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Badly burned daughter - an update

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BulletProofMum · 08/04/2012 22:53

A few months ago I shared my story about my daughters horrendous accident. She got caught in a petrol explosion and received 50 % burns. She spent 2 months in intensive care. I thought I'd share an update.

It's been 8 hard months but she's doing brilliantly. Her scars are maturing well. She needs loads of care
: moisturising and massage, silicon dressings and pressure garments. She wears these head to toe including a balaclava. Being out and about is hard due to then stares butmi'm getting used to these now. She's been extremely itchy and sleeps very badly because of this. However even this is improving and for the last 2 nights she slept through. A first since her accident. She had some steroid injections which seem to have helped.

She had developed clots whilst in itu and I was having to inject her twice a day with cleaner ( a type of warfarin). The clots are stable so it was a huge relief to stop having to do this before Christmas.

She's going in for more surgery in June to regraft her right hand and straighten her fingers. They'll also laser her large hypertrophic scar and treat with recell (spray on skin).

Life has been tough butnshe's a happy little girl most the time. It's been tough for me but maybe sharing her wonderful progress with a bunch of strangers with be helpful!

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edam · 08/04/2012 22:56

Wow, your poor dd, that sounds horrendous. So glad things are improving.

mercibucket · 08/04/2012 22:56

I didn't read your original post, but it sounds horrific. I'm so pleased she has made such good progress. All the best with her op and future recovery xx

mercibucket · 08/04/2012 22:56

I didn't read your original post, but it sounds horrific. I'm so pleased she has made such good progress. All the best with her op and future recovery xx

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Wafflepuss · 08/04/2012 22:58

I remember your original thread, your family's experience sounded just awful so I am glad your DD s getting better.

Gumby · 08/04/2012 22:58

Wow so glad she's improving, how old is she?
Please keep us updated xxx

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 08/04/2012 22:58

I remember your original post. I'm glad she's doing well and will keep my fingers crossed for her upcoming surgeries.

Hassled · 08/04/2012 22:59

I read your earlier thread and you've popped into my head from time to time since then - so glad to hear she's a happy little girl and is doing OK.

And you? How are you doing?

BulletProofMum · 08/04/2012 22:59

Thanks - the steps are small and hard to notice. But when I look back she has come so very far. She 's a brave and gorgeous little girl

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Tranquilidade · 08/04/2012 22:59

I too remember your original thread, so glad things are improving for you.

Wishing you and all the family well

Pumpster · 08/04/2012 22:59

Glad she is doing well, what an awful thing to happen.

skidd · 08/04/2012 23:00

Hi BPM, I followed your other threads and I'm glad that things are slowly improving. How are things with your DH? I remember you (understandably) finding it hard to forgive him.

Wafflepuss · 08/04/2012 23:01

If you don't mind me asking, how is your husband and the rest of your family coping?

Wafflepuss · 08/04/2012 23:02

X posted with Skidd...

BulletProofMum · 08/04/2012 23:02

She turned 2 in feb. she was 17 m at the time of the accident. I'm surviving - it's all you can do! It's hard but aa her care gets easier (more sleep, no injections etc) it gets easier. I still have my bad days and the downs catch me unawares. I Focus on being grateful that i still have her.

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Swimminglikeaduck · 08/04/2012 23:02

Havent read your original thread but couldn't read this one without responding. What a Troubled time you must have had, and your poor dd having to go through the tauma and then the treatment. You don't say how old she is, though t o be honest i can't think of a 'better' age, it's horrendous for any child (or adult). Warmest wishes for the best recovery possible and don't forget to give yourself some healing time too.

Eggsits · 08/04/2012 23:03

Gosh - I was only thinking about you and your DD last week, when the lady was badly burned pouring petrol in her kitchen.

So glad to hear that she is improving. How are you? Did you manage to find some sort of peace with your DH?

Please ignore the last bit if it is too nosey, but thank you so much for the update.

Hassled · 08/04/2012 23:04

And with your DH? I remember you were struggling hugely with his responsibility/lack of etc - and I felt for you so much. I just can't imagine having to get through all the issues you had to deal with. Are things moving on OK?

Swimminglikeaduck · 08/04/2012 23:06

Sorry, cross posted. I have a 2 and a bit year old too and it can be hard going without all that. I do hope you have some help.

BulletProofMum · 08/04/2012 23:07

Things with my husband slowly improve. We..'ve been having counselling which helps. We need individual counselling as well though. I still find it hard to forgive but do want to. When I posted before someone said that forgiveness was an active decision. That really resonated with me. For a long time he wasn't really trying so all the care and everything was on me. He was also badly injured so can't do so much. He has taken a long time to be hands on as he was struggling to look at her properly as he couldn't / can't cope with the guilt. It's all improving though and I feel more hopeful that we should make it through.

My boys are wonderful with her Nd help keep life normal

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Hassled · 08/04/2012 23:09

I'm very glad for you - it all sounds like things are going in the right direction. You should be bloody proud of yourself for the way you've coped.

Eggsits · 08/04/2012 23:10

So pleased to hear that you and your family are working through this. I remember reading about things people wished for on their death beds (sorry to be gloomy!) and one was that somone wished they had chosen to be happy. I know in your circumstances it must be very difficult, but it is something I try to remember often.

Much love to your DD.

BulletProofMum · 08/04/2012 23:11

People always say that! You have no choice. There's been plenty of times I've wanted to crawl into a dark hole - you cant't though. I've done nothing that any mother of three wouldn't do.

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Wafflepuss · 08/04/2012 23:12

Am glad too that things are improving for you all, you are so very brave.

BulletProofMum · 08/04/2012 23:12

Thanks eggs its. It's true - I can't turn the clock back and can't dwell so just have to get on with it and try my best to keep the family together as a happy unit.

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