10 yr old girls.what are you getting yours?

[MikeLitoris]

Dd is having a nexus tablet so just need a few other things.

So far I have a jacket she liked. Will also be getting clothes and trainers.

She doesn't really like board games, lots of craft stuff from last year not been used.

Looking for a few ideas around the £20 mark.

If you want to spoil them then fair enough but on your head be it .

Of course they love it, they are getting everything they ask for ( what's not to like ). I think spending £100- £150 is spoiling, mine get get a lot for that amount. I do think hair extensions and make up for a 8 year old is crazy, and I'm sorry but I'm sure none of her friends have hair extensions and expensive make up ( all my dd2s friends play monster high etc..). And lelli Kelly's for a 21 month old child seems a bit crazy, she will grow out of them in 3 moths and will probably want another pair. It's not the money as such ( though it is a bit OTT ) it's more what you are buying with it. It sounds as though Christmas Day for you is all about presents, it must take up most of the day unwrapping and trying out each thing, do you have time for lunch? A family walk? Watching the queens speech and falling asleep watching tv .

it is ott but for us thats Christmas, I still manage to have it all cleaned away by christmas night and the tree down as am sick of the sight of it by then , meany and my mum cooks for us so we go there

I get carried away too much

It's not about causing offence- well, not for me anyway.

It's that it doesn't seem to be giving the children any idea of the value of money.

How on earth are they ever going to manage on a pittance as students? What jobs could they possibly get as young adults which would live up to their expectations of the kinds of things they should be able to afford?

I really don't want to sound moralistic or lecturing, although I suppose it's almost inevitable. But it's so out of touch with the way of the world, even among the very rich in this country, that it verges on the bizarre.

I've seen the effects of extremely materialistic childhoods on a few acquaintances' kids, and it isn't pretty.

At the end of the day it's obviously up to you, but I have to say that I think you are storing up trouble for the future.

I'm not offended either just strangely fascinated I suppose.
My youngest is ten and I am really treasuring these years( knowing how quickly they pass) where she enjoys toys and isn't in the least bit concerned with what she wears or even aware of labels. She goes to quite a large school, last week there was a disco, there wasn't one child that I saw wearing designer labels and make up seemed to consist of glittery nail polish and maybe clear lip gloss. I can't imagine what your dd's school discos look like.
What will you buy for them as teens when they seem to have all the teen gear already?

three

I agree, if it isn't a wind up you could be more sensitive to others.
It doesn't bother me because I pity people who have to spend a terrific amount of money to be happy or to make their dc happy.
I also pity those who can't tell the difference between need and want.
Maybe your dc would play with lego and other toys if they didn't have so much, stuff?

My 10 year old has got so far:
Kindle fire
Kensington uggs
1d perfume/body wash
Hoodie and t shirt from swimming club
Bag for school
Forbidden island game
New diary of wimpy kid book
Cake baking book (may regret this if I have to taste anything)
Animal hat with attached scarf and gloves.
Onesie
She's also into minecraft but not sure what's available to buy for this.

Blimey Three - I wish my DH would actually listen to stuff I read out from Mumsnet - he might STFU about me overindulging DD if he heard your list!

Anyway, you've had enough flaming and whilst I think you're bonkers, if that's the way you roll then good luck to you!

I had made quite a list before DD wrote hers last week - hopefully it might give you some ideas. As DH is such a scrooge I do all the Christmas shopping. Between my parents & us she'll get most of what's on her list, although she still hasn't done all the scratch art she had for her birthday, and as much as I love Lego it gets put together once then lies in a box for six months. She always gets money from distant relatives so if she wants it that badly she can buy it herself!

DD's (9) Xmas List

Heart lake high Lego
Scratch art
Walkie Talkies
Bedroom lamp
Detective set/game
Guinea pig calendar
Headphones
Bingo game
Wreck it Ralph
Bean bag
Sketch book and pencils
Jw diamond
PJs
Slippers
Trilby
Hair bands
Chemistry set
Harry Potter stuff
Chocs
Usborne spy's guidebook
Spy pens

My Ideas List

DVDs
Epic
Monsters university
The croods
Despicable me 2
Wreck it Ralph

Microscope
Chemistry set
Walkie talkies
Code making kit
IPad WiFi speakers me
Artists portfolio
Watch
WWF junior membership
ITunes gift card
New dressing gown

Ripley's BION Book/Annual
Guinea pig nativity book
Deadly 60 annual
X Factor Live tickets
Magnetic earrings
Funky post its
Hair glitter spray
Shower gel
Simple Skincare set
Novelty ice cube trays
Hot choc, mini mallows, choc stirrers
Slushy cup and syrup
Toasting fork
Impulse/body spray
Funky/light up shoe laces
Baseball boots
Finger lights
Tic tacs all flavours
Happy puzzle co - puzzle eraser, maze pens, IQ blocks
Spirograph
Super graphix

has anydaughters like mine who likenmcfly and remember busted, the mcbusted tickets are going on sale on friday , will be deffo getting some for dd who loved busted as a tot and still does. Busted was the first ever cincert she went to when she was three and she will be thirteen when she goes this time proving her taste in music has not changed in ten years

My dd wants Heartlake High. That will probably be her BIG present this year,

DD has been on about HLH Lego since before her birthday in September, but she had Olivia's house around Easter and it's been built 1.5 times!

I do feel a bit mean not getting for her, but would rather spend the money on stuff that will get used and not just clutter the place up tbh.

I have no idea. Am liking McBusted for my much older dds though just for a retro laugh!

Didn't even know about it so a big thank you for that.

I don't think it's rude. It's the normal flow of conversation on a discussion site, surely? I don't think an exchange of opinions constitutes a flaming either.

I don't think it's rude. It's the normal flow of conversation on a discussion site, surely? I don't think an exchange of opinions constitutes a flaming either.

Well I agree with three, she can post her shopping list all she wants but I must admit when I first read it I was of the opinion that Bof has. She's building her girls up for an almighty fall when they have to survive on their own wage. Hopefully despite the spoiling of epic proportions they'll not descend into horrific debt when they are adults!

Sorry I meant I agree with altinkum.

I intend to add a few books to my list for dd1 as books don't count in my budget, we were going to get dd1 a kindle but after working out the cost of buying it and buying the books my dd likes its a lot cheaper just to buy her the box sets from book people ( as they are so cheap ), am thinking of getting her the hunger games books and a few more Percy Jackson ( I need to see which ones she already has first ), she has also asked for a calculator and some fluffy socks ( because I bought myself some yesterday ). I get carried away every year but I try and buy what I think will be used all year, I know. She would be happy with just a pokemon game but it would only last a month before she completes it.

I think 3 has taken it well, and is aware she is unusual.
I think BOF has hit the nail on the head on why it makes me uneasy, i.e. setting up high expectations and lack of appreciation for the value of money may make for real dissatisfaction in future.
I accept it is hard to get the balance right, though. We go on what others might regard as flash holidays and live in a nice house etc. I am not going to downsize or cut back on holidays in order to help the DCs appreciate the value of money- I try to get them to see those things as my reward for my hard work (while also pointing out that there is a lot of luck involved becuase others work just as hard/harder in different types of job for less money). But I do make sure that they dont get everything they ask for, particularly if I think it is not suitable for their age or is over-priced, and that their pile of presents at CHristmas and birthdays is vaguely within the normal range (even if towards the top end of that range). It helps a lot that DH is quite tight!

ThreemyselfandI = omg, why do they need so much #notagoodlifelesson but thats just IMO :) please adopt me and buy me mac makeup and an ipad lol

I think it is possible to buy a lot of things for children and for them still to appreciate the value of money etc. But I think it is harder and something that you need to actively think about and work on (much more so that if they do not have a lot of material goods). The tone of 3's posts is such that it is not really clear that she does appreciate this - her posts are quite blase (sorry cant do accents). But if she does, fair play to her (and many have said that).

I was not at all shocked that someone would spend £700 per child for Christmas. If money was no truly object (which is unlikely, as it generally comes at the expense of something, be it wider foreign travel, education, etc), I would have no qualms buying mine expensive quality gifts such as this or this or this for Christmas this year I wouldn't buy them a greater number of gifts than they are already getting though, just 'upgrade' some of the ones I do buy them.

What did shock me about three's list was the amount of computer/screen type and 'vanity' related gifts. Of course they very well might be given lots of imaginative and educational toys and books throughout the year. A couple of posts on a thread never gives the complete picture.

I am in general quite blasé with money anyway I always have been thank god dh has more sense than me.

It's really swings and roundabouts.... dds would be happy with 1/4 of what we buy but I buy more as it makes me feel good, unlike other birthdays are not a huge deal in our house £150 max and I don't do partys really, I don't take dds on holiday my parents take them to spain twice a year for a week at a time and I pay nothing towards it. me amd dh save to be able to go to vegas every 2/3 years for a week. different priorities to some of you so where some spend less we spend more and vica versa

If you asked the DC, do you think they would prefer all the christmas presents, or to have half as many anf to have the 1k saved (between 3 children) put aside, say, for a holiday with their parents?

We spend £30-£40 on birthdays, mainly because their birthdays are not that long after Christmas and because we think that is a fair amount. If I had more money I would not buy them more but maybe buy them slightly better gifts (dd would like a kindle but i cant justify buying one this year so she's getting some books). With my dd's i think its more about the amount of gifts rather than what they cost (i guess its more for me as i like seeing their faces when they come down to a pile of presents) but like i say 'most only cost £5 each' so not expensive gifts.

I wouldn't but the things you have mentioned even if i did have the money as i don't think a 10 and 8 year old needs those things, but if i was loaded i would happily buy them a pony or a posh playhouse for in the garden .