Join me in a Bedwetting Support thread? Pls

[Nuttybear]

My lovely Ds is 5 years old and still wetting the bed. Sadly, it runs in the family my brother was about 8-90 years before he stopped and my sister 11-12 years. My DH doesn't remember and my Mother-in-law is deceased so I can't ask her about DH.
I have spoken to the School nurse and Eric website. He might have a small bladder and I know we have keep him drink during the day. I also know that they will not investigate futher until he is 6-7 yrs old. He is otherwie health. I know what we need to do just need some support in helping us through. Anyone like to join me?
Must dash to the shops now will be back later. Promise

My oldest daughter is 12 and has just stopped wetting the bed - prob 4/5 nights in the last 5 mths. Tbh i have done nothing about it because trying to encourage her and help her be dry seemed to make her even more dissapointed when she woke up with wet pull ups. We tyreated it as something she would grow out of when she was ready and she has. On of her brothers was 7 before he was dry but her 2 other siblings were dry at night before they were 2. I'm sure this is more common than people think. Although we didn't do anything as in medication, alarms etc we were sensible about the amount she drank in the evening, going to the loo before bed etc. It will happen one day,the best advice i can give is to relax about it and don't let him know you're concerned as this could make him think it's an issue when it's really not.

Oh,and couls you get him some pull ups so at least he isn't waking up wet and uncomfortable? Eric sells some good waterproof bed covers and you may be able to get pull ups on prescription - ask your h.v

numptysmummy - how did you DD cope on school trips, sleepovers etc. That is what worries me and my DD (7) most. I am not keen on the medication route and pull ups seem to really irritate her and make her very sore so at home we just change bedding as necessary.

Dd was fine - we always had a quiet word with whoever was in charge and i made sure she always had a plastic bag with her to put the wet pull ups in. Perhaps she could just use pull ups for sleep overs? Have you tried different brands, they are a bit like nappies in the sense that different brands suit different people. Eric does absorbent pants that look like normal pants - perhaps she could wear them under her p.js instead for sleepovers. Tbh we have never made a big thing about it and she hasn't been too woried. She chose to tell her close mates and they have been really good,never teased her or made her feel different.

hi all i have a dd thats 7 and still wets the bed aleast once a month. do i need to see a specialist for her and how .

specialists can be accessed by GP referral. I think in some areas you can self-refer, but not where we are.

I'm not sure you really need help if it's that infrequent though. They'll be able to offer advice, but the alarms are expensive (to the NHS, free for you to borrow) and often have a waiting list and I don't think would help for very occasional accidents.

sorry, meant to say more...

have you ntoiced any pattern to the accidents? given they are so infrequent I wonder if you can pinpoint why they happen?

general advice is to....

-avoid drinking in the hour before bedtime (sips ok, big drink not)
-avoid dark drinks (e.g. blackcurrant, hot choc) or anything with caffeine (tea, coffee, coke)
-encourage lots of drinks in the day
-wee at bedtime, then brush teeth then wee again
-don't bother lifting or waking the child for a wee in the night
-don't get cross or shout as it won't help
-having a second set of bedding on the bed makes changes in the middle of the night much easier!
-remember that 10% of 5 year olds and 5% of 10 year olds wet the bed, it's normal and nothing to seriously worry about

I'm sure she'll grow out of it eventually, just try to relax about it

Just joined this thread as DD12 wet the bed last night for the first time since she was about 5. She is utterly devastated, miserable and fearful - I have downplayed it totally, washed the bed, tried to reassure her she was exhausted and probably did not wake up in time.

Any words of wisdom I can pass on would be appreciated. Thanks

Just to offer my support. I wet the bed practically every night until I was 13 and just grew out of it. I was shouted at, smacked, grounded and nothing worked. I can't describe how dark those years were.

You all sound lovely with your children and I'm sure you'll get dry PJs faster than my mother did.

We are going to try harder to stick by the rules. DS starting to wet the bed even with a nappy. I don't know if we should try without them?

Going to the Drynights event via MN. Let you know what I have found out.