advice needed please in a panic :(

[iliketosleep]

Today my 15 week old nephew stopped breathing and had to be given mouth to mouth. He has now been transferred to b'ham childrens hospital, sedated and put on respitery (??) aid. They suspect a viral infection.

I was with him on friday with my 5 week old DD and am now petrified the same could happen

is a viral infection contagious??

any advice gratefully recieved

TIA

So sorry for your loss.
Thinking of you all.
x

Oh crap.

I am so sorry for you all.

How am i supposed to feel now? I'm feeling guilty as life is carrying on as normal, but life HAS to carry on as normal. I've laughed with the children all the time thinking i shouldn't be, I havent cried today (although did yesterday alot) its like it hasnt happened, but it has, or im trying to forget its happened all the time knowing that it has.

Does this make sense? i'm already very 'fuzzy' in my head from a few days after DD was born so now im totally screwed.

I'm also panicking as I dont think I would be able to handle the funeral but is it not my duty as sister/auntie to be there? The thought of seeing that tiny coffin really scares me. It could possibly tip me over the edge of how I feel at the moment.

Oh crap

iliketosleep, please don't feel guilty.
different people deal with grief in different ways.
if you think you need help with feeling 'fuzzy' then please go and see your GP, and explain what you're going through.
The funeral will be hard for everyone, and seeing the tiny coffin brings home the sad reality of it all, but don't be scared. You will all help each other through it.
Of course you will need to try and keep life as normal as possible for your children.
perhaps you could focus on being there for your DB and his partner once the funeral is over, when people inevitably go back to their lives and routines.
imo that is one of the toughest times.
i'm sorry you're all having to go through this.
keep talking about little samuel, and reminding each other how much joy he brought to you all.

How terribly sad xxxxx

You have to carry on as you have no other option. Your family and new baby need you too. It is unbearably cruel what has happened and we all wish we could make things better, but they will never be the same again and you have to make a different life now.

i think humphrey has put it very well

if you are worried about your own well being , then you must see your doctor.

the funeral will be agony, but also a time to give thanks for his brief and love filled life.

you will get through it togethr

I have been watching this thread over the last few days and feel incredibly sad for you and your family. Can't really add anything that hasn't already been said but wanted you to know my thoughts are with you.

Oh ILTS so so sorry for your poor family
Its understandable that you feel fuzzy. Its happened so quickly and its totally understandable that you are worried for your dd , especially as so much happened before she was born iyswim. It was a long road to get her and obviously makes you worry more about anything happening.
Don't feel guilty about life carrying on- like you have said, it has to and it doesn't mean that you aren't thinking about it all the time

I'm glad the end was peaceful for little sam and that your DB and DP have the outlook they do. Only time will help, not to forget but to continue.

{{{hugs}}} to you all.
xxxx

oh no, I am so sorry to read this.

mytetherisending?? you know me? do i know you?

Yes you are right about DD and the long road to get her but what makes it EVEN worse is DB and DP lost a little one the week before mine, she actually walked past me in the ultrasound department but i didnt recognise her

They seem to be bearing up, taking one day at a time.

My dad cried my dad NEVER cries he didnt even cry when his own mum and dad passed away! but seeing sam on all those machines and how tiny he was tore him to pieces.

sigh

feeling so so sad for you and your family at this very sad time

I am so very very sorry for your loss - you are right, life is so cruel

I'm so, so sorry iliketosleep...just got back from weekend away and shocked to hear news of your little dn. Thinking of you and your family, and especially Sam's parents.