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10 yr old DS has a very big bum.

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 23/08/2015 15:45

My 10 year old boy is 4ft9 and rather plump, he has chunky thighs, a fairly large belly and a fat face. But i've recently noticed how big his bum is, it's by far the fattest part of his body and looks slightly out of proportion compared to the rest of him. It seems unusual for a boy to have this issue. Anyone know what causes it ? Should I be concerned at all ? Any answers will be much appreciated :)

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mrsfollowill · 25/08/2015 23:37

My DS was similar at that age was a bit overweight but changed during the six weeks summer hols. He grew 6 inches taller between the end of year 6 and the start of year 7. He started at senior school looking quite literally unrecognisable to his classmates he had not seen over the summer as a skinny beanpole. About to start year 9, and wearing skinny fit trousers. Encourage healthy eating and exercise for now Smile you might be surprised. He also started puberty and suddenly sported a fine mustache he is very proud of Grin

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 25/08/2015 23:41

He's just as bad during term time. He puts very little effort into PE lessons according to his teacher.

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Eva50 · 26/08/2015 13:21

My Ds3 (9) dislikes sport, mostly due to having 2 left feet. He far prefers his x-box and iPad. Fortunately he doesn't have a huge appetite (yet). I find inviting a friend swimming, to the park or to soft play means that he runs about (or swims whilst I wrinkle) for a couple of hours non stop and doesn't realise he's doing it. He also got one of those V-triker scooters for his birthday and that's a great hit.

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 27/08/2015 13:24

I take my son to the swimming baths occasionally but he can't swim and is very reluctant to do anything in the water, even when he's there with one of his friends.

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Littlefish · 27/08/2015 23:30

Could you afford swimming lessons for him?

I really would encourage you to talk to your GP or school nurse in the near future. it sounds to me like both you and your ds need some support to sort out his eating habits and improve his activity levels.

In the meantime, could you put a limit on screen time, go out for a walk with him every day, and increase the fruit and vegetables in his diet?

Good Luck.

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 30/08/2015 16:57

I'm thinking of getting him some swimming lessons but I doubt he'll want to go to them.

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Littlefish · 30/08/2015 19:01

You sound very defeatist about this. It's important that your son gets some exercise and eats a healthy diet. He is 10 years old and is overweight. You or another adult in the house are in charge of the shopping and cooking. Don't buy junk food. Cook him healthy food. Turn off the broadband. Take away his x box. Do whatever it takes.

Please go and talk to your GP or school nurse about it.

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JennyFromTheNorthEast · 30/08/2015 21:06

If I get swimming lessons for him he's going to them. I've told him time and time again that he is far too lazy and that he should be playing outside or getting some exercise.

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WorldsBiggestGrotbag · 30/08/2015 21:11

How does he get hold of McDonald's and KFC? At 10, you're buying his food, yes?

Littlefish · 30/08/2015 21:15

Sorry Jenny - I didn't mean to be snappy.

I think that telling him that he is far too lazy isn't working and you need to think what positive action you can take with him. Just telling him to go outside isn't enough if his x box is still available all the time. What screen limits do you have in place at the moment? How about saying that for every half hour of exercise he does, he gets the same amount of time on a screen. Would that work? However you do it, I think you need to take charge of the situation.

Can you both go for a bike ride to somewhere he wants to go? How about trampolining together? It sounds like he needs different motivation and someone to do exercise with.

LynetteScavo · 30/08/2015 21:22

It doesn't matter whether he wants to go to swimming lessons or not - he needs to learn to swim, but that's not what you're asking.

No matter what size or shape he is he needs to do some exercise. You say you try to persuade him, but he's 10. Sometimes with DC you have to say "We're doing this now" whether he wants to or not.

Eva50 · 31/08/2015 10:56

It's really, really difficult when you have children who are not naturally sporty and prefer sedentary pursuits. My three would all choose to play their x-boxes, computers or iPads over anything else and to be honest, it would be all too easy to let them so that I can Mumsnet and drink wine coffee in peace. Luckily my older two (19 & 18) have discovered the gym and, being close in age, have always been able to do things together. With ds3 (9) it is up to me to motivate myself to do some sort of activity with him each day.

We are lucky to have a dog so we walk him every afternoon before tea. Ds doesn't always want to but we take his bike, scooter or remote control car (not a ride on one in case anyone thinks we're loaded) to keep him occupied. You could do this without a dog. We swim twice a week (once after school and once at the weekend) ds3 doesn't have lessons I just take him myself and he has learnt as we've gone along. We take flippers and diving sticks or a friend to make it more interesting. We have tried various sports clubs and he quite likes tennis. It's just finding something they enjoy but the motivation has to come from you.

I agree with other posters that you should ask your GP or school nurse for some help with his diet and help him to make healthy choices because this will become harder as he gets older and has more money and independence.

misscph1973 · 31/08/2015 11:39

Eva50, you mention 3 types of electronic devices - could that be the problem, that they just have too many devices? My DCs, 8 and 10, both got a tablet for Christmas last year, and I swear it's the worst present I ever gave them. They are obsessed! There is no way they are getting any more devices.

The trouble with electronic devices is not the devices themselves, it's all the stuff kids COULD be doing while they are using them - they are literally missing out on physical development.

My DD is also 10, and she was very chubby as a toddler. As a 6 year old she had curves! Only this summer has she started to shed the baby fat, all of a sudden she is all long legs, and I am so relieved. We do spend a lot of effort getting them both outdoors as much as possible, we have rabbits and chickens in the garden, and they look after them, and we always go for family walks daily in weekends and holidays. They take swimming lessons, and they have to chose a school clubs that is a physical activity. Device time is mx. 30 min daily. And we don't have puddings in the week and we never have take-outs or ready meals.

Basically you have to fight modern Western culture. We are not designed for it.

Myboyisfat · 22/09/2020 14:15

Waist
My 10 year old boy
Weight is 50 kg
And has a big bum
Height is 130cm
His waist is 180cm
I don't know what to do he plays his game for 7 hours a day and his thigh are so fat and his belly
He wears xxl underwear.

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