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Pics attached: is this normal?

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user1482334903 · 31/05/2017 14:07

Hi,

I am very worried about this so please bear with me.

I have noticed that my daughter (3.5) has a slight ridge/groove on the left hand side of her forehead. Looking back at old photos of her, it is evident that this has always been there.

However, for the last couple of months, I have noticed a fleshy lump when she raises her eyebrows or in certain bright lights. You can see this on the picture I have attached.

Anyway, I have seen the doctor about this A few times and she has said she said this is 100 percent just the countering of her forehead and that it's completely normal - she just has an asymmetrical forehead which is also normal.

But very time I see it I feel sick to my stomach with worry. I should point out that I trust my gp and she knows how much I worry. But in the photos of my daughter her as a baby, the lump doesn't look as prominent and I didn't even notice it as a baby.

My daughter has always had a fringe and only recently I've started to pin it back but I can notice it in certain lights or if she pulls certain faces. In the pic attached she is pulling a face, in the second pic, she is not.

Looking for reassurance.

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WowOoo · 31/05/2017 20:37

My son has a similar ridge on his head from an injury.
I've been reassured that it's just the bone now and that it's getting better. If not, the bones are healing the best they can - sometimes it looks weird. Sometimes it's just the way bones grow - injury or not. If it makes you feel better we didn't notice it for ages.

Our bones are strong - including your daughters'. x

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user1482334903 · 31/05/2017 20:37

I'm just worried the gp has it wrong in all honesty. She is the most senior gp at the practice and i do trust her. She also knows that I am the type of person to seek another opinion so it does give me reassurance that she said "100 percent". I even asked if I should keep an eye on it and monitor it and she said "no, it's absolutely normal". But it doesn't look "normal" when she is in the bath and all I can see is a fleshy lump. That's why it makes me worry.

I am torn between believing it is amxiety or believing it is something wrong.

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Ecureuil · 31/05/2017 20:39

A fleshy lump is usually just a lump of flesh.

youarenotkiddingme · 31/05/2017 20:43

My mum noticed I have a ridge on my forehead - she noticed when I was 29! She thinks it's where I feel head first off a hanging table when I was 18 months!

She looked back at photos and then decided to announce that - it must be that because I've noticed it seems to be there in certain lights and angles

Young children's bones are soft.

PurpleDaisies · 31/05/2017 20:45

Op what makes you think you're better able to know what's normal than a very experienced gp (who you'vr said you trust) who had seen hundreds on children's heads? It's not logical.

Wolfiefan · 31/05/2017 20:49

Your mind imagines all kinds of sinister things?
That's the problem. Your mind. Your child isn't sick.
I agree with purple. It's not logical.
Please go back to this GP that you say you trust. Maybe print this thread off. Ask for treatment for your anxiety. Stop trying to justify something completely illogical and seek help.

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user1482334903 · 31/05/2017 20:53

Purple daisies - I can see what you mean. I do trust her.

Thanks for the stories the rest of you. I've been looking at photos and she definitely has the ridge since birth, but not the fatty lump. I did also mention that to the gp and she said their foreheads change shape as they grow.

Wowooo I am glad your little one is ok. What kind of injury was it? I have wondered whether this was caused by an old head bump ( she certainly has a few during the early walking stages).

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LapinR0se · 31/05/2017 21:03

You are repeatedly asking us to look at the ridge and talk about the ridge. You will not get the resssurance you need from this forum. 99 posters could say it's fine and 1 might express doubts and you would cling on to that 1 person's opinion as validating your anxiety.
You clearly have anxiety about this. Please get help for it. This is not about the ridge/lump/fleshy bump. It is about YOU.

scrivette · 31/05/2017 21:03

My almost 2 year old has the same on his head, when he was younger and visited the hospital Paediatrician he said that there was nothing to worry about.

Hotpinkangel19 · 31/05/2017 21:07

Sweetheart, you have health anxiety. I have it too, how long have you been feeling like this? Please get some help for it before it ruins your life. It's horrible xxxx

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 31/05/2017 21:13

You must be careful not to pass your anxiety to your daughter. She will pick up on it and start to mirror your obsessing.
I understand it must be difficult.

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user1482334903 · 31/05/2017 21:23

Thank you all for your advice. You have really helped to reassure me that it's my anxiety that's the problem.

Believe it or not, I am a "fun" mum. My daughter is my universe.

To all of you suffering from anxiety - it is a terrible thing, especially when you worry about your children x

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user1482334903 · 31/05/2017 21:24

Hoptin, I have had anxiety issues since losing my mother when I was 19 (I am 32 now). Day to day I am fine but I suppose I do seek confirmation after confirmation when anything niggles at me such as this.

How are you with your health anxiety?

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user1482334903 · 31/05/2017 21:26

Scrivette, I am glad your son is fine. What did they say it was? And can I ask why your gp referred you to the hospital for it? Xxx

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Hotpinkangel19 · 31/05/2017 21:34

I'm terrible at the moment. I found out I was pregnant so had to come straight off my medication plus my mum has weeks to live and I'm not in a good place with it all right now. I'm worried I have a blood clot and it's horrible. I know how it feels. Becoming a mum made it 10 x worse as you worry even more don't you xxx

scrivette · 31/05/2017 21:36

DS had an extremely flat head when he was born at the back and side, even now it's still pretty flat and at 6 weeks the GP referred him to the hospital just to have it checked out.

They were perfectly happy with his head shape and the line/bump at the front and said it was purely cosmetic. The ridge/groove on your DD's head is virtually identical to DS'.

Hotpinkangel19 · 31/05/2017 21:42

I'm the same OP, I need constant reassurance. Lumps especially worry me. So if it helps (it probably won't) I can see the lump you are talking about and I can promise you that if it was on any of my DC's I would not worry AT all. And this is from a lump worrying expert!!!!

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user1482334903 · 31/05/2017 21:51

I am so sorry to hear about your mum. Sending you lots of love xxx

Thank you for your reassurance both. It does help to know others have had similar experiences or what their thoughts would be.

I am glad your sons head turned out to be nothing to worry about.

I am sat here looking through old pictures of her. And while the bump is there in some photos, it is definitely more pronounced now as she is growing x

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StarUtopia · 31/05/2017 21:55

I can't see anything wrong/weird with any of those pictures?!

In fact, if my kids were still up, I would go and take pictures of their foreheads to prove, I reckon most kids have weird kind of bumps!

I will definitely have a look tomorrow!

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user1482334903 · 31/05/2017 21:59

Lol they probably do! My husband can't see it either but I can. In fact, it's all I can see when I look at her with her hair pinned back. In the bath under the light, it is really fleshy. Just a little bump along the groove in her head.

My husband has quite a ridge on his head - also left of centre but no bump.

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user1482334903 · 31/05/2017 22:00

Hotpin - congratulations on your pregnancy! Must be difficult coming off your medication. Health anxiety is certainly difficult. I hope you have a healthy and happy pregnancy xxx

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pigyoinkoinks · 31/05/2017 22:17

I used to have 2 bumps either side of my forehead as a kid... as I grew so did my head and now my forehead is pretty bump free!

My mum used to constantly point out any 'problem' she thought we had (she had anxiety and ended up having a severe breakdown because she never got it treated properly)

I still remember her constantly asking doctors or nan if we were ok... please please don't draw any more attention to that area for your daughters sake.
I used to hide the fact she was upsetting me to spare her feelings.

Unfortunately she never got better and our relationship isn't that great now. I still get remarks and passing comments.

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user1482334903 · 31/05/2017 22:22

I am sorry about what happened with you and your mother.

I never mention any of my anxieties in front of my daughter. I know too well how awful anxiety is to live with and I don't want her growing up to be fearful. She is a very happy child but I do know where you are coming from. Thank you xxx

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Wolfiefan · 31/05/2017 22:26

There's no way on earth you took her to the doctor twice to ask the doctor about her head and mentioned nothing in front of her.
You are deluding yourself.

tessiebear4 · 31/05/2017 22:32

I genuinely can't see anything there at all!
But as others have said, it's for the GP to tell you. That's their job! And they don't mess around, especially where children are concerned.

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