I went to the gp with my daughter on Monday. She has been complaining of having 'drops' after weeing. She has said it for months and this is the 3rd time we'vebeen back. Each time the urine sample has been clear. We have been working on drinking more water, sitting on the loo for longer, more careful wiping etc.
On sat night she woke up in the middle of the night screaming because her 'ninny' hurt. I washed it gently and put on sudocreme but decided that on Monday (inset day) i would take her back to see the nurse.
Oh god, not sure how to say this.
She decided to examine her and pretty much recoiled in horror when she parted her labia.
She has no vaginal opening.
How the hell did I not know this??? What kind of mother am I?? What kind of WOMAN am I not to see an absence of such basic anatomy???
The nurse told me to look and that whole area (once you part the labia majore) is completely smooth. There isn't even a hint of an opening. Nada.
Of course I wanted to burst in to tears in shock but I had both kids there and had to stay calmish. I couldn't help some tears springing out but brushed them away saying I got hair in my eyes.
The nurse went to get the gp and on the way went to see the midwife who said they never check the inside of the labia because people don't like any intimate activity with their babies. WTF??? She also said that in babies the opening is often very small or tucked away so she wasn't surprised I didn't notice, especially as she has been pt since before 2 and fiercely independent.
The gp came in and examined her which, of course, upset DD and so that upset me. She said that there is no opening and she was going to get her referred urgently.
The best case scenario seems to be that this is a imperforate hymen where the hymen covers the vaginal entrance but this should be higher up, not leaving her completely smooth.
The other best case scenario is that her labia minori (sp?) have fused but there is no evidence of this so unlikely.
Both of these options mean surgery to cut her open and create a permanent opening. Hideous to contemplate but ineveitable whatever the outcome.
Even worse is the graded scale of what else could be going on... they are going to have to give her an ultrasound to see if she has any actual vagina, vaginal passage, cervix, uterus and ovaries. She may be missing any or all of those.
My poor poor little girl. I can't even contemplate that worst case scenario. All she has ever wanted to be is a Mummy. That is all she wants to do. How can I even think about a future where she can't have kids? Where she can't have sexual relations? Where she may have to go through reconstructive surgery and use an expander to try and make the skin graft from her buttocks work as a functional vagina??
Does ANYONE know of anyone who has gone through this?
We are waiting for a referral to come through asap and the GP is chasing again today.
K