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Do you make sure your dc's get all the items on their letter to Santa?

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omama · 15/12/2013 19:28

We finished all our Christmas shopping a few weeks ago. Did letter to Santa last week & DS (3.4) asked me to put 4 items on it - 2 toys, a game & a pack of chocolate coins. We'd already bought the toys & chocolate coins, but hadn't bought the game.

Its a cross between a board game & buckaroo - looks fun but reading reviews think might still be a bit tricky for DS to play until he's a bit older, so not overly keen to buy it. Plus we've already spent plenty on the presents we've already got.

But.... am remembering last year when he didn't get a particular item & went on about it all day I don't want to disappoint him & am having a 'should I buy it?' wobble

Have you ever NOT bought a much wanted item they had asked Santa for? Did they forget about it when they saw all their other presents? clutches at straws & kicks self for not having done letter to Santa earlier Hmm

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AmeliaToppingLovesShopping · 18/12/2013 05:43

My younger 2 DDs (5 and 3) have both got 3 things on their lists and they will both be getting 2 of them.

DD1 has requested a scooter (suggested by me), a baby (doll) and a cat. I did say that Father Christmas doesn't bring live animals but she explained that it was a toy. Of those she will be getting the scooter and the cat.

DD3 is very consistently asking for a boy and girl doll with a pushchair. She will be getting the boy do,l as she doesn't already have one and the pushchair.

Both will also be getting one surprise present.

BlueChampagne · 18/12/2013 12:54

Given that a pony used to feature on my own letters, no!

AngryBuddha · 18/12/2013 13:15

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thegreylady · 18/12/2013 13:35

My dgs wants a remote control Christmas tree that sings, walks and lights up. As far as we can find out no such thing exists!

StillWearingOddSocks · 18/12/2013 15:36

Tbh I would buy the board game. I think you'll kick yourself on the day if not. If money is an issue try a charity shop. Or if you can afford a new game then I would go to early learning centre and get their bopping aliens game or the hanging monkeys game...v suitable for 3 year old..

Happy Christmas whatever you decide

MerryMarigold · 18/12/2013 19:36

Angry Buddha
That is awful. You are setting your boys up for a bad relationship late in life.

ZingChoirsOfAngels · 18/12/2013 20:12

Angry Buddha

I'd never do that and I find that completely shocking.
Christmas and birthdays are not for disciplining them.
It's to show them that you love them, equally.

I feel very sad for your children. what you are doing is horrible.

Luggage16 · 18/12/2013 20:21

Angry Buddha do you not worry that they will think the kids at school who get a lot must be much better behaved than them? I'd worry about their self esteem doing that tbh!

MerryMarigold · 18/12/2013 22:14

I think it's the comparing behavior which is never good but in the context of Christmas and father Christmas, it's so awful. They will hate each other later.

Wandastartup · 18/12/2013 23:22

DD2 asked for a pet- not going to happen. Then asked for roller skates- she is having.done letters at school this week and asked for a robot and a dolly. Have the twitch about the doll despite having loads already!

wonderingsoul · 18/12/2013 23:32

angry.. i am sure you dont mean to casue issoos but cant you see how cruel that is and how it can breed comtempt and push two siblings apart.. how one is favoured and "loved" more then the other.

AngryBuddha · 18/12/2013 23:50

Naughty and nice list etc. I thought it would encourage better behaviour!! Noting to do with loving one more than the other!! After all it is only some pens and chocolate coins, both still get a lovely bigger present from FC.

I will have a re think!

wonderingsoul · 19/12/2013 01:11

they wont see it like that though.. and when they are older and know its really from you they will allways remember that their sibblingbwas the golden child who got more,

I can see where your comingbfrom but really dont think using something that is suppossed to be fun as a punishmeant is good or healthy.

use a reward chart.. something that they can see every day not santa x

gemdrop84 · 19/12/2013 07:41

No she doesn't. She puts about 10 toys on there, we've only got her 3. Santa brings her some cool stuff in her stocking.

WhomessweetWhomes · 19/12/2013 07:48

No letters here. Father Christmas does the stocking full of little things, chocolate coins etc. Other presents are from the giver. The dc mention things they might like but there's no official list.

msmiggins · 19/12/2013 07:49

We don't do letters to Santa. I keep my ears open for a few months before christmas and keep a little notebook of things my kids have mentioned or shown an interest in. They have usually forgotten about most of them when christmas comes, but I haven't, that way they get nice surprises of things they would love and nothing gets left off the "list".

I don't like to stimulate desire.

madmomma · 19/12/2013 07:59

Good God no! Ds asks for everything he sees greedy little bastard
My girls are very sweet and always ask for surprises

notsomuchroomattheinn · 19/12/2013 08:23

My DC lists are really long but don't go directly to FC they go to family who want to know what DC want for Christmas, then they go into Grandmas fire. They always put surprises on the list as well.

There have been years when they didn't get the big present and we had no tantrums or anything.

HerlockSholmes · 19/12/2013 08:42

DS asked santa for hotwheels this year and i swithered between not buying it at all or buying a cheapie one just to please him.

every single one we have had in the past has fallen to bits and i decided even a cheap one at £10 it was a waste of time and money on my budget and he will love everything else and not be fussed.

my mum has decided this is mean so now she is getting it for him.

i thinknits fine not to let them have everything on the list, they cant always expect everything they want.

msmiggins · 19/12/2013 08:44

I'm with you on Hotwheels- frustrating toy all around, for adults and kids.

HerlockSholmes · 19/12/2013 08:50

i have tried telling her but she wont listen. it's £40 and admittedly does look good but i know what they are like.

i am not ungrateful at all but i'd rather she didn't waste her money Sad

CelticPromise · 19/12/2013 09:06

Nope. 4yo DS who is not coordinated enough to manage a scooter will not be getting a skateboard, love him. He will get the other two things on the list, one from FC and one from Nanny.

Moltobene · 19/12/2013 09:18

We always did it that stockings came from father Xmas and that presents come from people. I can't remember ever writing letters to Santa though, maybe that was why.

I think I'm going to keep up the reality that parents get your presents with my DC, when old enough to write letters etc. I'd rather they knew that presents come in the reality/limits of our life.

Partly because reality is we'd need to think as a family team about getting big new items. Also I wouldn't want DC to worry that they hadn't been 'good' enough for Santa to listen or whatever if that exact thing wasn't possible to get. And I really dislike the idea that the list is mandatory. I'll be interested to see if I manage to hold the line on all of this when DC is old enough to protest tho!

cunexttuesonline · 19/12/2013 10:31

Yes, because DS (4yo) has only ever asked for 1 or 2 things. This year he asked for disney infinity and rather vaguely - a superman toy. Last year, it was just a 'pirate boat' and the year before that when was interesting, he asked for a spooky spoon (from numberjacks) book and a cake. Managed to find an old copy of 'out of order' with the bloody spoon in it!

supermariossister · 19/12/2013 16:10

I try to buy the most requested/consistently asked for item on the list but not everything on list. some of it is pantsGrin not actual pants I mean terrible reviews or stuff that will never get used like sd asking for a metal detector when we have nowhere nearby she could use one. we don't do Santa lists though just a list of ideas for presents. Santa brings small things for the end of beds