Ds still bed wetting at 10 years old.....Help please

[AnyoneForPimms]

I hope someone here can give me some help or advise.
My ds who has just turned 10 is still bedwetting once or twice a week. He is very upset and embaressed about it and his younger sisters tease him. I feel really terrible but I just don't know what to do for him.
I really want to put an end to it not just for me who has to do the washing but for him.
Does anyone have any advise or have you been in the same situation? Please

[23balloons]

Hi

My ds1 was () a bedwetter - just smiling at the was as it is still very early days! He is 10 also. I took him to the doctors in the summer hols & was referred to eurnsis (not sure about spelling) nurse attached to his school.

We first had to keep detailed notes of what & when he drank & when he went to the toilet. I had to buy a jug and measure how much wee he did at once especially when he was desperate. An average child should be able to hold 30ml x age + 30ml so a 10 year old should hold 330ml in bladder before needing the toilet. Often ds could only hold 100ml. the max he ever held was 200ml so his bladder needed serious stretching.

After a few visits we got a bed alarm but it was a disaster - a plastic sheet under the sheet which reacted to every drop of sweat & drove him crazy. He then got a different type of alarm, at first he resisted but when he realised it was here to stay he began to comply. We took it away around 10 days ago and so far dry every night. He was wet 7 nights out of 7 before we sought help so it really is a breakthrough in our case. HTH

[23balloons]

forgot to say - we were also told he had to mainly drink during the day. Only one cup of milk or water with dinner & no more drinks before bed.

[notnowbernard]

Yes, it's things like 'sleepovers' and Brownie camps etc that got me stressing, really

Just hated the thought of my baby DD having to deal with that on her own (or with an adult other than me or DP)

And it is hard when they've got younger siblings who are dry... DD2 dry at night before 3 also

Hope you are reassured by these posts, OP

[AnyoneForPimms]

Thanks for all the advise. It's good to know we are not alone.
I had to take him to doctors at the beginning of the week for a chest infection. I mentioned it much to my sons embarrassment but the doctor was really kind.
He is going back on Tuesday with a wee sample to check for infection and we will take it from there.
He has been better this week.
He's just had a new bed and his room decorated ( more grown up) and until I have got him a new mattress protector he is wearing pyjama pants ( under protest) he's been dry for 4 nights now but he has been dry for a couple of weeks in the past then back to wet every night.
As for sisters who were both dry at night from age 3/4 they are not too bad. They have been spoken to but I do catch the odd comment here and there. I don't put up with it.

[maltesers]

My DS wet the bed till 7 yrs. Health Visitor always use dot say :
No fruit juice or squash of any kind with supper and after.
Only milk or water before during or after evening meal.
No drink at all an hour before bed. Wake him maybe as you go to bed later to get up and pee.

Havnt read all this thread but has anyone mentioned that there are some tablets the GP can give you that stop the kidneys producing so much urine at night time. ??
Especially if he wants to do a sleep over etc.
Wishing you lots of luck.
Be patient and loving and tell those mean sisters that their unkindness is totally disgraceful and out of order.

[AnyoneForPimms]

They know, they know

[clarie]

AnyoneForPimms, I avoid artificial sweeteners in everything, my children drink water mostly (at their request), milk, fresh juice or Full sugar Ribena. I know a lot of people don't agree with that but I make it really weak, they have it with meals and brush their teeth twice a day and we only visit the sweet shop once a week so I'm not worried about the sugar content.

If you google the artificial sweeteners they can have lots of side effects, cutting them out has changed my life.

Good luck, I'm sure he'll soon grow out of it.

[suesfault]

I can second trying to get referred to the enuresis clinic. Local one here is run by the school nurse (she covers all schools in the area not just local one) and she was great. Really good advice, helped with filling in charts.

We're not quite there yet but I can see a bit of light at the end of the tunnel.

The things which seem to have worked are two wees before bed, no fizzy drinks (didn't do that anyway) and no brown drinks so choc. milkshake and hot choc. are out.

It taken 5 months to go from wetting twice every night to wetting once a week or less. Its been hard with all the washing but I really recommend a clinic.

[BaroqueAroundTheClock]

actually - just a quickie (DS3 is waiting for me in his bed - suefaults post re the hot chocolate has made me think. If they do like a hot drink (1hr + before bed) - then DS1 has discovered herbal teas. He feels like a proper grown up drinking them - and they're not full of shite - or the brown as mentioned by sue

[jooseyfruit]

glad things are moving along for you.

Advice given to us at clinic and in Alicia Eaton book is to not use dry night pants. The rationale being that they subconsciously give ds 'permission' to wet at night because he has the 'protection' of the pants. IYSWIM .

[AnyoneForPimms]

Funnily enough the pants have been dry!

[QuincyMincemeat]

that's brilliant. did you have a look at the book? (Joosey here by the way)