Worried about bug for Christmas

[Londongirl86]

Hi everyone. My friend's sister had a sickness bug last weekend and into the mid week. My friend went around Friday with her little girl. I sort of said to be careful as it can linger. Her daughter's never had a bug before. I thought she was being to casual about it.

She messaged me this morning and said her daughter has been throwing up all day.

I know this sounds selfish and I get that these things are out of my control but.... It's Christmas next week. I was so excited for these last four days of school before breaking up for family time. But my dd is best friends with this child and she also gets stomach bugs most years. So if my friends child goes back this week there's a huge change we will have it by the weekend and it could be in our house then for Christmas. I don't mean to be a dick but I'm feeling so anxious. I don't want my little boy to get it either his birthdays next week.

All the money we have spent. We've made plans to have family to ours for the first year. I'm cooking my first dinner. Now it's looking highly likely we will be sick. I know my friend wont keep him home for four days. But 48 hours was not enough in her sisters case.

I can't exactly tell my child to keep away from her or not hold hands on Tuesday or Wednesday.

Not really looking for advice but just feel so gutted we have to worry about this ruining this long awaited break and family time. Please don't let us be ill for Christmas

Just popping on to say, if your little one is 4 you won't get in trouble for attendance, they legally don't have to be in school until 5 and schools don't get marked for attendance until they are 5 ☺️ hope you manage to dodge the bug

Did you tell the school? Its not just you, it's the other 30 kids in the class, their families, the teachers.

@Strangerthingshere OP has been evading that question so I think it's a no.

Which makes her just as selfish as the friend will the ill child IMO.

@BaubleTheLumpOfCoal totally agree

Yes and If you’d explained to the school it leaves you in an awkward position, they have a very clever way of asking the child. So I’m sure he would’ve said!! Therefore it ‘wouldn’t have come from you’ 😉

Alright everyone no need to start having ago at me. For your information I emailed the school yesterday and suggested they reminded parents of the 48 hour policy as I'm aware of a child going back to early! I am awaiting response.

Why didn't you just ring them and tell them the truth?
That child is still going back to the school environment while sick, because you've bailed out and written an email instead of phoning the school directly to inform them.
Of course they're going to take a bit of time to get back to emails, by then it's already too late.

Incredibly selfish from you there, pulled the ladder up on teachers, kids and staff from around the school and have potentially ruined their Christmas but hey, at least your DD won't get it.

@BaubleTheLumpOfCoal

Please don't start trying to find a way to start a war on this thread. I'm not selfish at all. I'm not responsible for her choices! The school should not be allowing kids back after vomiting even once to be fair! It was no good ringing up telling tales when they believe her over eating story. How would they decide who to believe??? I've emailed them and hopefully they send out the 48 hour reminder and it might make them think twice about making exceptions!

Also my child was near the child yesterday so we are not in the clear!

@Rldx2

Thanks that's good to know. Hopefully we won't be in this situation again for a while. My friend's feeling rough as anything with it so I'm hoping she now realises how it spreads and how it is to actually go through it. Maybe next time she will stop and think!

I’m the same! I’m actually worrying myself sick about it.

I teach in my children’s school and trust me, your friends child isn’t the only one. The vast majority of children come back to school straight after vomiting. Once a day, a child comes up to me and says, ‘I don’t want to wash my lunch/I feel sick’ and when I ask if they’ve been sick, they say not since last night.
We have norovirus spreading like fire around my school. I want to keep the kids home, but at the same time, I don’t want my anxiety forcing them to miss out on the fun activities when they might not even catch it.

Really hoping you stay clear of it op!
I've bitten the bullet with mine, they've been in all week. Hoping we avoid anything, especially since we are all just over a horrible cough. If they end up ill over Xmas then next year I am booking the last week off as holiday and we will go to visit mil! We never ever take term time holiday but I will for this reason.

I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you. I have the same fear and am terrified.
Bobstersmum - I have considered this too

It's shocking. I would be so worried my child would relapse at school. Its silly because the person who goes back to soon will be well for Christmas but others won't be. It's so irresponsible and I think more warnings and fines should given out to parents bringing a kid in before 48 hours. It's infectious and yes unavoidable at times but it could easily be cut down with common sense and parents taking responsibility for their own kids. Teachers are not there to keep an eye on your child are they? Yes I've taken mine back after a day off with a cold and said ring me if you don't think they are well enough. But stomach bugs If it happened on Tuesday for example id keep mine home for the rest of the week! X

My DS was ill on Monday with sickness and I've kept him off since then. Won't be going back now until after the Christmas holidays.

I am completely with you on this OP - I loathe people who don’t stick to the 48 hours rule. It is so incredibly selfish.

However, your friend’s daughter most likely caught it from going to her aunt’s house, not from her actual aunt if you see what I mean? Norovirus can live on hard surfaces for 3 weeks so she probably touched something in the house with particles of the virus on it (a remote control, anywhere in the bathroom,- light switch etc etc) and put her fingers in her mouth. It’s much more likely that she caught it that way than from person who had it themselves. That doesn’t excuse to it friend from sending her daughter into school too early though - the main risk is that the child goes to the toilet, wipes, doesn’t wash hands properly and the virus is passed in via every surface she touches, or that she relapsed and throws up in the classroom. If she washes her hand after going to the toilet and isn’t sick/doesn’t have diarrhoea again at school then it’s unlikely that a child would catch it from, for example, holding hands with her.

@christmasquestion

That's a very good fact you've just written. Thank you. Hopefully my child or anyone elses hasn't come Into contact with the virus. So my friend will have it from cleaning the carpets up on Sunday. We are about 49-55 hours after exposure so fingers crossed for a sick free Christmas x

Well my 5 year old has come home and had diarrhoea 5 times up to press. He's fine in himself at the moment eaten his tea etc but still keeps going to the loo. Something going on though so will be a case of watch and wait here too now!

@bobstersmum oh no poor boy. Hope it doesn't last long. Hopefully as he's not being sick it's food related. Hope all is ok x

Any update op thinking of you!

So far so good. I think she's managed to avoid it as it's been around 72_78 hours since exposure x