4months pregnant so everything gets to me at the moment. So far ds1 (9yrs) has gone from Angel to Monster in a month, my MIL has decided im not part of the family and no longer welcome in her house (which is where we were going for christmas) and Dh is suffering as he feels he has to choose between us (not my doing by the way as i did nothing to warrant MIL's outburst), ive got so much to do around the house ie decorating, sorting out etc that it seems never ending and everywhere i turn i hear bad news but I have decided it could be worse. I have two healthy sons who I love more than anything, Im pregnant, i have a family who love me (even if IL's dont ) and i have a roof over my head. As long as i have those then nothing else really matters.

Also after reading on MN what others are going through i realise that my problems are fairly minor and that I should be grateful for what i have got so Christmas will still be going ahead in our household although we may end up having pizza and chips for dinner if i cant get a turkey (i havent brought one yet as we werent supposed to be here)

Isnt christmas a happy time of year

How awful for you. What about getting another job then? My daughter keeps being rung up by catering companies desperate for part time Christmas staff. There's a lot of casual work around in some places if you need extra money over Christmas.

how long were you working flutterbee? if you've done two years straight between april 04-05 and 05-06 (even if you've had gaps due to study or childbearing) you may be entitled to contribution based jobseekers allowance - this isn't dependant on what your other half earns. try your local job centre in the morning and they'll give you the number to phone for a claim over the phone. also, phone the tax credits helpline as well - 0845 300 3900 - explain that your income has reduced, see what they can do for you.

sorry i can only give practical advice (and sympathy!) hope you feel better soon.

flutturkey- can you please email your address to charliecat so she can arrange the courier? her email is [email protected] she has my addy for the pick up just waiting for yours for the drop off. parcel will be ready from tomorrow xxxxx

Thanks you lot, I collapsed on the sofa last night and stayed there with DH until bed time.

We aren't entitled to any benefits, I have checked. I only got this job a few months ago to help pay the bills because now I am studying the only full time wage we have is DH's. I am so bloody furious that they choose to do it 2 weeks before Chrustmas (when we need every single penny, like most of you).

I will be looking for another job asap, any evening and Sundays (so DH is here to look after ds)

Xmasmummy I will e-mail charliecat later today, I promise.

Thank-you so much.

Oh and I forgot to say that this morning whilst trying to make myself some nice warm crumpets for breakfast the bloody toaster blew up

So I have now cancelled breakfast for the forseeable future aswell.

At least your laughing about it now! I will book the courier when I have your address

I was overpaid maternity leave and will receive only 1/2 my paycheque this month.

The council forgot to charge us for water and sewage, so we're do them £177 by 1 January.

The car needed new brakes and as DH needs the car for work, had to stump up for that.

The f*cking Cuisinart food processor broke after 3 months.

DD1 is ill. AGAIN.

I'm consoling myself w/a supply of alcohol purchased earlier in the year.

I'm done even getting upset about any of this anymore.

I have accepted the fact that I'm meant to be skint and have sh*t jobs forever and just dodge along.

C'est la vie!

Two tears in a bucket, m*ha f*k it!

We don't get any benefits, either. But we live hand to mouth. So do millions of others, so no reason why we'd be any different.

Make salt dough decorations to give out as gifts and sugar cookies!

Cheap and fun.

DD1 had a brill time w/them.

Oh expat you sure do know how to make a girl feel like she is making a big fuss about nothing.

The only trouble is if I don't work (part time) then we can't live hand to mouth like you, we will end up not being able to pay the mortgage and have our home re-possesed so actually in truth Christmas is the last of my worries, and if the brakes went on our car we would just get rid of the car because we wouldn't be able to afford to fix it no matter how vital it was.

Usualy I am rather cheered up by your posts of how bad things are for you, it makes me realise that others are in my situation and helps me pull myself together. But this last post from you just reads in a bad way almost like you don't think I have the right to moan because others are in this situation as well.

If I have taken it the wrong way then I apologise but if that was how it was meant then you can just bloody piss off.

Then get season work, flutter! It's all over the place this time of year.

Post office, shops, etc.

So what? MILLIONS of folks are in the same boat right now. Maybe not worrying about getting behind on mortgage, but rent arrears.

I fail to see what's the point of moaning and hten getting into the huff when people say, 'Well, go and do something about it.'

If we don't work all three of our jobs, we don't eat or pay rent.

We're also in heaps of debt still b/c of tax credit cock up.

C'est la vie!

I'm sick of how much of a bloody moanfest, 'It's Christmas and I'm skint'.

Well, yeah, and so why should things be different just b/c I'm me?!

I'm also struggling w/depression, but don't want to get signed off b/c some of the other jobs I've interviewed for now want you to admit if you've been signed off in the past and I'm worried then I won't be able to get a new job.

I lost the fucking job on Thursday/Friday expat I am looking for a job today.

I have phoned around all the local shops that are open in the evening and on Sundays which are the only times I can work, they have nothing. I have checked the job centre website and have re-registered with all the agencies I was with before, even though I know they won't come up with anything I have done it anyway.

I am also seriously considering giving up being a student (to become a nurse) so I can go back to full time work and sort this mess out. So then I really will be working in totally shit jobs for the rest of my life instead of trying to better myself and my family.

Honestly expat you are always going on about how shit life is for you and how you are just getting on with it, but seriously if that was the case then you wouldn't feel the need to mention it on every single thread where someone decides to have a little moan.

Whilst I have always enjoyed reading your posts (generally laughing because you are usually very funny) I am on this occasion actually finging you bitchy and down right nasty.

hmmm

o flutter i feel for you hun xxx big hugs
i havent really got any advice re: th job situation but i understand how you must feel, im in th middle of my nursing training aswell and times are hard! its ridiculous that because you are trying to better your job prospects you arent entitled to any help to do that! its hard to cope with so little money and a little boy who is growing so fast!! sian is not far behind!! but you will get there cos you know you are doing the best for his and you familys future by doing your training!try to remember its a temporary lapse in money luck and things will improve xx if theres anythin i can do to help in any way cat me- i know so many have been so kind already- but still your not on your own xx ( deary me how cheesy am i??)

Perhaps you would like to elaborate on what the hmmmmmm was for cod, not sure what that was all about.

ei - thanks so much, dh and I know that we will be able to struggle through ok as long as I have a part time job, things will still be tight but it will allow me to get the career I want. I am just so upset that now I have lost the job, not only is Christmas up in the air but unless I get another one sharpish so could my studying.

In Flutters defence surely all the seasonal work has been given out now.

i know the feeling flutturkey ! i am a single parent and i have been waiting 4 my money from the social to be sorted out since april still no word so my xmas is canceled tooo. but at least i have my ds an thats all i need for christmas !!

Most seasonal posts were filled in the beginning of November ready to start December in all major supermarkets and for a lot of the hotels etc as they know they are going to be busy and get their act together early enough to sort it out.

I am sorry you have had all this at this time of year cause it is really difficult to get work in the festive period. Good luck swetheart. Have a moan and ignore the posts that are upsetting.