Am now crapping myself with worry (very long)

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DS has recurrent dislocated elbow. We've probably had to take him to A and E eight times in his life (he's 2.3) in his life to have it popped back in. The last 3 times he's done it, its been in circumstances that probably sounded a bit implausible.

One time, he pulled it out himself by tugging at his arm trying to pull his coat off.

The last time it happened, he was being cared for by my sister as me and my DH were away for the night and his 3 year old sister did it by pulling him off a toy because she wanted a turn.

Anyway...I got a call today one of the local health visitors today. She wants to see me next week to see if there is 'anything she can do to help' although she admitted to me on the phone that this wouldn't be any kind of medical help.

I asked her what had trigged the referral, and she said that the hospital emails them whenever a child comes into A&E with an accident, and that it is all routine, etc.

I don't believe her. He's obviously been referred to them because they suspect child abuse.

My worries are this:

A) my ds is now on some kind of social services list and is in the system and it's going to be difficult to convince them that we are not pulling his elbow out on purpose.
B) the health visitor lied to me about the circumstances of the referral (i really don't believe they have the resources to visit every family who turn up to A&E) and she is not going to be honest with me about other things.

I'm usually a very level headed person, but I'm really anxious about where this is all going.

Does anyone have any words of wisdom to offer at all?

My worries are this:

A) my son is on some kind of social services 'list'

I personally would take him to GP becaus eit is unusual, he may have something like hpo mobilibity.

I thought I'd update you on the GP visit.

I took DS today and when I explained to the GP why I was there, she said that the health visitor had called and spoken to her yesterday!

I told the GP how I felt about my contact with the HV, what she'd said to me and how I thought it had been handled quite badly.

She said to me that that sounded very familiar, because she had though the HV was a bit odd when she spoke to her on the phone and that, although she told her (my GP) that she knew my family and they had no worries, the HV then went on to tell her what she should be doing about it all.

Anyway, the GP is going to refer my son to the local Orthapedic unit, but she says they may decline the referral as the problem is so common and he's always been seen by a paediatrician.

She is also going to call the HV and tell her that they have no concerns
about DS and that should be an end to it.

I'm so relieved. I didn't realise how stressed I was about it until I saw the GP. I'm so pleased that it's not just me who thinks the HV is a bloody
idiot. Phew!

What a relief. Did you cry? The HV sounds like she needs sorting out (in the nicest sense of the word of course).

I didn't cry, but I gave DS a very big hug and practically skipped down the road out of the doctor's.

The GP called the HV a busybody. Se said that although phone calls have to be made after A&E visits, they have to be done in a sensitive manner and the HV was jumping the gun, especially as she hadn't even met me or my children. I agreed!