your opinion please

[Valiant1]

my dsd23 and bf same age have their first house together. she mentioned in conversion that her bf mum is getting them a microwave for Christmas. I wad going do them a hamper of treats abd a new mug each feels rubish now though so would u just go with it or get them something else. we are skint so it wad the cheap option

Would it be tactless to remind you that it's not a competition?

Microwaves aren't necessarily super expensive (quick Google says Argos do one for £34.99).

You obviously have a budget in mind - your idea sounds useful and thoughtful. Alternatively, you could ask whether there is something within your budget that they would like for their new home?

I know its not just feel the whole experience has been them outdoing us with splashing the cash. I will ask her if there is anything they need

Oh, OP don't change your plans to compare with this other woman.

A thought through hamper is worth a hundred boring old microwaves!!

Anyway, call me old-fashioned but if they want those kind of gifts, they should be getting married rather than this half-hearted co-habiting nonsense!! [waits for tirade of abuse to flood in!!]

it will be expensive I can guarantee u (the microwave)

r u her nan cookie

I was going with
a new mug each
hot chocolate sachets
mini marshmallows
bag of mixed nuts raisins choc- buttons
dorittos
warm fluffy socks...

anything else? they have a posh tv that has films etc on
im not changing it I would love one and we very similar

That sounds lovely.

Maybe a Christmas fleece to snuggle under? Or the first of their new Christmas tree decorations (a "special" one)?

Your idea sounds lovely, it's irrelevant what other people are getting them :)

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Buy some cheap paint and offer to repaint a room for them :)

No I'm not nearly old enough to be anyone's nan, but I can tell she's a lady I could get on with!

I think a hamper made with love and thoughtful gifts is a lovely idea and would stick with it. If you wanted to add something to it and assuming that you may have some spare time ? To be able to do this why not add a book f vouchers eg .. As up thread suggestion one for painting a room, if there is a garden perhaps mowing the lawn or helping create a border, plant a shrub or something .. Perhaps 12 vouchers one for each month of 2015 ?

Add some microwave popcorn, nice tea, coffee/ latte sachets, biscuits & posh chocs and a pack of those sugar stirrers. That's what I added to your items for my sil last year & she loved it. I do a variation of a a pamper hamper for her each year & she expects it too.

I'd far rather have a nicely thought out hamper than a microwave. And I am not just saying that to make you feel better.

thank u x
its private rent no decorating and no gardening.
like the microwave popcorn at coffee sachets to.they have a tasimo and the pods expensive I believe
oo a blanket thank u dh an I have one
sorry didn't mean to upset u
her nan is livid but coming round.

If she expects it MsAsprey I wouldn't bother this year.

If she has a tassimo, they'd probably prefer to get hot chocolate pods for that. It's about £4 for 8.

I did a 'hamper' for a friend a few years back, got maybe 5 jars of stuff like marmalade or chutney, all from Fortnums, wrapped each thing up in nice tissue paper and put it in a gift bag. Cost about £20, chum was very chuffed!

It's a lovely idea (and microwaves are not that expensive, if that's concerning you).

but it will be. I know I'm daft am sticking to the hamper xx thank u all

Goodness??? arnt you just pleased she is going to get a nice mircowave????

If I was you I would be thinking brilliant, how great they will get something useful!!

what a strange way of thinking.

Upset that someone you love I suppose, is going to be given something nice.

Anyway - a hamper would be just as nice and welcome and the hamper your planning sounds lovely and I am sure it will be gratefully received.

And she can heat up her hot choclate in the new mugs, in the microwave

like I said its been a long few months been pushed out of everything we can do no right they do everything bigger and better. now our gift will just seem pants . i will do the Hamper

Oooh.... I just got this. I thought 'bf mum' meant 'best friends' mum!! Which I have to say I thought a bit odd.

Penny just dropped. D'oh!

Mmm.... has your DSD actually said anything to make you think she thinks any less of you and DH because BF family are 'better'?

Or do they just have more money than you and that's playing on your insecurities?

Some people have more money. Some less. You can't let it bother you that someone has the money to buy this young couple things that you don't.

Unless there's more to it than that? c'mon dish the dirt!

dsd once told me she got more before I came along and had four more kids. (her mum died suddely when she was 4 spoilt is an understatement) boyfriend's mum and dad both have good jobs and only two kids. we get on alot better now she isn't a twelve year old brat but supose it is my insecurities. I would like help more with stuff but can't.
god I need relax a bit

stick with your hamper idea- for my first Christmas with my partner in our own place we got a hamper full of treats and to be honest it was the only gift I really remember getting that year. we still get a Christmas hamper and it always goes down a treat (a microwave wouldn't fill me with the same kind of joy a basket of goodies will....)

I hope she told you this as a child?! If not she needs a good slap!

Try and let it go Valiant. She's a grown woman. You have 4 other children to think of too.

thanks ladies she was 14. I am doing the hamper am glad its something that you remember gives me hope xx