What's your budget per person?

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Just wondering what's reasonable to spend on ILs who are richer than us and often buy us more expensive gifts that we can't match financially.

Do you set a budget per person depending? So, for parents a certain amount, (adult) siblings a certain amount, etc? Or do you spend more on certain people because you anticipate that they will spend more on you?

I don't want to be tight, but equally we can't afford to spend loads.

Oh and without fail, every single family member will spend more on us than we do on them.

We have less money! But we choose special, hopefully wanted gifts so the value doesn't really matter.

Each Parent around 40.00 each
Siblings around 30.00 each
Niece around 30.00
Grandmother 20.00
Relatives (a couple of aunties) 7.00 - normally a M&S biscuit tin of sorts
DS - Varies each year, anything from 150 to 400, this year is the lower scale as there isn't anything he has asked for particulary.

DH - 50.00 (we each buy through the year what we want so christmas is normally a DVD and a book of sorts)

I had set myself a budget of 620.00 but I'm at less than 400 and pretty much done.

Around £50 per adult

Our children It depends bit approx £200. Their presents include things they actually need also

I don't have a set budget for anybody

Oh my goodness I'm tight!!!!

My parents about £20 each
My siblings and other halves we stopped buying last year
My nieces and nephews £15 each
DDs about £150 each
DP about £100

DP spends around £25/£30 on the adults in his family although there is talk of stopping with the siblings. Kids on his side around £10.

grandparents, teachers, preschool staff etc just a token gift.

I have a rough budget. Every previous Christmas I had a very strict budget of about £15-20 pp with a £50 pp budget for my parents, split with DSis (so £25 each). DP was an exception at between £50-100 depending on the gift.

I had a huge promotion a year ago and am a bit more solvent now so this is the first Christmas I have splashed out a bit... I will probably rein myself in next year! So:

DSis - about £50-60; DP - £100; DParents - about £100 each, DMIL - about £100-200 (DP will pay most of it - he's an only so she will only get one gift so he likes to make it a big one), DC of our friends (x2) - about £30-50 each (we don't have DC of our own so we like to spoil them) and we have spent £20 on each set of parents (close friends).

Plus I am hosting so am doing all the stockings and the hamper this year - hamper probably about £60 (Christmas PJs for 5 people) and 5x stockings have probably cost £200 altogether, mostly because I keep seeing things I would love to get my sister.

Adding it up like that makes me feel slightly queasy! I do love Christmas though and I love seeing the looks on peoples' faces when they open gifts.

£150 each per child ( 3 children )
Around £100.00 for dp
£25.00 each niece and nephews ( 4 of them )
In laws £15.00
My mother and her husband £50.00 between them
Friends £50.00 between them
All in all including food and presents about £1000.00

We spend roughly 200ish on the children/ each other. I tend to buy myself an investment piece bag/boots/coat and declare it my christmas gift. Relatives 50 quid per couple and 30 for the children. There's only a few of us though.

DP and DC: £60 each
DM DF DMIL: £20 each
BIL/SIL/FIL: £15 for singletons, £20 for couples
Extended cousins: up to £5 each

Dh, about £100
DM £50 ish
Dmil £100 (she looks after kids for us so deserves a treat)
Dds, don't have a budget as such, dd1 expensive this year, £400
Dd2 c£150
Neices/nephew c £40
Scary!

No remaining parents or grandparents to buy for but everyone else gets around the £20 mark spent on them.

This really only includes siblings & nieces/nephews. Between DH & I, we have 7 siblings (including BIL & SIL) and 5 nieces & nephews.

Amongst my family, we are very much the 'poor relations'. Compared to DH's we are fairly well off.

Sometimes one of DH's DSis will ask if it is OK for her to spend less (single parent, trying to pay mortgage on her own on a low wage) and of course it always is.

I genuinely don't give to get though, I'd be happy not to receive anything from anyone. I like watching other people open their gifts instead.

We have secret santa for my brothers, their wives and my parents.!0 adults,we buy a present for one other adult,max spend £15
We have secret santa for the 13 kids (belonging to my 3 brothers and us!)and each family buys for 3 neices/nephews(one family buys for 4) again max £15 so they get a family present each.
My husbands family we buy for individually as there are less of them but max £5 each. I have about 35 people to buy for(not including husband and children and secret santas for family ) so even £5 a present adds up!!!

Oh, and DH & I buy each other gifts with whatever's left after everyone else is bought for.

Sometimes nothing.

We mainly concentrate on the children in this family. We don't do siblings and the wider family apart from Christmas cards, and they don't do each other or us either. That was an agreement made years ago between the adults in the family, including us.

We have three daughters aged between 19 and 12. I will probably spend about £200 in total on them. Less if I can get away with it. That is my general guideline, though it isn't set in stone. Hubby and I generally seem to spend around £50 - £60 on each other (again, not set in stone as we don't consult on that one obviously).

We get my parents book tokens, as they are great readers so it suits. Hubby's mum was usually happy with a nice bottle of vodka and a few fun nick-nacks, but she sadly died earlier this year so it is his first Christmas without her. He and his brother are estranged now, so nothing expected there, and his sister lives in Oz.

Not much at all.

My parents, ILs and siblings all agreed a long time ago to stop exchanging gifts.

DH and I just choose something for the house that we want/need (this year an electric toothbrush ).

Nieces and nephews/godchildren stop receiving gifts at 18 and I only have two under this age now - £20 each.

I only buy for one close friend - around £20.

DS - about £100.

(I am not a total scrooge - I do like to make substantial donations to charity and our local food bank etc & we host a big celebration for neighbours and friends).

We just buy for our two kids (one main present each and a selection box), and give cards to the adults. Very tight budget doesn't allow much else I'm afraid....although I do get crafty at this time of year, so maybe a few lucky people might have a WTF surprise present

Am amazed how much people spend on Christmas
I have one DB and DSIL ,who has grown up children (and grandchildren) from a previous marriage. She's older than my brother . I've never bought said kids presents (except 18th birthday)because she came on the scene when we had no money.
Partly because I cannot stop her buying my now grown- up children presents-they spend about £50 on each of them (2) which they can't afford -and 'token' presents for us (usually specialist whiskey for DH, smellies for me -I do tend to spend about £75 on each (we are not strapped for cash ,and are much better off than them ) My DH is an only child . All our parents are dead.
Until two years ago I still did stocking prezzies (about 25/30 each )for the grown up children, in addition to giving them cash-£100 each - but was beginning to spend ridiculous amounts of money, so have cut right back . As they now have no grandparents and only one 'set' of Uncle/Aunt they don't get much else !
DH and I exchange token presents only, as we tend to travel for gifts .. DVDs and the like . I have to feed in to my daughters what I'd like, or get it myself and inform him.
Years ago when we were broke (redundant husband) I agreed with friends to stop exchanging birthday or Christmas presents for them or their/our children
I don't spend that much on Christmas food either-again have cut right back as the excess became excessive
To me Christmas is having my children home (they live far from us) and having fun

£30 on dh

everyone else I try not to go above £15 but I limit it as 20.

my Ds will try and limit it to about £30 but it might be more.

the bargain thread on here is great have bought lots on that so don't have to meet the budget on some people.

Like Ragwort I am not a scrooge .We too give to charity in lieu.

I don't have a budget as such but I don't normally go over

250 on each dc
100 on dh
50 on my parents
25 on dh nan
30 per couple (3 siblings and their partners)
25 on my niece
5 on my aunt

I usually get a few selection boxes and tubs of chocolates incase I get unexpected gifts off people

DH's family do not celebrate Christmas so we don't buy for them.

My family (brother, sister, mum, dad, 2 x grandmothers) budget £20 each - i e mail in September telling budget and asking for wish lists. £120

2 x children age 2 and 5 £150 each MAX

£100 DH MAX

£250 Food and bits n bobs (go to mums for Christmas and i give her £100 towards food. Dad always orders and pays for meat)

£770 Total

I am pretty sure i am under on the first three but i am crap at the bits n bobs bit - too many crafty things tempt me!

Different for each person were buying for.

£350 plus stocking for each DC,we have 5DC.
£350 on DH with stocking.
£8 for each Dog(3 of them)and £8 for the cat.
£8 on the 3 Rabbits,£5 on the two hamsters.
My Mum and Dad £100-£150 between them.
£35 each on my Brother and Sister-in-law.
£6 each on two adult nephews.(they have no children yet)
£10 each(up to that amount)on 10 Great Nephews and Great Nieces.
£60-£80 on DH's Mum and Dad.
£25-£30 on DH's Nan.
£20 on DH's Auntie.
£10 for my Auntie and Uncle.
£10 for my Auntie and Uncle.
£10 for my Auntie and Uncle.
£8 each on the (8)children's teachers.
£4 per receptionists at the children's schools(2 schools)nice biscuits.
£15 per class(4DC still at school)we send in little Christmas bags.
We buy presents for different children's charity's every year in this and other country's,donate to animal charity's,donate to charity's for the elderly and disabled that will be alone at Christmas and we donate to help people in other Countries as well.
No idea how much the charity things come to though.

We have spent about £150 on dd. We tend to spend between £20-30 on each parent and our siblings. I only have one DN and spend about £30-40 on her. DH and I will spend £50 on each other. Agree with others that it is the thought that counts.

Sorry op didn't answer your question we don't spend according to what each person will spend on us we just spend what we can afford.

My family, siblings etc decided a while ago to only buy presents if we actually see each other (distance means we don't often) though mum sometimes springs presents on us, and of course children get presents (that's two nephews as of this morning )

Dc, no set amount but probably £100 ish plus stocking fillers. First Christmas for dd and have spent £20 as she really doesn't need anything!
Dh, roughly £50 though I've actually got decent ideas this year, so maybe more.
His side, around £20 each on 6 adultr and 2 children, plus £10 secret Santa for his extended family my idea

It's just our family this year so we're going to splash out on the food and some Christmas activities. I'm also rubbish at keeping presents for ds until the day and he's had one already! Not presented as a Christmas present, just given to him spoilt child