What's your budget per person?

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Just wondering what's reasonable to spend on ILs who are richer than us and often buy us more expensive gifts that we can't match financially.

Do you set a budget per person depending? So, for parents a certain amount, (adult) siblings a certain amount, etc? Or do you spend more on certain people because you anticipate that they will spend more on you?

I don't want to be tight, but equally we can't afford to spend loads.

For DC, I don't add the costs up. Instead, I tend to buy a set number of presents, and cost will be what it will be.

DH - budget of about £100.

My Parents / sibling: £60-70 each
My Grandparents £30
Other family £15 per family
Friends' children £15 each child

DH buys his own presents for his family and friends. I don't get involved with that.

Roughly:
£100 for DP
£50 per parent/sibling
£20 for all other relatives/friends

We have budget of £50 per person for close family (6 people). We are very close to them and like to buy them something nice for Christmas.
For not so close family and friends it's about £20pp (8ish people). Friends dc is about £10 per child (8 kids).

We probably spend an average of £150 per dc (we have 4) but I buy throughout the year to spread the cost.

I tend to splurge on my dh. He doesn't really buy anything for himself throughout the year so I like to treat him at Christmas. This year he has an xbox one for £350.

Woah some of these budgets are very generous! Going above about £30 for a family member that isn't your spouse or child is a bit crazy to me.

Grandparents have sadly passed away.
NC with my parents.
Divorced, so leave ex-H to buy for in-laws.
Agreed with DSIS's a few years ago just to buy a token gesture (£10 each)

Friends children x 5. We all spend £10 on each other's children.

Nephew £100

My DS is an only, so I go a bit mad as I don't have many other people to buy for, so will spend between £500 and £700 on him. Although this year, he has only asked for a dart board, Nerf gun and 2 books.

£60 a head for close family. £15-£30 a head for close friends.

£500 each on dcs 18 and 15.
That's it.

DP - £350
DMum & DDad - normally put in £50-60 with siblings to get something joint. I then buy them a token present at £15-20 each. This year it is £50 on each.
DSiblings - £40
DBest Friend - £20
DPILs - £25.

Also have 3 family birthdays between now and Christmas, so around £30 on each of those.

£100 per child maximum. Nothing for anybody else.

We save throughout the year (£1 a day goes into a savings account from the tax credits, I try and put the bulk of the child benefit in there too) so we can have a decent Xmas. It's the one time I stress.

£25-£30 per person, parents, siblings etc.
£40-£60 per DC - DSS is 13, so normally more is spent on him as the things he wants are more expensive. Possibly up to £100.
DH and I....honestly I can't remember. We don't normally spend a lot on each other though. Probably £20-£30.

We've got our twins birthday on 17th Jan, so have to keep some of the budget (and the list!) for then. Falls right between Dec and Jan paydays - couldn't they have held on for a more convenient birthday?!

I'd like more money to spend as I love buying presents at Xmas, but I'm not sure it would make things easier. A friend of mine bought both of her children and iPad last year as they 'had everything else'. I'm not against them - my dad bought the twins tablets for their birthday this year - but they are only 7 and 9, where can you go from there?

MIL/FIL £60-70 between them
Brother and SILs £25-30 each and same for nieces and nephews
Teacher - upto £20.

Few token gifts like secret Santa, neighbour etc.

No set budget for DS as we only have one so can afford to go overboard at Christmas.

I try and spend on adults what they spend on us, I couldn't accept a large gift when only giving something small as would feel very uncomfortable. Fine for special birthdays but not as a frequent occurrence.

Probably around 20 for most people - like most parents a bit more on the DC, but part of that is maybe mentioning to the rest of the family what they might like. For adults it's a fairly token thing really, but try to choose something personal they might like! Tend to spend a bit more on those it's easy to buy for like my little niece And helping Santa out can get more expensive than you might expect on all that plastic tat - but raises a smile on Christmas morning

No adult presents for family.
Handmade for teachers.
£5-£10 for friends.
£15 for family children.

I suppose around £50 -£100 each or the dc's including stockings,depending on if we have it...

all these people spending a LOT on adults! You are all very generous! We spend around £250 on each of our children (only have the 2), about £40 on my dad, £40 on DH's mum. Roughly £20- £30 on my brother and his partner. £10 each on my friend's children. That's my lot! Only buy for 10 people altogether.

I'm a bit at £250 on your kids to be honest Princess!

Horses for courses and all that

Secret Santas are the way forward I find.

My family is huge (on my dad's side. Weirdly there is only one person on my mum's side and I get them a £10 gift) so we just buy for our own children and everybody else goes into a secret santa (this year there are about 60 people in it aged from 0 to 88!!) I also do secret santa with a group of friends and their children.

So my budget:
My almost 12 year old - around £50
My 7 year old - around £50
My baby - probably nothing! Maybe £10
Family Secret Santa - £20
Friends Secret Santa - £10
Aunt on other side of family - £10

That's just presents though. The amount I spend on the theatre at Christmas can get pretty eye watering. My children know they don't get much in the way of presents because we do so many treat days in the holidays. They're not deprived!

Dh usually about £130 but that's birthday AND Christmas all at once.

Ds and dd - £250 each maximum. Have spent that on dd this year but not in Ds.

Parents £25 each on mine and about the same of dh's.

Godchildren £15

Nieces and nephews £25

Only token gifts for anyone else

We will probably spend £250 each on the kids when it's all said and done ( and then another £200 each a week later on their birthdays!) OUCH!

I spend about £200 on dh and he normally spends a bit more on me ( we have separate finances and he earns more )

We spend perhaps £50 each on our parents
£20 each nieces and nephews (5)
We don't buy for my brother or bil & sil as they've got children - might give them wine or chocolates
£20 on my sister
I make my GPs a Christmas cake which they love.

Then maybe £400 on food, wine, decorations, pantomimes and all the other gubbins.

Yes I suppose so. I think I justify the amount we spend on the fact that we have very, very small family. DH is an only child. I have no nieces or nephews. Meaning we don't have to spend much on any one else and also that no one else buys for our DCs, just my dad and DH's mum, so any presents they want have to come from us. They have no Aunties or uncles on DH's side, no cousins or distant relatives who buy for them. I know Christmas shouldn't be ALL about the presents but I am amazed at ow little I get for my£250. Toys are SO expensive.

No parents alive, so dc and dgc about £50 a head which is a total of £800 also about £50 on cousins' dgc and £30 on friends. I budget about £1000 in total and save from January to pay for it. I wouldn't go into debt for Christmas.

This year's holiday plan will be spending £30 to each member in the family (including the kids). Last year I did the same amount and it did well. Actually, if you will buy in stores that offer Holiday's sale and discounts, you can save up a lot of money, in which you can use for the further Holiday shopping stuff.

We budget

£40/50 each for each of our parents
£30 for dhs grandparents
£30/50 for dhs sister and nephew

anywhere between £200/400 for dh and myself each

and between £500/800 on each of our 3 dds, this year I've spent dd1(11) £580, dd2 (9)£550, £200 on a joint present for them. Dd3(2) £500. Though I have already bought dd3 a coach built silver cross pramfor her bbirthday in February but am trying to convince dh to let her have it for her Christmas that will bump her spend up quite a bit. Spent £40 on xmas eve hamperfor the 3 of them.

It depends on who we see really! We live abroad in a not easy to send parcels country so by agreement we aren't doing UK adults and vice versa. I will send my parents and siblings a hamper though and have spent about £100 on each of my 2 nephews. My siblings transfer money for me to buy for DCs, ranges from £25 to £250!!!

I don't budget for DCs, this year they are having bikes so they will cost a fair amount and I've got some other bits they wanted - Lego, Lego and more Lego.

We will have ILs with us this year so will spend a lot on them - they are wonderful GPs and ILs and are so supportive and loving I want to make them feel special.

DH and I are just doing a token present then are going to have a night away somewhere in January as a present instead....

This year:
Parents £50 each
My grandfather who is pushing 100 but still with us £40
Nieces and nephews £15 -£20 each
DH about £100-150 (if I ever manage to think of anything)
DCs about £250 each this year (previously £200 each)
3 children of close friends - about £15 each

Its about £1000 in presents.

My budget is about £150 each for DH and me and children and about £50 for parents and 1 sibling.

The £150 includes things that we actually need e.g. clothes.

I suppose I would spend more on parents if we had the budget to buy 'luxury' brand gifts like cashmere jumpers, but they are adults and if they want something expensive they are better able to buy it themselves.