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My dd3 has tooth decay

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Darksideofthemoon19 · 25/09/2019 07:27

My dd3 has a tooth at the black that’s turning brown.

I feel awful and such a shitty mum. She brushes every other day because she hates it and I can’t pin her down. She doesn’t drink squash or anything, and rarely has sweets but she loves milk.

I feel sick 😩

I’m going to ring the dentist today and try and get her in.

I don’t know what to do 😔😔😔

What will the dentist do?

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

valleysareus · 25/09/2019 07:32

If it's decayed he probably will pull it out. She may not like her teeth been brushed but you need to do it twice a day. Can you make a game of it?

Kidssendingmenuts · 25/09/2019 07:33

If it's not hurting her they will probably wait for it to fall out. My son had one and because it didn't hurt they filled it and drummed home to him how important it is to reach right to the back teeth. They try not to pull them nowadays as with kids they tend to put them under rather than an injection (or they do in our area up north) x

AnnaMariaDreams · 25/09/2019 07:38

At 3 it’ll be a referral for a GA. 3 is pre cooperative.
I’m a bit shocked you only brush her teeth every other day . I pinned DS down twice a day at 3 and he has good teeth now and is happy to have his teeth brushed.
If it makes you feel better you aren’t the only one. The most common reason for children to be admitted to hospital is GA extractions.

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Darksideofthemoon19 · 25/09/2019 07:53

Because I’m not willing to pin my child down to do her teeth.

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enjoyingscience · 25/09/2019 07:56

Sorry for your DD, but every other day is pretty bad.

They might pull it, possibly under GA at that age. Hopefully the dentist will be able to save it.

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 25/09/2019 07:58

My DC was the same and unfortunately I did have to pin them - after a couple of nights like that and then banning any "treats" and earning them teeth would fall out if they didn't they now do it daily

I would say pinning them is much kinder to them in the long term than letting their tooth decay continue sorry

ThursdayLastWeek · 25/09/2019 07:58

Tooth brushing is definitely one of the acceptable pinning down situations. And car seats IMO.

Good luck at the dentist.

NutFreeFlight · 25/09/2019 08:00

You feel awful about it but when told they need brushing twice a day you make excuses. If not, these are the consequences. Live with it or do something about it.

sashh · 25/09/2019 08:02

Is it the teeth brushing she hates or the tooth paste? When I was little toothpaste hurt, so the dentist told me (I was about 7) and my mum to brush with just water.

And have you tried a musical toothbrush?

pollysproggle · 25/09/2019 08:03

Not the greatest advice but my toddler was the same. I ended up telling him there was spiders in his teeth and I had to get them out. He instantly opens his mouth and let me brush them and now does a bit himself.

He was too young to understand germs so I used something he did understand.

EspressoX10 · 25/09/2019 08:04

You're not willing to pin your child down, so as a result she might have to get a general anesthestic with all the risks associated.

DD has ASD and is non-verbal and during her toddlerhood we have had periods of intense distress at baths/teeth brushing etc.

We call these "non-negotiable" in our home and see it as basic well-being and care.

italianfiat · 25/09/2019 08:05

Because I’m not willing to pin my child down to do her teeth.

It is less traumatic for both you and them than pinning them down to have a tooth extracted.

Ask the dentist for advice on tooth brushing going forward. And get her seen ASAP

PotteringAlong · 25/09/2019 08:06

It’s going to be worse to pin her down to have her tooth out...

Pin your child down and clean her teeth!

AuntieMarys · 25/09/2019 08:06

The dentist is going to tell you to clean her teeth twice a day. Are you going to ignore the dentist too?
Poor child.

AMAM8916 · 25/09/2019 08:08

I hand the toothbrush to my son and let him chew it then quickly grab it and do a once over to make sure they are brushed. Perhaps you could try that?

sanityisamyth · 25/09/2019 08:10

@Darksideofthemoon19

Because I’m not willing to pin my child down to do her teeth.

You need to pin her down. I pinned my DS down as I know what's good for him. He still hates his teeth done at 5 and we have battled morning and evening but he has perfect teeth.

If you're not willing, then more of her teeth will rot. Which is worse?

Thirtyrock39 · 25/09/2019 08:10

Try the brush dj app- it plays music while you brush or get a two minute egg timer. Make sure you're using the right amount of fluoride in her toothpaste. The most important brush is the last one before bed and don't let her have anything other than water after that.
You do need to increase the tooth brushing as her adult teeth will already be developing in her gums now and can be affected as well with decay in baby teeth

AgathaF · 25/09/2019 08:10

Because I’m not willing to pin my child down to do her teeth - you're the parent. So parent her.

troppibambini · 25/09/2019 08:12

Oh my god! Brush her teeth twice a day. Shockingly bad parenting.

Moominfan · 25/09/2019 08:13

Because I’m not willing to pin my child down to do her teeth.

She might not like it but tooth decay? That's far worse. It's neglect

ChrisPrattsFace · 25/09/2019 08:14

I was that child who’d parents didn’t make me brush my teeth, I’d had many removed by GA by the age of ten because my teeth were rotten.
I now have an incredible fear of the dentist because it was relentless. I would much rather have been pinned and brushed - which likely wouldn’t be remember after the fact.
Speak to your dentist about ways to encourage brushing and stick to it. Good luck OP!

sanityisamyth · 25/09/2019 08:23

@Darksideofthemoon19 I'm not saying you're putting fizzy drinks in a bottle for her but this was interesting reading nonetheless.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-politics-49679193

HJWT · 25/09/2019 08:24

@Darksideofthemoon19
Your not willing to pin your child down to brush her teeth ??? Are you willing to pin her down so she can be put to sleep!! If you don't start brushing her teeth properly she will end up having a few out. 2 of my nieces have had teeth removed and it was horrific having to watch them be put to sleep crying and trying to pull the gas mask of their face 😪

My DD is 3 and we struggle to brush her teeth she watches videos on YT that helps and we tell her we have to "brush of the yellow bits" we also took her to the dentist recently and they gave her a sticker for doing good teeth brushing! Sometime she cry's if she is tired but I still brush her teeth, Its 60 seconds it won't kill her...

ThatFlamingCandle · 25/09/2019 08:26

You need to pin her down ffs, sorry to sound harsh but that's why her tooth is decaying.

No child likes having their teeth brushed, or at least very few.

With my toddler I'll try and get her to cooperate, if not, she's getting pinned down. She shouts and screams whilst I'm doing it and as soon as I stop, she stops.

She's not in pain so why on Earth are you not just doing it anyway?

Blossom28 · 25/09/2019 08:33

So after this one gets pulled out, will you continue with your every other day brushing regimen? Or will you up it to every day, or even perhaps twice a day? You need to pin your child down to brush her teeth, 60 seconds compared to constant toothache and multiple extractions - I know what I would choose. You are not being kind to your daughter by not brushing her teeth, it is neglect.

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