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So thinking to Christmas 2012, lessons learnt? Mistakes regretted?

78 replies

TimeWasting · 25/12/2011 22:22

I did very little in the way of Christmas this year and it's been dull.

So next year I plan to decorate with greenery, do crafty activities, make presents, read Night Before Christmas on Christmas Eve, have a nice breakfast etc.

What have you regretted from this year?
What will you def do next year?

(And do I win the prize for earliest Christmas thread???? Xmas Hmm)

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TeaOneSugar · 29/12/2011 10:20

My thoughts so far are;

homemade edible presents went down well so we'll do that again (we didn't do it last year but had previously) especially the gingerbread biscuits and the Cider apple chutney, both recipes have been kept. It was nice to have little things to give people when they called in with presents in the run up to Christmas. We aso made Nigella's snow flecked brownies which were yummy, I might make mini ones as gifts next year.

I need to buy more gift bags for biscuits, and a bigger gingerbread man cutter, before Christmas, when the cake decorating shop still has them in stock.

I've started a spreadsheet for presents and general planning, based on this years so I don't forget how much I spent on everyone etc. I need to add my christmas card list which is currently in a note book, I'll do this when I amend the list based on this years cards recieved.

I've also written down which Christmas pudding I bought this year as it was lovely.

I need to make sure the mil doesn't buy so many desserts from M&S next year, she went totally OTT again and there's so much waste.

Must remember that PIL never buy wine or beers, so we'll need to supply those again, luckily we had lots of wine on the rack and I'd ordered some beers.

Try to get an earlier Ocado slot on christmas eve is possible, or consider a late one on the 23rd next year, alternatively pursuade MIL to book a later M&S pick up slot - it was a bit hectic.

NotMostPeople · 29/12/2011 10:28

DM has decided that she will spend alternate years with us and another member of the family who has no young children so a more adult Christmas. I find this a bit odd, but up to her. This year it was the year she went to them, so wanted to come to us first. They arrived on the 21st and left on the 24th. Pils arrived on Christmas day for two nights. This meant that we were hosting for almost a week. I will not do this again she either comes for Christmas or doesn't.

BeattieBow · 29/12/2011 10:31
  1. I will have Christmas at home. Even if the whole family insists on attending, it is preferable to being at someone else's house.
  2. I will buy presents earlier.
  3. I will go away to Goa on the 27th December.

that's it!

It was mine and H's first Christmas apart and we need to work out a way of doing things better too. I hope things will have settled down enough so that we can open presents together. maybe.

andaPontyinaPearTreeeeee · 29/12/2011 11:23

Glad I saw this thread as I was thinking of starting one myself! On the bus ATM so just marking place for later Xmas Smile

CrotchFlakes · 29/12/2011 11:27

Pluses:
Chicken not turkey
Get ahead gravy
HM bread and cranberry sauce
Wrapping as I went
Buying presents in November, from a list

Deltas:
Visitors for a week, meaning difficulty in seeing anyone else over Christmas
Having a quiet Christmas day at home 'ruined' by having to prep for hoards of visitors on Boxing day
Leaving DS for 5 minutes alone with my mother who called him nasty and annoying
DVDs in Christmas eve boxes were a waste.

TeaOneSugar · 29/12/2011 12:20

Oh, and most importantly, I managed to not be invaded by my mother and pil first thing on Christmas morning this year, we had the house to ourselves until about 11am, it was lovely, we even managed to eat breakfast.

I will insist we do that again next year - after which it will be an official tradition.

AUBINA · 30/12/2011 21:35

I think my main problem is that when the shops start stocking Christmas stuff ridiculously early I get cross and switch off. Then late November I realise I haven't got long and panic. Then I spend the run up feeling anxious and stressed. Also because I leave it so late I have no time to do any craft stuff, which I would enjoy.

So next year I'm going to get all my Christmas gear out of the loft during October half term. I'm going to decide what I need to buy, definitely more wrapping paper, I never get enough. I'm going to write my cards early. I'm going to look at all the crafty cuttings and decide what I would enjoy making. I'm going to remember to put the tree in a bucket of water overnight before we decorate it, so it won't look as droopy as it does this year.

I'm going to do a basic spreadsheet for presents which I did this year, it really helped me focus. On the left hand side I had names and along the top I wrote each present, where I could get it from, when I was going to do that and then I ticked each off as I got it. It enabled me to group presents together, for example those I was going to get from Amazon and do it in one order.

This thread is helping me corral my thoughts!

countessbabycham · 30/12/2011 21:50

I will be more assertive with extended family and ensure my close family's needs are put first.I will not bow to assumptions or "ordered to attend" things unless it suits us.
I will do the deeper cleaning early on so when I have visitors I can do a quick once over,and not exhaust myself having to clean from scratch.
I will do cards earlier.
I will stop leaving the turkey order up to DH alone,as he routinely orders a hugely expensive and hugely huge turkey that we don't need.
And I will try to get less stressed as it just isn't worth it.

Bohica · 30/12/2011 22:12

We have the whole christmas period at home on our own which is lovely.

Next year I will shop through the year and write a list.

Jamie gravy was the best I've ever tasted so will do that again with chicken although I must remember to put the dinner on next year as we didn't eat until 5.30, although we had eaten crab, prawns & smiked salmon for starter at 1ish.

I'm not going to pretend I will make home made gifts, I say it every year and then forget.

I want christmas all wrapped up 2 weeks before the big day.

Pinot · 31/12/2011 11:37

Good thread.

I will space out our social things - 4 days in a row was exhausting and the kids had little time at home with their gifts. Stooopid.

purpleflower123 · 31/12/2011 11:49

Next year I won't give birth at 4am christmas morning.

It has been nice and relaxed though as most people already have plans so we've had a week to relax. DS and DD1 have had quality time too as DS is home from school.

Next year I need to work out how to incorporate a 1st birthday into the mayhem that christmas already is.

I also know not to trust DH with christmas dinner, he burnt the parsnips, roasties and yorkies (all frozen, chuck it in the oven stuff Hmm )

BenderBendingRodriguez · 31/12/2011 12:28

Congratulations purpleflower! :) A new snuggly baby, how lovely. My SIL's birthday is Christmas Day and her family always do Christmas till about 4pm, then birthday celebrations. Which basically means two lots of cake and fizz Grin

As for me, the main aim next year is to stay at home on Christmas Day. We had such a lovely relaxing family time this year, until we had to go to my octogenarian nanna's for lunch with her and my sixtysomething parents. Now that we have two kids, I am using them as the perfect excuse to stay at home and be in charge of lunch so it will actually be festive and nice instead of stress ridden, lukewarm and dry.

andaPontyinaPearTreeeeee · 31/12/2011 12:56

CheerfulYank - have you got an Amazon wishlist? I've found that fantastic for keeping track of presents for people. Anytime I hear/see/think of something somebody might like I search it and add it to the list (you could do a separate 'presents' list). It is SO much easier when it comes to birthdays/Xmas as I have a ready made list of ideas :)

My rules for next year:

  • Don't buy so early. Most of the presents were a hit with the DCs, but as they are getting older their tastes are changing, DD is influenced by school, and was asking for specific things very close to Xmas. I spent way too much. I will always keep an eye on sales but I will think more carefully and not be so guided by what I want them to have IYSWIM!

Do stockings for each other as well as the DCs, including more essential stuff like shower gel, socks etc - this year will be a struggle financially so we won't be buying those things as and when. But we will also put a limit on number of items as the DCs' stocking was ridiculous this year.

Save money - from another thread I nicked the idea of saving all £2 coins we get. Got a money box ready and have a brand new shiny coin to go in on Jan 1st :)

Less presents, better wrapped - I put no effort in and it all looked scruffy. I might buy some decent paper if there's any left next week.

Put aside a bit of cash to buy something (DVD or game) in the sales - I felt a massive slump on Boxing Day mostly due to parents turning up with the contents of the Lost Property Box which apparently counts as a present :( Hmm so I bought Just Dance 3 - less than £20 and a good buy for the family, but if I specifically earmark some money in advance I won't feel guilty about spending it!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 31/12/2011 13:29

Partytights - what is a Christmas Eve box, please?

Lessons learned from this year:

Invite MIL and BIL for christmas - mil helped with all the food preparation and washed up as we went along, whilst I was still cooking, so that I didn't finish the food prep and have to face a mountain of washing up, which made the whole thing much less stressful; and BIL vacuumed the whole house without making me feel like a slattern for not having managed to do it before they arrived.

Next year I'm only going to send cards to people who sent us cards this year - this should halve the postage costs, and the money saved can pay for the christmas goose.

Make homemade mincemeat - lots and lots of it - and make sure I have tons of filo pastry in the house, because mincemeat filo parcels with my home made mincemeat were the hit of christmas. And delia's mincemeat recipe is easy and fun (and fills the house with christmassy smells), and makes the best mincemeat I have ever tasted. Next year I will be giving it as gifts and/or selling it at the christmas craft fair (if they have one next year).

Don't worry about making a christmas pudding - I bought one this year, and most of it is still left over. By the time we'd had a starter and the main course, no-one wanted pudding. Buy one cheaply somewhere.

I will make the stock that Jamie uses for his gravy - but this time I will NOT burn the chicken wings etc right at the start, and end up having to throw out the resultant, slightly charcoal-ey gravy, and start again.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 31/12/2011 13:30

Oh - and can someone organised (ie not me) make a note to resurrect this thread aroundabout the end of August, so we all read the wisdom herein early enough to act on it - please??!

MrsJamin · 31/12/2011 17:27

Do again:

  • Just get a small Turkey joint to do the 4 of us (from Ocado) - ample meat with no leftovers and no washing up!!
  • Glad I made the boys two present sacks from ebay - just sewed on their initials in felt and they looked lovely- should come out year on year now.

Try harder:

  • Need to try harder on decorating the house earlier in December. Tree wasn't up til 18th and came down soon after Christmas day.
  • Send cards to family that we don't see often
Murtette · 01/01/2012 21:13
  • Take a couple of days off at the end of November to do present buying/card writing/wrapping/finding decorations in loft/sorting out DD's toys rather than the whole of the week before Christmas when its too late to do any of that stuff
  • Still take a couple of days off just before Christmas to do the last minute stuff
  • Reduce the number of friends' children I buy for and ask those friends not to buy for DD and then spend the saved money on DD myself so that she gets presents she'll actually like. This year, I saw the mounting pile under of presents from friends under the tree & so got her very little only to find that several of the presents were duplicates or very similar to things she already had.
  • Don't believe DP when he says he's wrapped all of the presents for his relatives and that there is plenty of wrapping paper left. He is lying!
  • Don't give MIL a list of suggested presents on the basis that she will pick one or two as she will actually buy them all making me feel rather greedy!
  • Don't ask DB to buy an integral part of DD's main Christmas present (we'd bought her the kitchen, grandparents were buying pans etc & DB was supposed to be buying some play food) as he is likely to go off and buy her something completely random.
  • Don't eat so much!!!!
CavemanDave · 06/01/2012 17:59

Gawd where to start...
2012 I will remember that we have kids now. Wrapping presents at 1.30am on Christmas morning was not festive. I will remember that DP will not lift a bastarding finger - Christmas is not his thing. If I want it the way I want it then I have to do it myself. However we have had the In The Event Of My Death chat about the whole event and he is suitably chastened.
I will buy and wrap as I go along, labelling appropriately.
Christmas would not be Christmas without:
Dressing gown
Pyjamas
Hat and scarf
So why wait until November to buy the chuffing things?
I will have a go at my own pudding this year.
Christmas Cocktails are essential.
Far to much cheese. Far, far, far too much.

BiddyPop · 11/01/2012 11:46

This year, I went as far as new PJs for us all (DH, DD and I) - had been going up from just DD through DD and I, but found a really soft cuddly set for DH when I was considering only DD - so got a set for me too after all. DH loves them (although he flipped at the price when he asked 10 days later - but they are really cuddly and he has barely had them off to wash since!). Will do that again! And I had stuck in a Christmassy bath bomb too for DD, which she loved and ran to have her bath once she'd lit the candle.

Remember to make at least one batch of cookie dough and freeze it in advance. Usually, in case I can't make fresh on Christmas Eve, I have a log in the freezer to slice through (big chopper works fine) and bake for Santa - he got a biccie from the shop this year.

Remember where the savoury homemade goodies are stashed -so that I can give them as gifts! I had homemade choccies alright as they were freshly made, but chutney, dried herbs and lots of jams were only found on 2nd Jan!

We had a Christmas Eve "dinner" of a tray of meats (parma ham, cooked ham, braseola, salami etc), cheeseboard, olives, cherry tomatoes, sundried tomatoes and a squid/prawns in sweet chili sauce thing, with lovely fresh bread and flavoured olive oil for dipping - which was lovely. Not too heavy, easy to put together, and even DD had plenty to choose. Will DEFINITELY do that again.

Small turkey was good, but dry. DH thinks a crown would be fine (not so sure), but we weren't swimming in leftovers for a week. We had also agreed not to go mad on the meal - we actually forgot to make the melon/parma ham starter, and just had turkey, roasties, brussels (freshly harvested from garden), carrots, DH's special pork meat stuffing, and gravy. Which was lovely and not stressy. With shop-bought pudding later - that WAS a mistake as it was rank - either plead with Mum to make me one again this year or make one myself (after 12 years of marriage, I ought to do it at some stage). We had no cake this year either (MIL usually does that), but it wasn't missed.

Planning pre-Christmas activities for DD was a good idea - I had a list of things for most days, and a backup list of things for when she was "bored" or over-excited, to keep her occupied. Lots will be done again next year, while I still have plenty of new things on the list to get to.

Must remember to get plenty of small choccies though in advance for teh advent calendar, and hide them better. DD found the stash of choc santas (net from Aldi) and snaffled a few extra - so we didn't have enough to get to Christmas Eve and I had to find tremenduously expensive Nutcracker chocs at the last minute for the last few days instead.

While I did ok on buying presents (annual spreadsheet has been rolled over again with new page for 2012 set up and a few ideas), I hadn't left enough time for crafting ideas. So need to start on those sooner. And get clearer ideas for a few tricky ones earlier.

I have accepted that DH is not one to do Christmas before December in general, but he did think about Santa with me at the start of November, and he did that buying and hiding a couple of weeks later.

Also, while purchasing went well, wrapping was a bit of a scramble. I had to finish wrapping for things to be sent off with DH as he unexpectedly went to his parents overnight the week before (just after he was home from overseas), and I did have one to do on Christmas morning. But it was organised chaos rather than mad scramble. Just get organised earlier.

Which would mean less stress on me - I did have one small freak out. But I know I need to build in some quiet time for me that I had forgotten to do this year. And make sure I buy a bath bomb or 2 for myself!

Write my debriefing notes into my noteboook too, to remember everything before Christmas and not as things go wrong on Christmas Eve!

CrotchFlakes · 11/01/2012 14:26

I have to snigger at DH's special pork meat stuffing - how was that for you Grin

higgle · 24/01/2012 17:02

Does anyone know what a Christmas Eve Box is?

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 26/01/2012 21:55

higgle Christmas Eve Box/Christmas Eve Hamper:

I got lovely big Snowman boxes from Homesense (like TK Maxx but only homeware stuff)
new pjs
fleece slippers
annual
Christmas Mug
hot chocolate sachet
small box Christmas biscuits (mini chocolate fingers and Party Rings)
a mixed bag of sweets from Mr Simms (sherbetty, chewy sweets, popping candy)
big chocolate coin
bath bomb from Lush
bag of Reindeer food

I always do the PJs but I've never done the 'proper' hamper.We left ours by the fire for the DCs when they came back from their Christmas Eve walk

I did intend to keep the boxes for the next year (they were lovely) but DD threw up on her brothers on New Years Day Sad

fuzzpig · 28/06/2012 16:09

Well it's less than 6 months to go now so I'm bumping this! May it serve a useful reminder for those who are starting (or continuing) to plan the big day. I posted on this thread in Jan (I was andaPontyinaPearTreeeeee) and I'd forgotten some of my own advice so I'm really glad I've reread it!

I did the £2 collecting thing I mentioned above, and I'm happy to report that after exactly 5 months we had £110! We have used it to by amazon gift cards, which we will use to buy presents (rather than just sticking it in the bank where it'll be eaten up). Doubt we will get as much in the second half of the year as I now have an electronic bus pass so don't carry much cash anymore.

AKMD · 09/07/2012 20:55

It's the June summer sales so I am present buying again. Thankyou Monsoon, Next etc....

jojane · 22/07/2012 20:14

Dressing dh up as father Xmas and taking photo on phone eating the mince pie was a big hit with the kids - really believing daddy heard a noise in the night and spotted father Xmas!
Getting family to club together to get a joint present was good (although don't think dh enjoyed the 2 days of putting together a wooden climbing frame in the rain!)