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10 yr old DS has a very big bum.

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 23/08/2015 15:45

My 10 year old boy is 4ft9 and rather plump, he has chunky thighs, a fairly large belly and a fat face. But i've recently noticed how big his bum is, it's by far the fattest part of his body and looks slightly out of proportion compared to the rest of him. It seems unusual for a boy to have this issue. Anyone know what causes it ? Should I be concerned at all ? Any answers will be much appreciated :)

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HarshbutfairTess33 · 23/08/2015 17:46

When you go shopping for his new term school trousers with him, I wonder whether he may say "Does my bum look big in this"

I must apologise for making a joke out of something which is obviously troubling you.

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 23/08/2015 18:13

HarshbutfairTess33 - He does actually ask that about clothes sometimes :)

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poorbuthappy · 23/08/2015 18:14

How much does he weigh?

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 23/08/2015 18:18

6 stone 10lbs

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QOD · 23/08/2015 18:19

It's just where us shorties pack it on

I'm 5ft and recently put on a stone (major.surgery and nearly a year not able to exercise ) and it's all on my arse, tummy and outer thighs

poorbuthappy · 23/08/2015 18:22

Is 4ft 9 short for his age? I would probably keep an eye on it, but not necessarily worry - there's a lot a growing to be done yet.

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 23/08/2015 18:26

I think my son is more or less average in height, there's plenty of kids taller than him but he doesn't seem that short.

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ShooBeeDooBeeDoo · 23/08/2015 18:29

It may just be that he stores his excess weight there. From what you've said he is carrying a lot of excess weight.

My 10 year old ds is 4'10" and weighs 5 stone 3. He is uber sporty and looks "ripped".

I would keep an eye on his weight and perhaps see your GP if you're worried.

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 23/08/2015 18:50

What is the average weight for a 10 year old ?

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Dirtymistress · 23/08/2015 18:53

My Dp was ample bottomed at that age and extremely self conscious about it. He's now 6.2 and lean with a perfectly proportioned behind. Perhaps it's just a weird phase?

OiledBegg · 23/08/2015 19:01

I've just put your DS's measurements into the NHS BMI calculator and he is just into the overweight bracket, maybe his bum is where any excess weight is going to go and if he lost a couple of lb it'd shrink?

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 23/08/2015 19:06

He eats more than he should, if he ate a bit less that would help a lot.

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Bogburglar99 · 23/08/2015 19:07

I think it might be part of him carrying a bit of extra weight and/or having a muscular build. My 9yo DS is a stocky type - your natural rugby prop forward - and has quite a big bum. For comparison he's 4ft5, around 5 stone, and comes out on the 80-85th centile for bmi when I use the online calculator. IE not quite overweight but I do have to be vigilant about how much he eats and provide plenty of exercise turn off the bloody Minecraft

So I wouldn't worry specifically about the bum, but might give some thought to his weight, diet and exercise generally. The NHS bmi online calculator is a good starting point.

www.nhs.uk/Tools/Pages/Healthyweightcalculator.aspx

imjustahead · 23/08/2015 19:18

friend of mine's ds was similarly proportioned at that age, and now he's almost a different looking lad, aged 15 tall and lean.
I am only commenting because she really struggled for a year or so to find boys trousers to fit him, and I remember her being frustrated by all the sizing.

He's got a long time to grown and develop yet op, so hang in there.

Bogburglar99 · 23/08/2015 19:24

What does he like to eat? Are you able to cut down how much you serve him, or change what the family eats a bit? Also maybe ask about school dinners - DS also likes his food and was not helped by a very generous policy on seconds!

It's all very gentle at this age and isn't about drastic diets, you just want to make some changes so as they grow taller they don't put on more weight, and sort of grow into their weight if you see what I mean!

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 23/08/2015 19:31

imjustahead - My son has terrible trouble with trousers and shorts too. I always need to buy him new school trousers because they keep splitting or ripping.

He eats whatever he can get his hands on really. He does like McDonalds and KFC, but I try to limit how much fast food he eats.

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Skiingmaniac · 25/08/2015 19:11

I was about to post a similar question - my ds (9) is 4ft8 and is 6st3lbs - he looks fine clothed but is chunky round the tummy - roll and no sign of ribs.

However, I'm not sure how else to help him. He has a good varied diet (although this is only due to my enforcement) and gets plenty of exercise - about 2 hours per day or sport including swim training.

Not sure what else to do!

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 25/08/2015 22:24

Skiingmaniac- He does more than my son. I'm lucky if he does any exercise ever. I try to persuade him to but he's incredibly reluctant.

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Littlefish · 25/08/2015 22:29

Why don't you have a chat with the school nurse when term starts again. When I looked at a child's BMI chart, it puts your ds into the "overweight" band. The school nurse will look at small changes you can make to your lifestyle to try and make sure that your ds doesn't put on any more weight until he has grown taller.

What exercise do you think you could do together with him? Could you go swimming or bike riding together? What does he do when he's at home? Do you have a trampoline? They are excellent exercise.

My 10 year old dd is 5ft 1 and weighs 6 stone 4. This puts her on the 50th centile, right in the middle of a healthy weight. I think your ds worked out as being on the 92nd centile.

llhj · 25/08/2015 22:33

Are you black? Some black people have a tendency to store fat on our arses. It's just the way we are. Some people covet this. Check out Beyoncé.

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 25/08/2015 22:42

Neither me or my son are black. I'm trying to find activities my son will do but he's just ridiculously lazy. He's got a trampoline in the back garden, but he hasn't used it for years. I'm trying to find him an incentive to exercise.

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Littlefish · 25/08/2015 22:49

What does he do when he's at home?

What does he like doing?

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 25/08/2015 23:22

When he's at home he'll eat, play on his Xbox and use his iPad, these are the things he likes doing. He thinks all exercise is pointless, hard or stupid.

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Littlefish · 25/08/2015 23:32

I think the first thing to do is limit the amount of time he spends on screens.

I heard an interesting idea to help children begin to self regulate which was to make sure that the ipad has 100% charge on a Monday morning, and then set a time limit to say when it will be re-charged. This could be every other day, every five days, or once a week. The important thing is that once the charge has been used up, you absolutely don't re-charge it until the arranged time. It is up to the child how they use the charge - ie. it could be for a bit every day, or all at once, but once the charge is gone, it's gone!

Only you know whether something like this would work with your son or whether you need to dictate a certain amount of time one screens each day.

Does he do more exercise during term time?

BertrandRussell · 25/08/2015 23:37

"He eats whatever he can get his hands on really. He does like McDonalds and KFC, but I try to limit how much fast food he eats."

Can I ask- why do you say "try"? Are there other people who buy it for him?

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