Doctor refusing to let me inform her of concerns about 17dd health

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Made an appointment to see a functional doctor for DD 17. Filled in forms and paid for appointment (£££!).

Simplified version: DD keeps getting ill. Also not taking care of herself in normal teenage way; poor diet, sleeps in daylight hours. I wanted to pass on these two pieces of info to Dr before attending appointment in the hope that she would bear it in mind when making a treatment plan,

Receptionist/assistant came back to me and said that it would not be possible for me to pass on info to Dr as DD is classed as an adult and me telling them things about her compromises her privacy,

I've cancelled the appointment because it just seems very awkward and frankly not sensible, but is it even right?

I've spoken to my dad's GP before about concerns, GP made it clear that obvs he can't comment on anything, but is willing and happy to listen.

YABU. She is 17 and perfectly capable of sharing what info she feels is relevant with the GP. I’m surprised you were even making the appointment. Mine all organised their own drs appointments at that age.

A functional doctor 🤣🤣🤣🤣
with its great evidence base.

My DS signed a form at16 that said I could speak to the Dr on his behalf and they could discuss his health with me.

‘Functional doctor.’ I thought it was an autocorrect fail! Turns out it’s a bollocks-woo thing.

'Functional medicine (FM) is a form of alternative medicine that encompasses a number of unproven and disproven methods and treatments'

Yeah, probably best to cancel the appointment with a quack. An alternative to actual medicine and science isn't going to be of any use.

Our gp is age 14 - I have a permission form to talk to the gp for the ones that are autistics. Is a functional doctor even registered? Sounds like complete bollocks. Not show how they would have diagnosed my rare chronic autoimmune disease without traditional methods.

Stop interfering in your daughter's private medical issues, OP.

This.

🦆 quack quack

Is a functional doctor one for functional conditions? Because that sounds like it would do more harm than good! She's 17, of course they won't discuss here without her present!

What a load of bollocks. Sounds like she is a teenager being a teenager. What sort of treatment plan where you expecting?

It is hardly revolutionary information. Presumably the first is obvious hence the visit, and the second is something I'm sure they will explore with your dd. If you dd isn't willing to share that info, then she isn't going to be in the right mental space to make any changes, so no point in you interfering. You need to take a big step back and let your dd get on with it.

*revelationary

Most teenagers sleep in the day and have poor sleep patterns!!

Functional Doctor 🤣🤣

Are you in the UK I didn't think we had that kind of quackery over here yet?

I had to look it up, initially I thought she meant an actual GP that functions and has appointments 😄

What's a functional doctor, does your daughter want to see them, is it a medical doctor. If you're concerned would dd see her GP but not eating well and sleeping in the day is common. Have you spoken to dd.

I can save your money and make a plan for your Dd. She needs to eat a balanced diet, plenty of fruit and veg, drink plenty of water. maybe take a vitamin supplement. Have good sleep health, so no tv or mobile phone late at night. I’m sure her gp could check her iron and vit d levels if you feel she’s very tired. Not sure what else they could recommend which would be of any benefit 🤷‍♀️. Do these doctors give you the hard sell for expensive supplements or treatment after the appointment?

It's a grey area. My dd wanted to increase her medication and the GP said they wanted a parent involved. I guess because a 17 year old is not necessarily mature enough to decide things like increasing the dose of psychometric drugs

Do you know how many young people commit suicide because no one flagged up the issue if their mental health with the GP

It's not the GP, it's a expensive private functional doctor

DDs issues are not due to her normal teenage lifestyle, but are not helped by it, and as a seasoned parent of teenagers, her lack of exposure to daylight is in the range of abnormal.
As some of you have expressed such an interest in finding out more about functional medicine, I'll tell you a bit about it. The functional Dr is a fully qualified and very experienced GP who worked for many years in the NHS. Functional treatment involves blood tests and stool tests and a thorough analysis of deficiencies, abnormalities, anomalies, intolerances and allergies. A special focus is on gut microbiome, which most of you could do with finding out about, it's very interesting and important. I have previously taken a teen for treatment to this Dr and she enjoyed a significant improvement in health.

Also, obviously DD is on board with this, she's 17, she does not do what she's told 😂. My objection is to the principle, which I think, whilst probably defensible, is awkward, a bit literal and not very sensible. Honestly if you guys knew what I was paying for this, you'd blow a gasket. However, since none of us want that to happen, I wish you a happy and relaxing evening, and I hope it is filled with the festive joy of telling people exactly what you think about everything. 🍷

Thanks @burntheleaves for your good faith answer.

Mn had a wierd view of parents 'interfering' into a dc's health.
I took Dh to a difficult long awaited hospital appointment, on purpose. They treat you differently when you have a witness. Why is a mum attending a dd appointment any different?

I LOVE that @WhyDoesDenisNotRhymeWithPenis ’an actual GP that functions….’

Thank you for making me smile today 🙂

Have you tried to get her to take high dose vitamin d supplements? Has she been tested? From what you say she must be seriously deficient and vitamin d deficiency causes awful symptoms.