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Front-bottom question for mothers of girls

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Snowstorm · 30/10/2009 17:35

Our girls seem to get red looking front bottoms every now and again. Assume it's because they're often in too much of a rush to wipe their bottoms properly after they've had a pee, even though we've ticked them off for it and remind them that they need to do it properly etc. etc. So, I've got into the habit of having a quick look at their bottoms after their baths each night and if they're looking red (as opposed to the usual colour) then I put a bit of Sudacrem on them and then that clears up the red patch and we carry on as usual until the next time.

Just wondered though - do most mums check their girls' front bottoms regularly - ie. is it normal for girls to sometimes get extra red looking bottoms - or it is just a case of making sure they wash properly in the bath each night and then only having a look if a child flags a problem?

TIA.

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Snowstorm · 30/10/2009 18:05

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AllGoneSouth · 30/10/2009 18:09

Well mine are teenagers now but I certainly kept an eye out for those red flare ups and used the Sudacrem when needed. If I didn't they would only tell me when they were really sore so I always thought it best to nip it in the bud.

ruddynorah · 30/10/2009 18:10

dd tells us if she has a sore vulva. she's fine with wiping. but we will use sudocreme if she's complaining.

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Snowstorm · 30/10/2009 18:12

So for you it was quite normal for this to happen then?

Have no recollection of any of this kind of stuff from when I was young (too long ago!)... but it's not exactly the kind of conversation that I'm going to have with anyone at the school gates, if you know what I mean!

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ruddynorah · 30/10/2009 18:44

not normal like it happens every week. my point is that dd tells me if it's sore and if she wants cream. i don't go inspecting on a regular basis. she is 3. i'm talking maybe every 2 or 3 months.

hercules1 · 30/10/2009 18:49

Can't you on a site for adults with posts here written and read by adults call it by it's correct biological term?

That said, I think it should be called by the correct term by kids too.

VaginaShmergina · 30/10/2009 18:59

I refer to my vagina and my daughters vagina to her as a front bottom and she is 9, its up to each parent what term they use, I think the poster was doing just that tbh. Hers gets red every once in a while too, but we use Canesten as she is prone to thrush.

I have a friend that calls her DD's a fanny and sees nowt wrong with that either and her DD's are 3 and 5. Like I said an individual thing and the poster should not be under attack for it, especially as you had no help to offer hercules1.

VaginaShmergina · 30/10/2009 19:00

And no I did not invent my name just for this thread lol

hercules1 · 30/10/2009 19:06

I can kind of understand if you want to do that for kids but surely we're all adults here.

Yes, I thought you'd name changed

ruddynorah · 30/10/2009 19:07

i don't think the OP means vagina though. they probably mean vulva ie the outer genitals. could be wrong though.

passthevino · 30/10/2009 19:08

Nothing wrong with having a quick look to check and nip any flare ups in the bud. I checked regularly until my DD was old enough to tell me if she was sore and sudocremed as necessary! My DD was quite prone to redness as well, same problem I think, ie. not wiping after weeing!

Also, agree with VaginaShmergina - totally up to you what you call your kids bits. Don't think anyone was ever mentally scarred for life because it was referred to as a 'front bottom' when they were little!

VaginaShmergina · 30/10/2009 19:09

lol hercules 1 I thought as much, I'm quick but not that quick

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Snowstorm · 30/10/2009 19:12

VaginaShmergina - it did cross my mind that you might have done!

Hercules1 - I don't really need to refer to it as anything in my adult life and as my mind was on my children I automatically called it what they've ended up calling it (even though they know what the correct terms are).

Call it what you want - that wasn't the point of this thread. The point was to ask a question that I wasn't comfortable asking people I know in RL because it feels a bit personal.

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Jujubean77 · 30/10/2009 19:12

I have to check DD every couple of days as she gets a very sore vulva and just won't wipe properly.

We call in Min btw each to their own!

hercules1 · 30/10/2009 19:13

I would say refering to (not sure what the op is refering to- could be vulva/labia etc) it as front bottom in front of other adults is kind of telling of some sort of mental scarring for life!

hercules1 · 30/10/2009 19:14

Do people really use these names in front of other adults in real life?

hercules1 · 30/10/2009 19:15

I sound like I am attacking you, I'm not. Just curious as to why you use this term (and other posters) when talking with adults.
You've answered the question though .

totallyawesome · 30/10/2009 19:21

my dd's gets red if she is over-zealous with the wiping.

and I can't for the life of me think what we call it in this house. I also can't think what I have called it to adult friends in RL (if it has ever been the topic of conversation).

MrFibble · 30/10/2009 19:26

it's a quim.

yes, dd's is occasionally a bit red and sore. sudacrem does the job. think it is caused by lack of wiping.

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Snowstorm · 30/10/2009 19:40

Brilliant - thank you everyone who replied, it's set my mind at rest.

hercules1 - I don't think you're attacking me ... you are simply being presumptious. I don't know what you talk to your friends about but my RL adult conversations really don't revolve around any form of genitalia and so this really isn't an issue in my life. Thank you for your contribution though ... and I shall do my very best not to perplex you with my inadvertent and slapdash choice of vocabularly in future threads

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kerrywells2006 · 03/11/2009 17:19

I also get this with my 3 yo. She has herself decided that she has girls bits and her brother boys bits which is fine with me!!

jumble · 03/11/2009 17:27

My 5yo quite often gets a bit red and seems to be CONSTANTLY going for a wee (4 times in a 90 minute film!) Dr said if they are a bit sensitive in this area, it can feel like they need a wee even if they don't. she has had a urine test in the past which came back clear. Has anyone else had a similar experience? I really don't want to go to the Drs again! also, is it possible for them to get 'into the habit' of frequent weeing and do damage to the 'holding it in' muscles? I try to make her hold on at home, is this the right thing to do? sorry if this seems like a hijack, just seemed to be a thread with similar 'symptom' on!

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Snowstorm · 03/11/2009 22:13

DD2 started weeing a lot last Easter. Before we knew it, her need to go to the loo was determining when we left the house, what we did, etc. etc. In order to go to the doctor with a proper idea of what was going on, I had to keep a 'loo diary' for a couple of days (very, VERY time consuming, but needs must). This involved noting down what DD2 felt she needed the loo for; whether or not it happened; and, whether it was a big wee/poo or a small one. Dr saw immediately that DD2 was going to the loo waaaaaaay too much. She prodded DD2's tummy and said that it all felt fine and obviously DD2 had to produce wee samples (which came back clear) and we ended up going for blood tests (clear).

In the end, DD2 was diasgnosed as having 'irritable bladder' syndrome. I've forgotten a bit about it as the issue is over and all's fine now but I think it meant that it WAS a physical thing and not a mental one (which we'd wondered about) and that somewhere along the line things had got out of hand and now a tiny bit of wee in DD2's bladder felt the same as a whole bladderful and so when she needed the loo she genuinely thought that she had to go to the loo and was bursting.

The 'cure' was to re-train her bladder. Every time she needed the loo then we'd make her wait 2 minutes ... and once we'd done that for a while then we extended it to 5 minutes and then 10 minutes and so on.

I think that DD2, albeit at only 5 years old, was hugely relieved to know that the doctor was on her side and that she wasn't to blame for going to the loo so much - that alone, I believe, contributed a lot to her return to normal. The bladder training went well and by the time we got to holding on an extra 10 minutes, things were pretty much back to normal and we haven't looked back.

Still don't completely understand why it all happened but that was our situation - maybe it might help you?

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MsHighwater · 03/11/2009 22:18

My 4 yo's external genitalia gets red and sore from time to time and we use Sudocrem to clear it up. I think it's inadequate wiping in her case.

madrush · 03/11/2009 22:32

My DD1 used to get a sore, red vulva quite frequently and I eventually realised she wasn't wiping front to back properly after a wee.

Hercules1, is saying "having a wee" sign of disturbance in my past?

DD2 gets redness infrequently but I wouldn't say I have a regular check and mostly I wouldn't do anything unless she said it was sore.

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