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my child is dying

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jesspilks · 20/01/2014 10:50

My teenage son was diagnosed with cancer on boxing day - we thought he had a cold - and it's incurable. Every piece of news we hear is worse than the last one. We have a few months left only. Is there anyone out there going through something like this - or anyone who has lost a child. I thought it might be good for my sanity to start talking and perhaps even writing ... but not sure where to begin. Worried too about how to protect my 11 year old daughter.

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Toomuch2young · 22/01/2014 21:28

Oh goodness I am so so sorry to you and your family.
Really don't have words.
Hope you are all getting lots of support x

SpaceKoala · 22/01/2014 21:32

No clue what to say except for I am so very sorry for you.
Big hug. Can't advise personally but you have come to the right place for support.. X

morethanpotatoprints · 22/01/2014 21:34

I am so very sorry for your family and can't imagine what you must be going through.
You will gain so much support here.
So sorry x

BrickorCleat · 22/01/2014 21:36

So so very sorry, my prayers and wishes for a peaceful time for your family during this tragedy.

belizabus · 22/01/2014 21:37

Hello Jess. My son has cancer too. Are you getting help from CLIC Sargent? What cancer does your boy have? Whereabouts are you? Can you get help from the Teenage Cancer Trust?

ExitPursuedTheRoyalPrude · 22/01/2014 21:40

So sorry. I hope you find some help on here. Xxx

daisydotandgertie · 22/01/2014 21:52

I lost my DH to cancer last year - he also had a very poor prognosis and a very sudden! unexpected diagnosis. I am so very sorry that you are in a similar position with someone so precious. If I can help you in any way, feel free to pm me or post on this thread.

nothruroad · 22/01/2014 22:10

I'm so very sorry to hear this. Wishing you strength. x

MadameJosephine · 22/01/2014 23:06

Oh God, how awful. I'm so sorry, I have a teenage DS myself and can't even imagine how terrible this must be. I hope you get the support you need, for all of you Thanks

ginzillas · 22/01/2014 23:31

Just wanted to say how sorry I am for you and your family. Hugs xx

RhondaJean · 22/01/2014 23:40

I have no idea what to say but I wanted to add my voice to the support. I shall be thinking of you all xxx

friendlymum67 · 22/01/2014 23:42

So, so sorry to hear this - I have a teenage DS and cannot begin to imagine what you are going thro. I hope you can find some comfort and strength from some of the fabulous mnetters on here x

sandgrown · 22/01/2014 23:48

So sad to hear this. Hope your son is well enough to share some happy family experiences in his last few months and to create some lasting memories. It must be so hard not to be able to protect your child. Praying for you and your family .

Lurleene · 22/01/2014 23:56

I'm so sorry. I've been trying to think of appropriate words but can't come up with anything, but I can't close your post without trying. Please come here for support, you will find lots of people there for you day and night.

MavisG · 23/01/2014 00:16

I'm so sorry Jess. How utterly devastating.

minmooch · 23/01/2014 07:49

Have only just seen this. So sorry to read about your son. My son is 18 and was diagnosed with an aggressive malignant brain tumour just days before his 16th birthday. His cancer is now incurable after all the treatment failed to kill off the tumour.

I also have another son (16). It hits the whole family like a battering ram.

Please join us on the children with cancer thread in Children's Health. We offer much support and understanding as all our children are suffering some form of cancer. Go to Topics, click on Health, then Children's Health. The children with cancer thread should be quite high up now as a few of us have recently posted.

Lots of love to you xxxx

candycoatedwaterdrops · 23/01/2014 10:16

I know there aren't any words to comfort you during this difficult time but I wanted to send support. Flowers

Have you heard of/contacted Clic Sargent www.clicsargent.org.uk/ and also the Teenage Cancer Trust www.teenagecancertrust.org/ ? I'm sure they can offer you some specialist support and advice.

MissMilbanke · 23/01/2014 10:22

So so grim and unfair.

My heart goes out to all of you in this position.

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jesspilks · 23/01/2014 11:07

Thank you to everyone for your posts. Really appreciated.Sitting in hospital. I have realised that all that matters is that your kids are well and healthy. Everything else is insignificant. I think I appreciated that before, I hope I did. Thank you again

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Octopus37 · 23/01/2014 12:12

I'm so sorry, sending you lots of love and hoping that you get as much support as possible.

motherinferior · 23/01/2014 12:16

I am very, very sorry.

Clicsargant and the TCT are very good.

Thinking of you.

ColdTeaAgain · 23/01/2014 12:30

I'm so sorry your family are boing through this Jess, I haven't experienced losing a child but I lost my mum to a very aggressive cancer. The day we received the news that there was nothing more that could be done was just devastating.

I think the best way you can look after your DD is be open and honest with her. Ask her if she has any questions about what is happening to her brother. Just let her know its ok to be upset and its ok to talk about it. Thanks

FairPhyllis · 23/01/2014 12:57

So sorry for your son, you and all your family.

Sadly there are many other MNers who have been in your position. I am bumping this in the hope they will see this thread in Active Convos.

pinkhousesarebest · 24/01/2014 11:53

I can't imagine how hard it must have been to type those words. I'm so sorry.

Mama1980 · 24/01/2014 11:55

I'm so sorry to hear this. Sadly I know there are posters here who have children with cancer, I hope by bumping they will see this. X