Preschool gift - oxfam

[MamaMaiasaura]

Is oxfam lifelong learning charity gift acceptable?

That a no I thought it was quite thoughtful to give

I just don't understand what you're saying.

I think it'd a gift that is about you rather than the recipients.

Oh, I thought I'd give ds's preschool charity gift from oxfam for livelonglearning which means it goes to support education in Poorer countries. Bit like giving a goat I guess. I thought they'd get lots of chocs etc and this was a nice alternative. Just wondering what other people thought

Falleadonns - really? I specifically looked for education related so it was linked to preschool. I've never given a charity gift before. It's hard as I've has issues with preschool (diff thread) so tried to be more thoughtful. Bugger

Fallenmadonna (silly phone)

a gift to a preschool?

Yes to preschool. Have I really messed up? should I move this to AIBU

Look, it's a lovely idea in principle, but I think you have to know how it is likely to be taken before it becomes a meaningful gift for someone else. Do you want to thank the preschool staff, or do you want to give money to education charities? Do they want to support education charities?

Ah I thought it was a gift to a child not a school-wouldnt books be better?

I feel really bad now, I thought it was a good idea but I am a. It of a fuzzy head at mo. Been very stressed with preschool so last thing I want to do is cause bad feeling. Actually spent more on charity gift £10 than I would have on chocs tho the monetary value isn't important I know

Pranma - yes books would have been a much better idea, or craft stuff. I didn't think of getting stuff for the actual preschool and should of

I think it's a great idea- had a friend do that last year and many teachers were quite touched, one even said she cried. Of course nursery educators care about the children in less fortunate countries!

I would be a little baffled actually. I would be wondering why you decided to do this and not give a gift to show the staff your apprecaition. I would be worried it was some sort of complicated insult.

Most people, if buying, tend to buy for the staff. I find your idea of buying for the pre school a little strange.

My friend did this last year and bought the teacher and teaching assistants those Oxfam virtual gift things. She spent about £20. I don't like it at all tbh, great if you want to donate to your favourite charity but don't make it into a gift for someone else. But that is just my humble opinion.

So majority verdict is a no. at the complicated insult of I gave it with chocs would it be less insulting. I'm so silly I'm actually crying. That might be partly do to with non stop screaming baby tho too

Oh no don't cry :( . Some people obviously like it (like my friend) or they wouldn't do it. Do people like receiving the charity gifts like a goat? I just think that supporting a charity is a thing between the person and the charity and not about someone else, but that is just my opinion. Maybe some better person than me would like it. You did ask for opinions and I don't think it is clear from your original post that you had already bought it, I thought you were just canvasing for opinions. In the greater scheme of things there will probably receive loads of chocolates. Maybe something for the class would be better next time but if you have already bought it, just forget about it and hand it over. Don't be sad, it really doesn't matter what random strangers think!

awen - it's all cool, really .a very nice gesture. my dh is a teacher and though he is touched by all gifts, we do find all the sweet stuff overwhelming at times. always mean to pass it on but then always eat it and feel rubbish. i think my dd's preschool would be very happy to get the charity gift (kinds of fits in with their ethos), ds' preschool, they would be surprised, but wouldn't mind one bit.

i really disagree with the poster who said it said more about you than the recipients. ain't that the case with most of these type of gifts? be they home made fudge or pricey M&S vouchers or whatevers.

so please don't worry

OMG, don't cry. I think it's a brilliant idea. A good preschool will leap on it and use it as an opportunity to do all kinds of stuff on children in other countries, other religions and traditions, different weather, maps, animals and farming etc etc.

I'd think MUCH less of anyone who didn't like a charity gift, let alone professionals who should be able to appreciate the difference it makes and the opportunities for learning.

It helps hearing other opinions tho, and I really wasn't sure on this. I'm just pretty exhausted generally so tears enivitable (sp) at present. Have had hard time with preschool, dd 7 weeks and spends lots of day crying and a fair few things been going on, so anything upsets me

Seriously, I would be very surprised (and sad) if they weren't delighted and pinned it on the wall.

I think it is a lovely idea! In fact, I think I will do the same