safety earring backs???

NattyPlus2andAHalf · 2009-01-04T17:14:50+00:00

my daughter is constantly loosing earings and its driving me nuts! does anyone know of any kid of safety backs for kids earrings that actually stay put?? thanks

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AnarchyAunt · 04/01/2009 17:18

If she keeps losing them maybe she is too young for them? I'd not bother replacing any jewellery my DD lost tbh - their responsibility IMO.

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NattyPlus2andAHalf · 04/01/2009 17:20

she is only 18months so she is not doing it on purpose. need to keep them in otherwise they will close up.
i know claires earrings have safety backs but they only lasted 6 months!

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AuntieMaggie · 04/01/2009 17:25

18 months!

I'd say she was too young for them anyway.

Can't understand why you would pierce your child's ears when their too young to decide it's what they want.

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NattyPlus2andAHalf · 04/01/2009 17:31

i'd say thats my decision not urs thank you.

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AMumInScotland · 04/01/2009 17:34

TBH I doubt any of the "safety" backs would actually pass the "choke test" for an under-3 Why not let them heal over and get them done when she's a bit older? If she did swallow an earring or choke on it, it could do her serious harm - not so much the plastic back but the stud itself.

AnarchyAunt · 04/01/2009 18:55

Its your decision.

But she is one. She will lose them, she may eat them - its not a judgement its just fact.

BabyBaby123 · 04/01/2009 19:17

complete waste of time at that age imo - if she keeps pulling at them, maybe they are uncomfortable?? I would let her ears heal and then let her chose if she wants them done when she's old enough

DisasterArea · 04/01/2009 19:23

perhaps the fates are trying to tell you something.... but won't be judgey. i find that i shed earings all over the place but my most expensive shiny diamondy ones have really firm backs and haven't ever lost them. so go for expensive ones.

norksinmywaistband · 04/01/2009 21:00

Don't like earrings in small children BUT please get some studs made at your local jeweller if you want to keep them in. I did this for my diamond studs and the can make earrings with screw fixings for the butterfly that prevent it working loose and also make the back less pointy and uncomfortable.

Must say I don't sleep in earrings as I find it too painful, maybe your DD is pulling at them in her sleep for this reason

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NattyPlus2andAHalf · 04/01/2009 21:03

i take them out after her bath, and pop them back in the mornings, i cant sleep in studs either. i know when i had mine done i was 16 and couldnt sleep for weeks when they were first done cos u cant take them out for 6 weeks.
screw ones you say? sounds interesting i will check with my jewellers see if they can do them.
someone on another thread said to try hoops, but i dont want her to catch them.
there arnt any other types are there? only studs and hoops?

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fishie · 04/01/2009 21:08

no there aren't any other types. and yes you can't put an 18mo in hoops and expect any happy ending.

why on earth are you bothering with the earrings if you are taking them out half the time? it does seem an awful faff, like putting hair in rags for ringlets or something.

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NattyPlus2andAHalf · 04/01/2009 21:14

take them out in the evenings to avoid her being uncomfortable, takes 30 secs.
she loves her earrings, she loves to pick them out and often brings me a diff set to put in if she doesnt like the ones ive chosen that day. she is very grown up for her age, she speaks in full sentances, dresses herself (picking her own outfits) loves shoe shopping etc etc.
she is much more like her 2 1/2 year old brother than an 18months old. she actually asked me to get her ears done when her friend had hers done.
i dont see the harm, she will more than likely have them done in a couple of years when she starts school, so may as well get it done now so she doesnt remember the discomfort.
so no leaving them out ISNT an option, why would i take something she loves so much away from her?

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luvaduck · 04/01/2009 21:15

earrings in an 18mo

and i would argue that its her decision - not yours - and if she doesn't want them when shes old enough to decide then you will have scarred her.

i really don't get why you would do this to a baby. sorry.

AuntieMaggie · 04/01/2009 21:17

She asked you at a year old to have her ears pierced?

AnarchyAunt · 04/01/2009 21:19

I find the idea of an 18mo being encouraged to be concerned about her clothes and jewellery a bit tbh.

BabyBaby123 · 04/01/2009 21:19

she asked you if she could get her ears pierced? sounds to me like you are trying to make her into a 'mini me' or something - she's a baby!! And please god don't put the poor child in hoops

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NattyPlus2andAHalf · 04/01/2009 21:24

jeez ppl have their babies ears done much younger than 18months.
and yes she did ask, she is very advanced for her age.
she is not being encouraged, SHE is making these decisions not me, i havent asked her or told her to be like this, she just IS this way, she likes to look pretty, whats wrong with that?
i personally dont wear earrings often, or jewellry, or anything much more than a tshirt and jeans. so shes not got this from me.
shes just one of those kids that likes to dress up nice.

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BabyBaby123 · 04/01/2009 21:27

lol at 'she is making these decisions for me' if she told you she wanted to stay up all night and eat crap, or have a drink of your wine would you let her?? fgs - SHE IS A BABY

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NattyPlus2andAHalf · 04/01/2009 21:30

obviously there are limits, but whats the harm with letting her pick what tshirt she wants to wear? or which earrings she would like in?
i fail to understand why you think having earrings is on a par with drinking alchole..

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AMumInScotland · 04/01/2009 21:34

Well, personally I do think that allowing an 18 month old to have small sharp objects has a lot in common with alcohol, in that it is very likely to cause her harm. Choosing an outfit is not likely to do that, unless you let her go out in the snow in her swimsuit.

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NattyPlus2andAHalf · 04/01/2009 21:52

yeah course not! i have had a few times when she has wanted to wear sandels in the rain lol, so that started a conversation about certain shoes for certain weather. when its raining now she says "its welly weather mummy!"

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shortcircuit · 06/01/2009 13:27

sounds like a right brat...the mother that is.

Let her be a child FGS

sausagenmash · 10/01/2009 12:39

I wasn't allowed my ears to be pierced until I was 16. Was out with my parents, and I MADE Dad let me get them done, as 'mummy said I could' - she then saw them and went BALLISTIC. I was 6. Oops. I was allowed to keep them in though, though only studs till I was 16. I do agree with others on here that 18months is a little too young - I'm a childrens nurse and I have seen little ones on the wards with torn ears and its so sad. However, as you say, its your decision - just be careful - as I'm sure you are - maybe she can have them for special occasions when wearing pretty things - like visting grandparents or something? Good luck x

katesmomnewyork · 10/02/2009 17:35

I think you ladies are being extremely rude to Natty. She asked a simple question and you are judging her and what kind of mother she is. How about being supportive?!
Natty--the best earrings for the little ones, in my opinion, are the "huggies". They are little hoops that are completely smooth all around and too small to get their little fingers inside of. I can post a link if you are interested.

Have a lovely day ladies---yeesh!!

katesmomnewyork · 10/02/2009 17:36

I think you ladies are being extremely rude to Natty. She asked a simple question and you are judging her and what kind of mother she is. How about being supportive?!
Natty--the best earrings for the little ones, in my opinion, are the "huggies". They are little hoops that are completely smooth all around and too small to get their little fingers inside of. I can post a link if you are interested.

Have a lovely day ladies---yeesh!!