Circumcision - what to tell them?

[MandiBarker]

Hello;

I was wondering if anyone could share experiences on preparing a child for circumcision - this is for an older child (3-11 years old), so please don’t yell at me about baby circumcision.

In particular:

• How much did you tell your son beforehand, what did you tell them and how much detail did you go into?
• What did you tell your son afterwards what did you tell him happened? What kind of questions did they have? Do they remember?
• What are the cosmetic differences to expect after a circumcision and how hard is it for them to get accustomed to that?
• How empowered did the doctors make you feel as to how much it was a choice for you to go forward with the procedure versus being a medical necessity, etc?
• Did you explain to them it’s permanent, if so how did you do that?

Because so many people are dumb as fuck and prefer to mutilate their children rather than think for themselves. I wish these people would stop reproducing.

Good for you! Who had tears and tantrums lol 😂... also does anyone need to have a conversation about a child's penis? 😵‍💫

Please don't do it. You have just as much say in this as your husband.

It ought to be, unless done for genuine medical reasons. It's no different to FGM.

@FloofCloud my mum had tears and tantrums. I think she felt I was judging her decision to have my brother done. It also helped my English SIL stand strong and not have my nephews done when I told her we weren’t having our son done.

Good for you - more people should think for Themselves and not just follow the crowd

I wouldn’t say people put themselves and their children through the procedure to “follow the crowd” like the whole convo is saying it’s either for medical or religious reasons. Thankyou :)

Yes but if it’s done for religious, then wait until he’s older and let him choose what to do with his body and let him choose if he wants to follow the faith or not.

Yes and of course I'm meaning for cultural reasons, medical reasons are a whole different conversation

Good - hope it goes alright for your 8 year old - I'm sure it will, it's best done under general anaesthetic.

Good - I'm glad for you and your son. It would have been better done under general anaesthetic though - I hope he didn't suffer any pain!

I'm sure its fine for the majority of boys.

What's the thinking behind it all though ? What on earth has religion to do with mutilating a baby boy ?
Genuine question, what's it all about ?

Medical reasons. 💯 and my every sympathy

Cultural/religious. - it's abuse

We were just told on Wednesday that our three year old son will need to be circumcised to stop recurrent infections as his foreskin retracts, then cannot return to its original position naturally and gets sore from rubbing on his clothes. I don't understand how they think no foreskin will help the rubbing problem though?
Absolutely gutted for the poor lamb, it's such a shame. 😞

Must admit I’m a bit puzzled as well as being circumcised will expose the entire head. Please don’t worry though assuming it is the right thing to do, it is very easy and routine as a procedure at that age. My nephew had it done at a similar age and my DH had done as an adult as it was an option among others and he is really happy he had it done ( as am I 😊😊)